pippa02 Posted April 30, 2011 Posted April 30, 2011 (edited) My ex text me today asking if we could meet up, i haven't seen him at all since the night he broke up with me unexpectadly 3 months ago ( we were together nearly 4 years) break up ws completly out of blue, had a great relationship never fought! Anyway i text back and said prob not a good idea, and he said i really just want to see u. i love him so much and want to be with him, but i dont want too just meet up if its just for that reason. what does everyone think? I have not text back now Edited April 30, 2011 by pippa02
whichwayisup Posted April 30, 2011 Posted April 30, 2011 Honestly if I were in your shoes and it's been that long since contact was made, I wouldn't go. Even more so by how it ended. I (sadly) assume he probably met someone else and now it didn't work out, so he's coming back to see if you're still interested.. It's up to you, but this could be a booty call. If he was calling to talk, to apologize, and really felt bad about how it ended, that would be included in the text.
betterdeal Posted April 30, 2011 Posted April 30, 2011 Tell him how you feel, i.e. you will meet up if it's to discuss reconciliation but not just for small talk. If you don't feel confident that you can do that, you're not ready to meet up.
Author pippa02 Posted April 30, 2011 Author Posted April 30, 2011 thanks for the replies, I am pretty sure he hasn't been seeing someone else, just because we have all the same friends etc would of got back too me. But i guess cant be sure of that. this is my first story and why he broke up with me.... http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t272654/ I would love too meet up with him but i know it will just leave me confused. Should I text him back and say why i cant, because all I said to him was no.
betterdeal Posted April 30, 2011 Posted April 30, 2011 Sounds like you said the important thing. If you two were to get back together it would take a serious conversation in which you both tell each other what you dislike about each other and what you want each other to do. You'd both have to listen openly and discuss possible actions to take to remedy the faults. And work from there, with a lot of this kind of communication. If either of you feel you cannot do this (feelings too strong right now, for instance) then meeting up is only going to hurt. You've been pretty clear that you don't feel able to meet up and gain from it. Start rebuilding your self-confidence by accepting the fact that you have made a brave choice to not meet up because you know it will hurt you. This is a fantastic thing to have done for yourself. You have done something to stop you getting hurt. Keep doing that.
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