Shorty00 Posted April 30, 2011 Posted April 30, 2011 Okay. Here is the situation. I work with a guy that is 5 years younger. The age difference does not concern me at all. The wingman & i are "kinda" close and generally email nearly everyday. However, i have no romantic interest with the wingman at all. Anyways... In every conversation, the WM always brings up the "subject" and we end up ending the day discussing the "subject" The WM and the Subject are very close and are moving in with eachother. One day the wingman asked if i would consider dating the subject. I said maybe and the WM assumed it as a yes - i didnt correct him. Another conversation the WM asked WHY i dont go for subject - my response was why doesnt he go for me? WM: His shy and needs you to talk to him. ME: Right. We both know i dont do that. - I do talk to the subject on regular basis as we work together and at times email eachother. NB: I am a confident woman and never had to approach any guy that i have an interest in (Sorry - sounds abit vain) My question: What is the purpose of the WM? does the subject have feelings for me? Generally, i can read these things and i cant seem to read the subject! frustrating as i am interested.
thatdog Posted April 30, 2011 Posted April 30, 2011 If wingman and subject are close friends then I'd say it's pretty obvious he knows S is interested. I think WM is on the level here and telling you the truth. If you don't know S that well you have no idea about his past etc. It is highly likely that he IS too shy to approach you for whatever reason (might also be due to you working together), so if you do actually like him then just ******* swallow your pride and ask him out. If you're too vain to even do that then you don't deserve him.
Author Shorty00 Posted April 30, 2011 Author Posted April 30, 2011 Honestly, when it comes to relationship - i am not confident. I wouldnt know where to start. I try to start conversations with S and it all good and casual. However, i think he stops himself when we talk - as he sits next to WM i think he gets shyer (if possible) with the WM around. I did give the WM the confirmation that i am game and willing to give this a shot - Is this not enough? ------------- Also to add - he cant be that shy, considering i saw photos of him and this girl hugging on FB. This was placed on the WM profile pick ----------- I am getting mixed signals. IF the WM told be direct that the S likes me than i would consider asking him out for a coffee... There must be a bros code not to confirm or deny anything... At this stage - i dont know if they are just playing....
Author Shorty00 Posted April 30, 2011 Author Posted April 30, 2011 I was going too - than i started seeing post from the WM & S about some girl... in addition with the picture - I belv i have missed my chance. However the WM still continues to tease the S & I together and neither one of us tells him to shut up. LOL So, no i havent asked the WM directly. - I need to know if this is a guys way of messing around as they have been seeing me with a male friend at work, to which the WM has questioned my interest in my friend. Suddenly this girl is introduced. It all to confusing...... for me anyways... i have out of dating game for a VERY LONG TIME.... P.S thanks so much for your feedback
thatdog Posted April 30, 2011 Posted April 30, 2011 err. yeah. I don't think any of what you posted matters at all. you have a good rapport with WM so use it and ask directly what the deal is. You can ask as many questions as you like on here and we can all speculate but you have a very easy and obvious way to find out without causing any trouble or awkwardness. so DO IT
Cee Posted April 30, 2011 Posted April 30, 2011 Wingman's job has been done a long time ago. The ball is in your (and the subject's) court. Somebody has got to ask somebody out. I played wingman before for people and it never works. Either the guy or the girl flake on the coffee date. A wingman is simply there to boost your confidence, not hold your hand and make the date for you. Either ask him for coffee or move on. Too bad you aren't interested in dating the wingman, that'd be your most likely option. You already have great rapport.
Author Shorty00 Posted May 1, 2011 Author Posted May 1, 2011 err. yeah. I don't think any of what you posted matters at all. you have a good rapport with WM so use it and ask directly what the deal is. You can ask as many questions as you like on here and we can all speculate but you have a very easy and obvious way to find out without causing any trouble or awkwardness. so DO IT Thank you. I will do that.... aye? although i will still vent here! LOL - sorry in advance. :p:p:p
Author Shorty00 Posted May 1, 2011 Author Posted May 1, 2011 Wingman's job has been done a long time ago. The ball is in your (and the subject's) court. Somebody has got to ask somebody out. I played wingman before for people and it never works. Either the guy or the girl flake on the coffee date. A wingman is simply there to boost your confidence, not hold your hand and make the date for you. Either ask him for coffee or move on. Too bad you aren't interested in dating the wingman, that'd be your most likely option. You already have great rapport. Thanks. I agree - the WM is a great source of information So, will the WM proceed to speak to the girl for just information - not necessary play match maker? & would the WM do it without the S consent? Will a guy see you in a differently if you initiate first meeting? hahahaha... If the WM & I ever hooked out it would last for just an hour at most... he has moved into the "friend" category - i know too much LOL I have even asked the WM to be my WM has apparently all single ladies need one to be sucessful in the dating world - he refused unless it was with the S... ? WT? What are you thoughts on group events? my friends and the WM friends (including the S) Baby Steps. I havent really seen the S outside of work.
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