daisy love Posted May 1, 2011 Posted May 1, 2011 My lover man was supposed to come to town this weekend and stay with me. At the last minute, WIFE decided she wanted to come along!! UGH!! I'm about it, but guess what? It provides an opportunity. I've never seen what she looks like. I know where they are staying in The City. Should I just happen to run into them? My BFF says we should do it tonite, but we're going out partying. I know we will get too wasted. I might be too hungover tomorrow, but maybe not if I decide now. I really don't think lover would mind. I think he might like it!! Would you do it?
Irishlove Posted May 1, 2011 Posted May 1, 2011 Why do that to his wife? She's not stupid. MM might think you are foolish and if you are wasted that makes you look worse. Not a good idea
fooled once Posted May 1, 2011 Posted May 1, 2011 My lover man was supposed to come to town this weekend and stay with me. At the last minute, WIFE decided she wanted to come along!! UGH!! I'm about it, but guess what? It provides an opportunity. I've never seen what she looks like. I know where they are staying in The City. Should I just happen to run into them? My BFF says we should do it tonite, but we're going out partying. I know we will get too wasted. I might be too hungover tomorrow, but maybe not if I decide now. I really don't think lover would mind. I think he might like it!! Would you do it? Go for it Daisy You might never get this chance again to check her out. Go see what the competition looks like. Make sure you are dressed really sexy too!! And if you can, get a really hot guy to be on your arm. Maybe it will make your lover man realize how hot you are and get his tail in gear and get that divorce! So get waxed, mani-pedi, facial, hair done, makeup done and a really sexy slinky dress and go find them. Show him what he is missing by not being with you full time!
Irishlove Posted May 1, 2011 Posted May 1, 2011 Go for it Daisy You might never get this chance again to check her out. Go see what the competition looks like. Make sure you are dressed really sexy too!! And if you can, get a really hot guy to be on your arm. Maybe it will make your lover man realize how hot you are and get his tail in gear and get that divorce! So get waxed, mani-pedi, facial, hair done, makeup done and a really sexy slinky dress and go find them. Show him what he is missing by not being with you full time! Yea I guess if you are just a fk buddy it doesn't matter how trashy you look. If you're not trying to win his heart. I know I won my man by not being out there by being a lady and having couth. I already know I'm better than the wife but that's not my call nor does it matter. SHe may behave and have couth.
Rose1977 Posted May 1, 2011 Posted May 1, 2011 Go for it Daisy You might never get this chance again to check her out. Go see what the competition looks like. Make sure you are dressed really sexy too!! And if you can, get a really hot guy to be on your arm. Maybe it will make your lover man realize how hot you are and get his tail in gear and get that divorce! So get waxed, mani-pedi, facial, hair done, makeup done and a really sexy slinky dress and go find them. Show him what he is missing by not being with you full time! What she said. I think it's high time to force a DDay. I do not think it will be as complicated as you make it out to be. You have already stated they did not promise fidelity in their M vows, so I do not think this will come to a shock to her.
BB07 Posted May 1, 2011 Posted May 1, 2011 You know........if it wouldn't be such a nasty thing to do to his wife, I'd say do it. Why..........because I think if you did you'd get a reality fix on what kind of man your mm really is daisy. He is one that will throw you under the bus and run over you more than once. With every post you make, you continue to show your lack of maturity and how skilled you are at game playing, just like your mm. You two really do deserve each other, it's just too bad that his wife is going to have to suffer in the short term for it. Hopefully she will have a quick and painless recovery.
whichwayisup Posted May 1, 2011 Posted May 1, 2011 Go get smashed drunk and run into them (aka stalk them!!) and then go up to MM's wife, tell her that you are having sex with her husband and would she mind if you took him off her hands for the rest of the night...
whichwayisup Posted May 1, 2011 Posted May 1, 2011 What she said. I think it's high time to force a DDay. I do not think it will be as complicated as you make it out to be. You have already stated they did not promise fidelity in their M vows, so I do not think this will come to a shock to her. Yup and for all we know, the wife has her own OM on the side and is getting some action too. Why should MM get to have that treat of someone on the side and not his wife too?
