tmesis Posted April 29, 2011 Posted April 29, 2011 My ex and I were together for a year before he broke it off – we’d been unhappy together for the last six months because of incompatible lifestyles (I was working, he wasn’t, and we argued a lot). At first I requested no contact and he respected that although he wanted to stay friends. After a couple of weeks of NC we met up through a mutual friend to sort out a few final bits and pieces but ended up having great fun together. We’ve since seen each other two or three times in last few weeks, and every time we have become more romantic with each other (lots of kisses and cuddles and reminiscing about the early days). We also laugh like we used to and love being in contact again. I’ve held off sleeping with him because I don’t want to be a friend with benefits. He’s said he really wants to and hasn’t been with anyone else in the interim. I suspect that my turning him down is just making him want it more – I don’t mean to play games, I’m just not yet comfortable enough with him. On the one hand I don’t want to sleep with him if he is then going to go and date other people; on the other hand I don’t want to get back into a relationship with him like before because he is in a very unstable situation re: work and housing. On my third mutant hand (!) I do want to sleep with him because we’re ridiculously attracted to each other right now, we can practically feel the sparks flying. On my magically appearing fourth hand I quite like the idea of dating new people too. Has anyone else ever experienced something like this and had it end badly, or did the slow break up help you both move on with your own lives? Or did you eventually get back together?
Author tmesis Posted May 4, 2011 Author Posted May 4, 2011 Well, no one's replied and my situation's moved on a bit. Ex is now showing obvious interest in us getting back together & I'm still a little unsure and want to take things slow. On the one hand it's the best feeling ever, on the other hand nothing has changed sufficiently to make a relationship work. So I guess you can count this as a real example that you can get your ex back, but whether that'd be a good thing or not I'm unsure.
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