eternal.denied84 Posted April 29, 2011 Posted April 29, 2011 Long story - There is this girl in my office I am attracted to, she recently joined in and is quite junior to me say 4 yrs. I approached her, we talked couple of times and she entertained me quite well. Since I use to ask her out for a stop talk frequently, once i asked her if i may be disturbing her, to which she said.."its not like that, had she not been interested she wouldn't be talking to me" Days passed by and i did not talk to her for a week or so, she did not approach me either, when I talked to her after 2 weeks or so-I asked her that why she could not approach to say hi, hello. She said that she felt that I have changed , I am different and may not want to talk to...we cleared the misunderstanding and she said its okay we are friends...now these misunderstandings wont happen. again weeks passed by, i did not approach her just to see if she initiates a talk which she did not, i sent a couple of teasing text messages to her following which I chatted with her, this time she was different--i asked her out for a coffee break or something, she denied saying she is damn busy and cant take out time, i insisted if she could take out time for 5 minutes, she again denied saying she really can't. I told her "you seem different", to which she asked why am i saying so ?--i said-i just felt like that. to which she replied teasingly that she cant help that out.finally she said she has to work, she will text me later and logged off. a week passed by, yet no words from her. We see each other daily from a distance but do not greet and avoid bumping into each other. I am attracted to this girl and would really like to move ahead but couple of things are stopping me: 1) I am very egoistic and can't take rejections, If a girl rejects my offer I will keep thinking on the same for ever. 2) last communication I had with her hint me that she is not interested to carryout anything ( this is what i conclude from her responses and from my experiences with women in past) 3) since i would have to see this girl everyday, i don't want to create an awkward situation at workplace where we would have to avoid each other-if i approach her and things do not go as per my expectations. Infact now also, i feel I am in a awkward situation where we try avoid bumping into each other and if we do..we just pass a smile and move on.Dont even stop to say hi/hello. what should I do ? I really need expert opinion here because this thing is eating my head from past couple of weeks and i am not able to concentrate on work or anything else.
Author eternal.denied84 Posted May 6, 2011 Author Posted May 6, 2011 no girls here ? anyone..I am looking for the step !
kandice Posted May 9, 2011 Posted May 9, 2011 XD wow this is an old post, and no one's replied. There must not be many people on this site. Well, I don't know what you've done by now...but I would have stopped talking to her. She's clearly not interested. If she was, she would have initiated some contact. I mean, I'm kinda shy and unsure of myself, but if I wanna talk to someone who's making a point of talking to me, I'd do that much.
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