Rose1977 Posted May 1, 2011 Posted May 1, 2011 Go get smashed drunk and run into them (aka stalk them!!) and then go up to MM's wife, tell her that you are having sex with her husband and would she mind if you took him off her hands for the rest of the night... Oh WWIU I think a better way to handle this would be to walk up to W with a bewildered look on her face and scream hysterically "WHAT ARE YOU DOING WITH MY STUDMUFFIN?". At least W would have a funny story to tell her friends about Dday.
twinsmom Posted May 1, 2011 Posted May 1, 2011 Well, if you did, then I suppose you would know if she really IS fat and ugly, as you've said before.
fooled once Posted May 1, 2011 Posted May 1, 2011 Yea I guess if you are just a fk buddy it doesn't matter how trashy you look. If you're not trying to win his heart. I know I won my man by not being out there by being a lady and having couth. I already know I'm better than the wife but that's not my call nor does it matter. SHe may behave and have couth. Actually, she has been his OW for 5 years I believe. Who said anything about being a f*ck buddy? You "won" a MM? How is that working for you? Last I recall, he dumped you and told you a whole bunch of mean and nasty things. Oh wait, you are back with him right? And you are better than the wife? Man, you sure have no ego issues now do you? Not sure why you are so offended by my post to SOMEONE ELSE. You yourself talk incessently about how you have no problem getting a guy, so many want to date you, how you are so good looking and just any man's dream....but you are back with a Married man who told you he never loved you, wanted you out of his life. On April 5, you said he had 10 days to finalize his divorce...or you were done. And yet...here you sit, almost 30 days later. So don't throw stones at Daisy. She is at least staying true to her man and making the most of it.
Rose1977 Posted May 1, 2011 Posted May 1, 2011 Yea I guess if you are just a fk buddy it doesn't matter how trashy you look. If you're not trying to win his heart. I know I won my man by not being out there by being a lady and having couth. I already know I'm better than the wife but that's not my call nor does it matter. SHe may behave and have couth. What makes you better than anyone? I'm being serious. I am 33 years old and have yet to determine what makes one person "better" than another. This thread is so confusing.
whichwayisup Posted May 1, 2011 Posted May 1, 2011 My lover man was supposed to come to town this weekend and stay with me. At the last minute, WIFE decided she wanted to come along!! UGH!! I'm about it, but guess what? It provides an opportunity. I've never seen what she looks like. I know where they are staying in The City. Should I just happen to run into them? My BFF says we should do it tonite, but we're going out partying. I know we will get too wasted. I might be too hungover tomorrow, but maybe not if I decide now. I really don't think lover would mind. I think he might like it!! Would you do it? Okay, this isn't "true love", it's "true lust". If you truly loved him, you wouldn't compromise him and put him in a spot where he will be busted with his wife. You would respect his boundries, and chill out, not act so jealous. That's what this is all about. You can't stand the thought of him spending time with his wife..Your posts(s) SCREAM of insecurity and fear of losing him, that's probably why you're so ebrasive and "in your face" when you post. Anyway, if you choose to do this, drunk or not, be prepared for your MM to tell his wife that you're a stalker, that you harrass him and that you're crazy, won't leave him alone. He will throw you under the bus faster than you can say BOO! You will suffer consquences and feel very foolish. And probably lose him too.
thomasb Posted May 1, 2011 Posted May 1, 2011 You know........if it wouldn't be such a nasty thing to do to his wife, I'd say do it. Why..........because I think if you did you'd get a reality fix on what kind of man your mm really is daisy. He is one that will throw you under the bus and run over you more than once. With every post you make, you continue to show your lack of maturity and how skilled you are at game playing, just like your mm. You two really do deserve each other, it's just too bad that his wife is going to have to suffer in the short term for it. Hopefully she will have a quick and painless recovery. What she said!
Carrot2000 Posted May 1, 2011 Posted May 1, 2011 Co-signing WWIU. If you want to throw away five years in a matter of seconds, go ahead. Oh, and grow up. If you're going to be an OW, stay in your lane and stay out of MM's "real" life.
