peazz Posted April 30, 2011 Posted April 30, 2011 I broke up with my gf of a year and a half, 5 days ago because we she changed.... she showed no interest in me and i was getting all the signals that she wanted to break up and she was just doing it slowly slowly coz i really never gave her a reason to break up with me.. i never hurt her and i was always there for her (she even told me once she doesnt like the fact that she has me for granted) i really love her and i know she does too but she has a difficulty in expressing her self.. before i told her to break up we were on a break for 2 weeks with almost no contact and she didnt once tell me how she feels about me or show me something positive towards our relationship.. Ii miss her everyday more and more and i dont know whether or not is right to text her and tell her that "i miss u"... Please help me! im 24 and she is 21.. Btw she wanted the break coz she said she needed some time to relax, she was so tierd from work and college and she needed time to take care of her self a lil bit and sleep well etc she never said it was about us even tho everything shows that it was about us... i feel that her reason were just execuses coz she really doesnt have a reason to break up with me (even if she had she never told me about it) im not pushy and im very open and i always tell her if i do something wrong she should tell me coz noones perfect and i want to be perfect for her..
Survivor12 Posted April 30, 2011 Posted April 30, 2011 "I broke up with my gf of a year and a half, 5 days ago because we she changed.... she showed no interest in me and i was getting all the signals that she wanted to break up and she was just doing it slowly slowly coz i really never gave her a reason to break up with me" I am sorry that you are hurting, but the fact is that even if you weren't broken up, you would still be missing how things used to be between you. Look, no one is perfect and in by trying to be perfect for her, you set yourself up to be taken for granted and continuing to contact her, telling her that you still care for her and miss her is only going to push her further away--so DON'T. If there is any chance at all that she does want to be with you, one thing is certain, she doesn't want you to be a doormat. So, forget about trying to be "perfect for her" and just be yourself.
Author peazz Posted April 30, 2011 Author Posted April 30, 2011 you guys are awesome!!! thank you very much for the replies!! Well i did text her and i told her "i miss u girl..!". i dont know if it was wrong or right but i did it and you know what i dont care.. im a guy that likes to express his feelings.. its been 5 hours now and no reply from her.. i dont know what does it mean exactly but i will be cool and calm, at least i try my best.. it usually hits me when im alone in the mornings and nights i just cry.. i went through alot in my life, my life in general was a mess and i always look after the people that i love and i always think of the people that i love before me.. it makes me happy making people happy... i have so much love in me to give and non of my gfs till now really appreciate it. i never had the love i really needed from childhood coz i was always fighting to bring money home, be next to my six brothers and 1 sister and always give love but never get it in return... all i need is that one person to give me her everything, i need a girl that would die for me, and as a return i would never allow anything bad to happen to her... i have a strong character... id give my all and even more to this one girl that would just stand by my side.. she was this girl and i always was next to her... always made sure she was with a smile on her face coz that would be my greatest happyness just look at her smile and feel good (with or without me). i know my mistake is giving without her earning it, i was just giving coz she was all i want... i just want her to be happy with or without me! wish tho she could be the person i feel in love with... if only things were clearer about what she feels about me... it would make things alot easier... any more advises would really help me guys!! Thank you for caring!
Author peazz Posted April 30, 2011 Author Posted April 30, 2011 its hard for me to just turn my back and not text her and have a no contact rule.. but i do get your point and thats what im trying to do... btw she still has some of my stuff and still didnt remove the facebook relationship status. does that mean anything?
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