BSG81 Posted April 30, 2011 Posted April 30, 2011 Hello to all, Two-weeks ago I told my husband I wanted a divorice. He begged and pleaded that I not split up our family ( I have a 10 month old daughter), offered to go to counseling, and swore he would change. He is an emotional state right now, and is hurting deeply. In order to ease the tension and get the point across that I was certain I wanted a divorice, I moved in with my siser and have been living there for 12 days. I alternate visits with him, I take and pick up and drop off our 10 month old baby. We are not having any issues with sharing the custody of our baby. He is living in the house we bought together, the only time we see each is other when we are swapping the baby inside his home. The only time we communicate is when it has to do with arranging who is caring for our baby. I have moved most of my clothing out of the house, I go to the house to pick up mail, or more of my belongings when is he at work. Recently he has cleaned up the whole house. The house is beggining to look more like his place (which I feel is a good thing). I have made a rule, to not clean-up or rearrange his home. My husband is crushed over my decision for divorice and I really want to communicate with him in the healthiest way possible. I'm usure as to rather or not I should take down the photos of him and I, our wedding photos, vacation, on wall etc. The only reason, I was considering removing our family photos, is because Im worried these images of us will make him even sadder but at the same time, I dont know if perhaps it would be healthier to allow him to maintain total control of his home--and that if I took down our photos, I may be sending a message, that I still perceive his home, as our home. In other words, I wouldnt walk into a friends house and move or take down pictures etc. Please anyone with advice as to how I can help make this easy and healthy as possible on both of us would be so helpful.
NXS Posted April 30, 2011 Posted April 30, 2011 I think it would be a bad move and he would probably be annoyed about it.
Meatballsmom Posted May 1, 2011 Posted May 1, 2011 I can see answers in both directions. It might help if you provided more detail as to why you are so determined to D so shortly after your childs birth
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