MissJoness Posted April 30, 2011 Posted April 30, 2011 I am single and live alone. Since residing here, I have had 4 men ask if they could get my apartment number so they could visit me. One guy seemed really hurt that I rejected him; I told him I didn't feel comfortable with him coming over because I don't know him that well. None of these men know me well; one in particular is very aggressive, and he keeps asking me everytime he runs into me. isn't it a bit inappropriate to ask for an invitation to a woman's place w/o knowing her too well?
Nexus One Posted April 30, 2011 Posted April 30, 2011 I agree with you that it's more appropriate in regards to trust to first have multiple dates on "neutral ground" in a public place in order to get to know each other. If those men don't "get" the logic behind that, then that's strange in my opinion. What could be so dire in the first phase of dating that they have to spend time with you at your house? Allowing a male stranger into your house could be risky, so better safe than sorry.
Author MissJoness Posted April 30, 2011 Author Posted April 30, 2011 Yeah, it had me really thinking if this one what most people are doing nowadays, since more than one man has asked me. The current guy is very aggressive, and I am not even interested in him. I just chit chat, and say hi and bye when I run into him on my way to work. Nothing else. He must have mistaken this for me having some kind of interest in him when I don't. It's getting annoying, and the last time I ran into him, he kept pestering me to let him know what my apartment number was so we could 'talk'.
Nexus One Posted April 30, 2011 Posted April 30, 2011 Yeah, it had me really thinking if this one what most people are doing nowadays, since more than one man has asked me. The current guy is very aggressive, and I am not even interested in him. I just chit chat, and say hi and bye when I run into him on my way to work. Nothing else. He must have mistaken this for me having some kind of interest in him when I don't. It's getting annoying, and the last time I ran into him, he kept pestering me to let him know what my apartment number was so we could 'talk'. He could talk with you over a cup of coffee in a public setting and if it's really intimate what he has to say, then he can write a letter and hand it to you when he sees you the next time. Not sure if he thought of that, but he has a lot more options than having to go to your apartment.
Emissary Posted April 30, 2011 Posted April 30, 2011 The girl I'm most interested isn't very outgoing and it seems most of her activities take place in her apartment. We met about 10 years ago but our relationship was purely confined to the familiar face from halls in high school realm rather than anything close to that of a friend. I've become a lot closer to her the past year though, we talk everyday and she seems to generally enjoy my company. I just wonder if it would be acceptable to sort of imply my desire to hang out or something, presumabely at her place for before mentioned reasons. It's a delicate situation because I know there is another she has her eyes set on, but at the same time I can't quite put my finger on how she feels about me.
alethean Posted April 30, 2011 Posted April 30, 2011 Yeah that stuff annoys me. I'm not a fan of early dates at people's places but it's even more rude to invite yourself to my place than it is to invite me to yours. Gosh. I can't stand it when people have no manners.
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