whoknowswhattodo Posted April 30, 2011 Posted April 30, 2011 (edited) I'm still missing her even though I have been basically running, staying busy with work. It just seems so exhausting as much as I do it still hurts. Because I miss hearing her voice and her being with me. I've had some people tell me that they have seen her with him and she was sitting on his lap at a ball game. I had a very good friend tell me today " she's looking for a job, that boy must not be helping her any hahaha!! She will be back to you" I asked him why? And he said, " its simple buddy, its human nature, its like a rat you give cheese everyday, now let's say that rat decides to hall as* and look for cheese on its own, Its going to figure out why and the hell am I looking for cheese when I had the best cheese already." I got a good kick out of that. He said they always come back, just relax and say F*ck it. Don't worry that other boy don't have no cheese. Its just going to be your decision if you want to give her some cheese or not in the future. I would like to hear your opinions on that please. This friend that said that is a physiologist but idk. Edited April 30, 2011 by whoknowswhattodo
JasonRules Posted April 30, 2011 Posted April 30, 2011 Having your friends provide information as to your exes whereabouts is a big "no no". Please read up on my guidelines in order to maintain strict NC and help yourself get over her. Ultimately, you have no control over how someone else feels about you or not. If we did, we would not be here. All you can do is move on. If she comes back at some point in the future and wants to work on things, great. If not, then it won't matter because you will be cured of this codependency called "your ex".
Author whoknowswhattodo Posted April 30, 2011 Author Posted April 30, 2011 I understand, I didn't ask about her they just told me and I know next time if somone brings her up I'm just going to tell them " stop, I don't want to hear about it but thanks"... I have appreciated all the feedback from everyone and helping me get through this. I still want her back though. I know that a lot of people want there ex back when they're the dumpee but it still is killing me alittle more each day.
Fufu Posted April 30, 2011 Posted April 30, 2011 i don't want my ex back Because i know having this little hope will only hinder my healing process. Live and let go. When we say NC, we meant all kinds of contacts are ceased, even information from other people is a form of not being in a NC.
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