wreckedhero Posted April 29, 2011 Posted April 29, 2011 So ive been dumped and ive been a bit immature and sent loads of nasty texts back to her. What do I do now? In my last text I said sorry and told her I sound pathetic due to being hurt. What shall I do now? Just never contact her again! The things I've said were true but I still want her back. I have no chance now!Advice needed please. I dont want to come across as a stalker or immature anymore
TaraMaiden Posted April 29, 2011 Posted April 29, 2011 In that case you know exactly what to do: Just never contact her again! Sorted.
Author wreckedhero Posted April 29, 2011 Author Posted April 29, 2011 Sent my last text just now. I start no contact now
TaraMaiden Posted April 29, 2011 Posted April 29, 2011 Yeah....right...... .....Make sure that WAS your last. You shouldn't have sent it, whatever it was. No matter what you think it was, all she thought was "Oh jeezus-kerrrist, not him AGAIN!!"
esiole Posted April 29, 2011 Posted April 29, 2011 I think you should see it as a positive, she obviously wasn't happy. Give her some space, and if she contacts you again then go along with it, if that's still what you want. But for now, it will only rub salt in the wound, let it heal, and in the meantime, find other things that do bring you happiness, focus on or hobby or see friends etc.
Author wreckedhero Posted April 29, 2011 Author Posted April 29, 2011 So she said that she needs space to get her head sorted and that we need time apart. Would contacting her push her away? What do I do if she contacts me? I have apologised for being nasty to her and told her it was due to me being hurt. Is it just a case of waiting?
TaraMaiden Posted April 29, 2011 Posted April 29, 2011 So she said that she needs space to get her head sorted and that we need time apart. so agree, comply and do as she asks! Would contacting her push her away? Yes. What do I do if she contacts me? Is that really likely?? I have apologised for being nasty to her and told her it was due to me being hurt. Is it just a case of waiting? yes you said that, but really, it's probable the damage is done. It's a case of going NC, staying NC - and moving on, completely. Are you actually paying attention to any of this....? or are you paying as much attention to us as you have to her....? Go No Contact. Leave it alone, don't pester, bother or contact her in any way, or yes - the word stalker might just make sense!
Author wreckedhero Posted April 29, 2011 Author Posted April 29, 2011 Oh right. If I ignore her is there a chance of her coming back?
Author wreckedhero Posted April 29, 2011 Author Posted April 29, 2011 I've sent her a last text a couple of hours ago saying it's a good idea that she has some space and apologising for what I said to her. It's not too late to go no contact is it?
TaraMaiden Posted April 30, 2011 Posted April 30, 2011 Oh right. If I ignore her is there a chance of her coming back? Who knows? More's to the point - who cares? That's the point of NC! To get over it, not to get them to come back!! there's a chance, but that shouldn't be uppermost in your mind! Read the link in my signature - do yourself a huge favour - either that, or set yourself up for crushing failure. your choice..... I've sent her a last text a couple of hours ago saying it's a good idea that she has some space and apologising for what I said to her. It's not too late to go no contact is it? No, but DO IT. Read the link in my sig - and follow through. It's the only way you have to retrieve a gram of dignity, and look a better man. In your eyes and everyone else's, if not hers.
2011 Posted April 30, 2011 Posted April 30, 2011 Oh right. If I ignore her is there a chance of her coming back? Would you be ready if she did? save your pride and do not contact her by text, if you said nasty things and/or she did too then you should send an email (make it the last contact) saying you agree with the break up and hope that there is no bad blood between you and you realise that you now need to heal and move on, thank her for the good times etc and then say you think it is wise if we do not communicate for some time until we are both healed, you do not mind being civil about any outstanding non-relationship issues that have to be ironed out. Don't be apologetic and leave the email open, don't put her in a position to have to make a decision or reply, she might reply and if she does (it'll be emotional she'll be pissed) reply with silly comments don't get tied into email/text ping pong just go NC and get yourself healed unless you have to reply to make sure there is a relatively clean break up. Treat this situation as you will have to move on and not see her again, because that might be the truth, she may or may not come back and you know what you cannot make that decision for her, only you can better yourself and try your best to move on. I would also urge you to not contact her after the email in any way shape of form, I did after my break up and blew it, so keep up the NC for your sake to heal and minimise the emotional damage you have both already done to each other; everything is emotionally driven right now so it is best not to converse at all with her as you will say things now that you will utterly regret down the line - trust me! 2011
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