2SidestoStories Posted April 9, 2004 Posted April 9, 2004 I know for a fact that pretty much everyone here has been through some very difficult stuff, some a lot more recently than others, and some are still dealing with it. What I keep wondering is even after those who are lucky enough to have closure ever fully heal from their hurts? People have so many varied mechanisms that we learn in order to cope with life in both good and bad times, (not the least of which is selective memory!) Anyone care to share their insight?
dyermaker Posted April 9, 2004 Posted April 9, 2004 It depends on how you define completion. If you mean fade into non-existence and have no effect on you whatsoever, I doubt it. If you mean stops hurting and instead facilitating the sum of lasting memories of something you once had, contributed to, and learned from that make you who you are. The sum of your past experiences makes you who you are, when it hurts, you think you want to give them up--but you really don't, it would make all of your time in vain.
BklynGuy Posted April 9, 2004 Posted April 9, 2004 I don't think we ever heal completely. We adapt and overcome the hard times. They make us stronger and add to who we are in the world. As for closure, what is that? I have accepted the painful end to past friendships and relationships. I have regrets over the way some things happened, but have moved on. We probably tuck the pain away in the recesses of the mind but they stay with us.
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