TurboGirl Posted May 1, 2011 Posted May 1, 2011 My first thought was OOO so YOU, the OP are so important that your wonderful MM couldn't come up with a reason to ditch the W this weekend, huh? He's just sooooo into you, and sooooooo focused, that he can't muster up some of that charm & smooze... enough to bs the wife that he has to see clients or his buddies or WHATEVER, so he can spend time with you? That is completely lame, the W wants to tag along. OP, you are not first in his life... settling for crumbs. Hopefully you decided not to go & "run into him" somewhere. That would be really immature and I would bet that you would not like the outcome. If he couldn't say "NO" to the wife about coming to town this weekend, you can bet that he'll toss you to the curb if you make a fuss in front of his W.
bloppy Posted May 1, 2011 Posted May 1, 2011 How old are you? That sounds like something a teenager would do. I can't imagine being so heartless & cruel to someone . She hasn't done anything to you & probably doesn't even know you exist. I think this is the sickest thing I have ever read.
jj33 Posted May 1, 2011 Posted May 1, 2011 Daisy I can only echo what the others have said no I wouldnt do it. I have met xMMs wife many times and regardless of what I think of her (and its not good) I would never, even when we were together have purposely bumped into them and I had plenty of opportunity. As someone else said, if you really loved him you wouldnt want to put him in that situation. And if he wants you to bump into him then hes playing more games than most.
Spark1111 Posted May 1, 2011 Posted May 1, 2011 Daisy, i perdonally think you should dress down and follow them incognito. It is the best opportunity you may have to see if they are really as miserable as he portrays to you. It's an opportunity for you to tail them and witness how they interact with each other. Maybe you will discover some truth for yourself here. I know my H's xOW showed up on a few occasions in my life to check me out. I did not know she was the OW. But of course, my H did. He acted so differently around me when he knew she was there. He did not want her to see we actually had a decent marriage. Go for it. You may learn something.
JamieA Posted May 2, 2011 Posted May 2, 2011 Daisy, i perdonally think you should dress down and follow them incognito. It is the best opportunity you may have to see if they are really as miserable as he portrays to you. It's an opportunity for you to tail them and witness how they interact with each other. Maybe you will discover some truth for yourself here. I know my H's xOW showed up on a few occasions in my life to check me out. I did not know she was the OW. But of course, my H did. He acted so differently around me when he knew she was there. He did not want her to see we actually had a decent marriage. Go for it. You may learn something. This is an excellant idea! Probably too late now but I think you could learn something if you did that. Either to see how great they interacted or to see him looking like he didnt want to be with her. I wonder why you posted this question to the forum and haven't returned to read answers & respond to anyone. Did you really want our feedback on this or just wanted to put the question out there to come back after the weekend to see the responses?
whichwayisup Posted May 2, 2011 Posted May 2, 2011 I wonder why you posted this question to the forum and haven't returned to read answers & respond to anyone. Did you really want our feedback on this or just wanted to put the question out there to come back after the weekend to see the responses? My guess is, and just being honest here, Daisy probably won't come back and post an update if she followed through on her plan if things turned negative and not in her favour. I say this because of her attitude of being SO SURE that she thinks MM is going to leave his W for her, that he loves her more than anything, it's doubtful she'd post and say everybody here was right and admit that her MM is just like many other MM...Not follow through and change their minds.
Author daisy love Posted May 2, 2011 Author Posted May 2, 2011 My guess is, and just being honest here, Daisy probably won't come back and post an update if she followed through on her plan if things turned negative and not in her favour. I say this because of her attitude of being SO SURE that she thinks MM is going to leave his W for her, that he loves her more than anything, it's doubtful she'd post and say everybody here was right and admit that her MM is just like many other MM...Not follow through and change their minds. GEEZE!!!!! If I didn't come back to update, it would be because some of you are so UNBELIEVEABLY cruel!! If you MUST know.........Wife went to visit friends in Jersey. He stayed with ME!!!
bentnotbroken Posted May 2, 2011 Posted May 2, 2011 GEEZE!!!!! If I didn't come back to update, it would be because some of you are so UNBELIEVEABLY cruel!! If you MUST know.........Wife went to visit friends in Jersey. He stayed with ME!!! Seems about par for the course, the cowardly manner things are handled.
BB07 Posted May 2, 2011 Posted May 2, 2011 GEEZE!!!!! If I didn't come back to update, it would be because some of you are so UNBELIEVEABLY cruel!! If you MUST know.........Wife went to visit friends in Jersey. He stayed with ME!!! Oh Daisy........you come off yourself as UNBELIEVABLY immature and yes naive and very childish when you stomp your feet in a tantrum. I've said it before.........and I'll say it again, your complete and total lack of acknowledging that you might not be in the position of power here that you think you are will cause you to have a long way to fall if things don't pan out as you think they will. Your posts indicate to us that you don't value what you are on the inside and that you think your looks and sex appeal are things of substance and how good you are in the sack are what truly matters in life. You need to grow up hon and look at the reality of the situation you are in.
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