ls32ssibm Posted April 30, 2011 Posted April 30, 2011 We've been dating a month and official for a week. Also note I've KNOWN her since 4th grade (we're 23 now). She's just so amazing. I was going to sit on it so I didn't seem "creepy" but I decided what the hell. I didn't say "I love you" I just pretty much said "I've fallen in love with you already, and I know it's probably too soon." She just thought it was sweet but didn't say it back and made it pretty obvious she doesn't feel the same way about me. I guess my question is, do you guys "grow" to love people, and how long has it normally taken for you?
vsmini Posted April 30, 2011 Posted April 30, 2011 As a 28 y/o female who is in her 5th relationship let me break it down. This is my record. #1 - high school puppy love. said it but didn't know what I was talking about #2 - college - puppy love. said it after 3 months but still didnt know what it was #3 - post college - said it after 2 months and meant it - great guy but I was not ready to settle down at the age of 23 #4 - 26 years old. said it after 6 months - would have said it sooner but was afraid to because he was an emotionally unavailable dill pickle who I was afraid of scaring off. 1.5 years of a very unhealthy relationship but I truly loved him. Blah #5 I'm 4 months into a seemingly red flagless, healthy, prosperous relationship with someone my own age (28) and we exchanged L-words 3 months into dating and I do mean it. For me - Love is just a term to express very powerful affectionate and SELFLESS feelings of care and trust.
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