chelle21689 Posted April 29, 2011 Posted April 29, 2011 I've been seeing this guy for almost 10 weeks now! We see each other every weekend and talk every night. We're both really attracted to each other but move at a slow pace which isn't too bad. After a month he held my hand...after 6 weeks we finally had the chance to spend the night and cuddle...no kiss. After 8 weeks he started being even more touchier, kissed my hand a few times, (inner thigh and place his hand on my butt lol) I think cuz he drank..but then again I've seen him buzzed before and he never did that stuff. At the end of the night he kissed me near my lip but more so on my chin. I had him over yesterday and I thought maybe he'd go for it but then we weren't alone and we had garlic for dinner LOL...plus we're both sick kwith a cold. sounds like he's getting close though right??
Kelemort Posted April 29, 2011 Posted April 29, 2011 How old are you? Is this his (possible) first relationship, or yours? That could explain the jitters. When you're both better, what's preventing you from making the first gesture? He's obviously interested.
Author chelle21689 Posted April 29, 2011 Author Posted April 29, 2011 He's 21. He's had 3 past relationships and dated around. I'm 22 and I had one relationship that lasted 5 years. First time he kissed me near my lips it was all wrong timing. Friends were waiting for me in the car and all watching LOL.
Author chelle21689 Posted April 29, 2011 Author Posted April 29, 2011 (edited) We're both Asian. He's Cambodian and I'm Thai/Filipino. LOL...my last ex was black and we kissed the first day! -Cuz i want him to make the first move Edited April 29, 2011 by chelle21689
Darren Taylor Posted April 29, 2011 Posted April 29, 2011 As mentioned earlier, kiss him yourself. It's the only way you'll find out.
Author chelle21689 Posted April 29, 2011 Author Posted April 29, 2011 I think he's close... haha I can feel it. If not I'll give him a peck when it feels right and he damn well better go in for a real kiss haha
2sunny Posted April 29, 2011 Posted April 29, 2011 I think he's close... haha I can feel it. If not I'll give him a peck when it feels right and he damn well better go in for a real kiss haha you act like you're five years old. grow up! 22? doesn't seem so...
Author chelle21689 Posted April 29, 2011 Author Posted April 29, 2011 Wow that's really nice of you. I am pretty much 5 years old I guess since I haven't really been with anyone else and I'm naive when it comes to dating new guys. Sorry! @Devil's Advocate..LMAO that'd be kinda funny but probably the end of us
Author chelle21689 Posted April 29, 2011 Author Posted April 29, 2011 That just sounds kinda gross though lmao
nyc_guy2003 Posted May 1, 2011 Posted May 1, 2011 It's actually very highly likely that this guy's past three "relationships" weren't relationships at all but just women he was friends with or wanted to get with but didn't. I speak from experience -- when I was around that age I used to tell women about all of my previous "relationships" that didn't really exist to make myself sound more desirable. In fact I had no clue how to interact socially or sexually with women at all. From what you described he reminds me of a younger version of me. I remember I once went out on like 5 dates with a really hot girl and the best I could do was hug her at the end of date 5 after having not touched her at all during dates 1-4. Needless to say there was no date 6. The solution is like everyone else said -- you have to make the first move.
Author chelle21689 Posted May 2, 2011 Author Posted May 2, 2011 Well his shortest relationship was 3 months and the longest was 7
LexiB Posted May 3, 2011 Posted May 3, 2011 (edited) He's either a major p*ssy/immature/socially inept etc. or he just doesn't like you and has only been hanging around so long to get something from you (i.e. are your parents rich?) Either way just kiss him and get on with it already. Edited May 3, 2011 by LexiB
Titania22 Posted May 3, 2011 Posted May 3, 2011 This is so sweet and innocent. It really shows me in that 18-22 age group, there really is such a wide range of sexual confidence across society. Wow!
Author chelle21689 Posted May 4, 2011 Author Posted May 4, 2011 Well I think it might be me that's the problem. The other night we hugged before saying bye..really long. When we parted I said "Byee." and he looked like he was leaning in to do something like kiss me on the cheek or something but I parted too fast. I get a little nervous during those moments. With my last ex he kissed me on the cheek and then I tilted my head towards him to kiss me. Dont' know why I'm so nervous with this guy. It's like we're elementary lol. Through the grapevine...he never takes this long to kiss other girls but he is really shy with ME too..
Dust Posted May 4, 2011 Posted May 4, 2011 He’s kind of a loser that’s why. But you like him so, go him![FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3] [/sIZE][/FONT]
blueskyday Posted May 4, 2011 Posted May 4, 2011 Sometimes it just goes beyond the natural point where you would have kissed and then it feels forced. So, get it natural....I would just get close in his space, like inches from his face. Look him the eyes, smile slightly, look at his mouth, look back up to his eyes. Put your hands around his back....press your hips against him...look at him, mentally say "Kiss me." Lean in a bit closer...kiss his neck behind his ear, say "mmmmm"....pull back....look at him again...your lips are inches away....come on.... If he doesn't kiss you then, then I don't know what to tell you!
Andy_K Posted May 4, 2011 Posted May 4, 2011 No kiss after ten weeks? Are you sure you're the right gender for him?
Author chelle21689 Posted May 4, 2011 Author Posted May 4, 2011 (edited) LMAO I do need sebastian!!! He came over Sunday and I think he tried to kiss me but I moved away too quick.. ?? I know he's not gay!! I agree though, there were other times where it would've been more natural but now it's kind of expected and probably would be forced. I don't like forced =/ Takes away that feeling A couple weeks ago he did try to kiss me but it was alllll wrong timing when allm y friends waited for me in my car while we were outside. Instead he kissed me on the chin near my lips Edited May 4, 2011 by chelle21689
Dust Posted May 4, 2011 Posted May 4, 2011 he kissed me on the chin near my lips Yeah he's a big dork. Some girls like that though, go him!
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