Jilliansain Posted April 30, 2011 Posted April 30, 2011 Me and my best friend have been friends ever since we were little we met in 1st grade and have been friends ever since, but now I am rethinking the whole friendship because A guy I was going out with that treated me really bad and broke my heart is now talking to her ( he never met her in person and he has never talked to her he just knew her from me telling him about her) well he just added her off my Facebook before we even broke up and told her your my girlfriends best friend right? and then went onto tell her a lot of mean stuff about me and then told her we weren't dating anymore before I even knew about it , and he also tries to talk to all my my other friends too.Well I told my friend not to talk to him , but she does anyways and it's like she doesn't even care about my feelings . She was like why can't I be his friend and still be your best friend , and then she told me she liked him a little, and then she told me that she has tried to get him to leave her alone but that he wont , and I just don't understand why he picked my best friend out of all the girls in the world to be friends with and why she is letting him be her friend even though she knows how I feel.It seems like he is trying to break up our friendship or something and idk why! , but he is a very controlling guy.now I know he is the one who started talking to her , but if she was a good friend wouldn't she just ignore him?They weren't friends before me and my boyfriend dated , and they weren't friends while we were dating.So why do they have to be friends now they don't even know each other.I have told my friend everything he has done to me , and she still talks to him , and it hurts.
Professor X Posted May 1, 2011 Posted May 1, 2011 All I can tell is that friends come and go. Few people manage to keep their childhood friends as they grow, but most don't. Just don't blame yourself. She betrays you because she wants you; Like you said, why would she be talking to him knowing all the bad things he has done to you? I personally don't have the answers for you, cause I can, based on words alone, hate a person to death (if the words come out of a friends mouth).
Author Jilliansain Posted May 2, 2011 Author Posted May 2, 2011 Jillian--How old are you and your friends? My boyfriend is 21.I am 18 and my friend is 19.
Sunstar Posted May 2, 2011 Posted May 2, 2011 Apart from that it's not very appropriate for a (best) friend to do that, I'm wondering the following. If she knows how badly your ex treated you and that he is controlling, then why exactly does she like him? Isn't she afraid he will treat her the same as he did with you?
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