PhillyDude Posted May 1, 2011 Posted May 1, 2011 Texting is the new form of communication like it or not. This doesnt seem to be a problem with the younger generation but it is for some of the older ones. Its quick, easy and you can hold a conversation anywhere, unlike with a phone call. Those who are worried that he/she only "texts" me, flat out, just needs to get over it as thats where we are in this age. Im sure there are some people out there that still prefer the phone call, but they are now the exception, NOT the rule(at least with the Millennial's) You sound like you was born in 1989 or after
CambridgeGirl Posted May 1, 2011 Posted May 1, 2011 sometimes of course texting is a relief. You cannot be bothered to put on your A voice and call after a long day at work to some new guy you're trying to sound keen on. Send a text, check in, relax. It does also mean you have more to talk about on the actual date. Its when you are only texting and they don't reply for ages, maybe a day, that you think, for gods sake how hard can it be. Until texting we never walked around staring at our phones either, how did we fill our time in the 90's!!
PhillyDude Posted May 1, 2011 Posted May 1, 2011 Seems like it's only the local girl who text the most. The girls I meet online that are out of my area are willing to talk on the phone
callingyouuu Posted May 1, 2011 Posted May 1, 2011 I've always purposefully used texts so as not to seem altogether too interested in any one person. Phone conversations can get long winded and usually ends up with me going,"uh huh... yeah... uh huh... oh that's cool... uh huh...". With a text, I can plan the conversation like a chess game. Make the person wait a little while before I text back... that usually gets them riled up. hahaha I think the chess metaphor is an interesting perspective, in large part because verbal conversation before SMS was a chess match, or battle of wits. No offense to the OP, just in general, I think this texting explosion is just a display of how awful most of the younger generation (including myself) has gotten at face-to-face communication and thinking on our feet. To think that Elizabeth Bennett from Pride and Prejudice was just considered an uneducated person just over the age of 20 or so in the novel, and yet she would probably talk circles around most people twice her age nowadays. I guess we could beat her at texting...
mr.dream merchant Posted May 1, 2011 Posted May 1, 2011 Personally I don't like talking on the phone. If I'm away from my girlfriend, I want that time to myself.
PhillyDude Posted May 1, 2011 Posted May 1, 2011 Personally I don't like talking on the phone. If I'm away from my girlfriend, I want that time to myself. THe OP is talking about when someone is in the GETTING TO KNOW STAGE. When you are already together it shouldn't matter
mr.dream merchant Posted May 1, 2011 Posted May 1, 2011 THe OP is talking about when someone is in the GETTING TO KNOW STAGE. When you are already together it shouldn't matter In that stage it still applies.
thebody Posted May 2, 2011 Posted May 2, 2011 I think the chess metaphor is an interesting perspective, in large part because verbal conversation before SMS was a chess match, or battle of wits. No offense to the OP, just in general, I think this texting explosion is just a display of how awful most of the younger generation (including myself) has gotten at face-to-face communication and thinking on our feet. To think that Elizabeth Bennett from Pride and Prejudice was just considered an uneducated person just over the age of 20 or so in the novel, and yet she would probably talk circles around most people twice her age nowadays. I guess we could beat her at texting... Agreed. Though the way our brains are adapting to the flow of information today, I believe verbal communication will be a rather contrary thing to do. There's no need to have instant recall of previous knowledge to use in an argument, or the need to know and understand advanced literation because there will be google, and bing and whatever else to back you up before you text back. The art of verbal communication is all but dead... I try to cling to it occasionally by having a debate with my intellectual peers. On the other side of the coin... the proof that one has "soft skills" in any interview will most likely land you a job. The art of communication is still alive and kicking in the business world. Sadly, I believe it's dying in our social wasteland. Oh... and anyway, I think texting is ok really. I'm in my 30's and I have no qualms with the advancement of our society and the means of which we use to communicate. I believe that if we don't continue to keep up with the social etiquettes of today, many of us will become social outcasts. And to the OP, maybe you could just inform people that you're not into texting? That might help people get the picture.
Author vsmini Posted May 2, 2011 Author Posted May 2, 2011 You sound like you was born in 1989 or after Exactly - and if I may say - too young to understand what a true relationship is all about. Texting will never substitute for real communication and the new generation will figure that out eventually when their supposed "relationships" are falling apart. Texting is pseudo-communication. I know many people are more confident via text and IM and email but an individual needs to eventually be comfortable saying the same things to the person's face as well - if not....trouble. Big red flag if you have a guy or girl that can only say serious things via text.
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