irc333 Posted April 30, 2011 Posted April 30, 2011 when you start corresponding with someone online, they won't even give you their first name? "Hello, my name is Bill and you are?" "Nice to meet you Bill, but I prefer not to say right now" One even just gave me her first initial, and that's it. Anyone agree, that's not normal?
sanskrit Posted April 30, 2011 Posted April 30, 2011 Normal, not normal, avoid this by avoiding texting and IM entirely, ask for the phone number in the second Email and give them yours. If they don't give it, decide whether to give them a third Email or not. On the first call, ask them out for a specific date that is easy for them to do (i.e. not a "big deal"), close to their area, and something light and fun that their profile indicates they will enjoy. If they say "no" to the date, and don't suggest an alternate date or at least hint at when they will be free to meet in person, move on to other options. I promise this method will a) keep you sane, b) lead to more dates faster c) weed out lots of undesirables.
AstroZombie138 Posted April 30, 2011 Posted April 30, 2011 How are you meeting these people? Chat room? Online dating site?
NicoleM Posted May 1, 2011 Posted May 1, 2011 I must admit that is a little weird. Are they hiding from the FBI??
jane100 Posted May 1, 2011 Posted May 1, 2011 Some people like to say their name upfront on an online dating forum. Some people don't. . I usually use an initial for a couple of messages, then if it continues I will sign my name. And I find some guys are the same. Its never really been an issue for me or anyone else i've come across. So I don't know why people think its so weird . Here on LS people don't use their first real names much I notice, for example.
Survivor12 Posted May 1, 2011 Posted May 1, 2011 Although I have never done online dating, I will say that I probably would be reluctant to give my real name online because it is rather unique and potentially identifiable and could easily come up in an online search. It's not that I have anything to hide, I am just very protective of my privacy.
Banker Chick Posted May 1, 2011 Posted May 1, 2011 Here on LS people don't use their first real names much I notice, for example. But this isn't a dating forum. Here you'd want to remain anonymous for all sorts of reasons not related to dating. Not the same situation. I did online dating for quite some time. I can't remember refusing to divulge my name. What's the point? I'd be more careful letting them know the area in which I lived but not just my common first name. I think sometimes people take things a little too far.
jane100 Posted May 1, 2011 Posted May 1, 2011 Although I have never done online dating, I will say that I probably would be reluctant to give my real name online because it is rather unique and potentially identifiable and could easily come up in an online search. It's not that I have anything to hide, I am just very protective of my privacy. Me too. I have a very unusual first name which I do not use even on LS.
blueskyday Posted May 1, 2011 Posted May 1, 2011 I would just give them a nickname if I'm not sure...one that's a derivative of my actual first name...like "Gi-gi" for Georgia (not my name) But, why not give out a first name? When I meet men in person, I introduce myself by name....Not good to start out in a suspicious way...Like the idea of getting a quick date/meet-up going. One doesn't give out much information until they get a better feel about the person. So many people say too much in emails when they don't know someone yet. Maybe that's why some don't want to give out their names, but how about just not giving out a ton of other info instead...
zengirl Posted May 1, 2011 Posted May 1, 2011 when you start corresponding with someone online, they won't even give you their first name? "Hello, my name is Bill and you are?" "Nice to meet you Bill, but I prefer not to say right now" One even just gave me her first initial, and that's it. Anyone agree, that's not normal? I suppose it depends how/where this is happening, but yes, generally, odd. My dating profile has my first name (well a nickname I usually go by, but not for privacy reasons but because that's what people generally call me) in it. I'd not give out my full name unless I was comfortable enough with someone to go on a date, but it'd be weird to give no name at all. However, if you're just cold-chatting them, that may be a sign they really don't want to talk to you/don't feel comfortable. If it's in a message I think it's more odd than via a chat function. But I turn off my chat function because mostly guys who chat message you are weird and creepy.
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