Pfiend101 Posted April 30, 2011 Posted April 30, 2011 Went on a date with a girl I met on OKC. I picked her up and we went out. She seemed very shy and not very talkative. I would ask her questions and she would answer however she wouldn't really ask me anything back so I basically answered the question about myself that I asked her. I'm generally shy and felt like she wasnt interested at one point. Though she was laughing at just about everything I said and noticed she was twirling her hair alot. As I dropped her off at her house I leaned over and we kissed. This was the first time I didn't read any guides or anything and was just myself. She texted me saying she had a great time afterwords. I just wanted to share with you guys as you have given me alot of advice. I was myself and it turned out good. I know I'm not some bad person that people don't want to date. All I had to do was be myself. I guess I'm not a half bad guy. Thanks everyone! Curious. If she isn't very talkative the next time what is the best way to keep conversation. I mean bringing up topics etc? She didnt really have a lot of hobbies or sports anything like that. I was thinking another date like we just had mini-golf. One where we are moving around and doing stuff so talking isn't the main point. Maybe the zoo?
Nexus One Posted April 30, 2011 Posted April 30, 2011 I was thinking another date like we just had mini-golf. One where we are moving around and doing stuff so talking isn't the main point. Maybe the zoo? I think the zoo is a great place for a date.
ScreamingTrees Posted April 30, 2011 Posted April 30, 2011 Well, if you go on another date or two and she still doesn't open up or seem to have much to say, that might be a problem.. either she's really boring or she doesn't care enough to make the slightest effort to get to know you. Not to say that she isn't interested, but..
Author Pfiend101 Posted April 30, 2011 Author Posted April 30, 2011 Well, if you go on another date or two and she still doesn't open up or seem to have much to say, that might be a problem.. either she's really boring or she doesn't care enough to make the slightest effort to get to know you. Not to say that she isn't interested, but.. I hear ya. I wouldn't know what to do if she is never able to open up. I'm not a huge talker to begin with. The thing is for me too that silence doesn't bother me. Don't have to talk the entire time. I'll just take it one date at a time I guess.
ScreamingTrees Posted April 30, 2011 Posted April 30, 2011 Well, oddly enough, I was reading this section of a newspaper that has a little dating page.. you pick one of three people (sometimes men, sometimes women) to go on a date with one person who gets their "profile" blown up on one side, and then on the other opposite page you get the results from last week's date.. Seemed like a lot of what the guys were saying contradicted a lot of the female responses to the dates.. As in, the guys may specifically say that there weren't any awkward pauses and the conversation flowed while the girls would say the opposite and they saw them as friend material. And a lot of these guys were pretty damn good looking if you ask me. I just thought that was weird.. Obviously you don't know the whole story from a newspaper snippet, but still.. be careful. Just figure out what her deal is, if she's genuinely shy or just not interested enough to actually get into a conversation with you. You deserve better if it's the latter, someone more on your level.
Author Pfiend101 Posted April 30, 2011 Author Posted April 30, 2011 Interesting study. It says right in her profile that shes shy at first. She also talked very quietly and is of a different race then me. She has a little bit of an accent. Which I don't mind at all. Maybe shes self conscious about it. I'll keep my eyes and ears open. Thanks bro.
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