irc333 Posted April 29, 2011 Posted April 29, 2011 ...start to fly. Every so often some of my friends who are on FB who recently went through a break up, basically they change their status to "is now single" Man, talk about the comments flyin. From apologies, and sympathies, to even the poster stating that they had their heart broken. And, things like "yeah, that guy/gal was a jerk, he/she is missing out on a good thing" Usually it's vague as to what happened, but it really getse teh FB discussions going. Do you think this is a little to much do be discussing on a FB wall though? Have you experienced any outcomes because of this? Perhaps some people will attempt to befriend the dumpee...if ya get my meanin' lol (or the dumper. (or if it was mutual, either or) That being said, doesn't the other person see this obviously? Is there something about airing out your laundry in this manner a little too , exposing?
Darren Taylor Posted April 29, 2011 Posted April 29, 2011 Stuff like that always leads to drama. This is why I won't list my relationship status on Facebook.
Rinnix Posted April 29, 2011 Posted April 29, 2011 If im recently single, ill delete it off my page. Im not fond of people commenting on my relationship status. Most people who make a dramatic thing about it end back together anyway. I stay out of peoples buisness unless they come to me with it.
Professor X Posted April 29, 2011 Posted April 29, 2011 You choose what to show on FB, so don't complain afterwards.
Enchanted Girl Posted April 29, 2011 Posted April 29, 2011 When I go through a break-up, I usually need to talk about it for awhile and surround myself with friends to get passed it, so if they comment on that stuff, then it helps me. And unlike Rinnix said, it doesn't mean me and an ex are getting back together again. An ex tried to get back together with me once after we broke-up and I had to reject him. You can't just break-up with someone and expect to go back later. It's something that I always, always follow. If two people break-up, its for a reason. The words would have never been said unless there was something wrong with the relationship. And its just never going to work again after that.
Kelemort Posted April 29, 2011 Posted April 29, 2011 In my neck of the woods, it's often assumed when there's a break-up that he's at fault - whether he cheated, decided he didn't love you anymore, whatever. When I see that someone is newly single, if I acknowledge it at all on social networking sites, it's a, "I hope you're doing okay and that everything works out." I really hate it when peoples' response to a break-up is, "He was a jackass/jerkbag/etc." I've faced this during break-ups in the past. I understand the motivation is to show you moral support, but who's to say the break-up wasn't painful, but mutual? Just because it ended doesn't make the other person worthy of the guillotine. I haven't been single in a long time. Of course, my ex was a complete and utter verbally abusive ******* to me - so I took great pride in cyber-bashing him with some friends. I was much younger at the time, and having that sort of camaraderie with my friends made me feel good. As for if it's too 'exposing' or if it should be presented that way - it depends on your security settings. When I go through break-ups, the ex is the first one off my page. I go no contact. Along with anyone connected with the ex - his friends, family members, etc. Nothing personal, but I need to heal. All of my profiles are exclusive to only about 15 - 20 people (predominantly family/close friends). If I were the type to befriend everyone, of course I wouldn't broadcast this. But the way I see it, it's communicating something to people close to me who would hear about it anyway, so I can hit them all at once.
Kelemort Posted April 29, 2011 Posted April 29, 2011 When I go through a break-up, I usually need to talk about it for awhile and surround myself with friends to get passed it, so if they comment on that stuff, then it helps me. And unlike Rinnix said, it doesn't mean me and an ex are getting back together again. An ex tried to get back together with me once after we broke-up and I had to reject him. You can't just break-up with someone and expect to go back later. It's something that I always, always follow. If two people break-up, its for a reason. The words would have never been said unless there was something wrong with the relationship. And its just never going to work again after that. Agreed. Unfortunately, tons of people use a "we're breaking up!" as motivation to get the other person to change, rather than doing what it actually is. When I break up, I really, definitely, absolutely mean it. It's just over. That includes bashing them on social networking sites later on so they can see it, then kissing and making up. Makes you sick with that kind of drama.
Crazy Magnet Posted April 29, 2011 Posted April 29, 2011 I don't have my relationship status listed on my page anymore. I did during the last R, but once that ended I decided I was too old to care if that was up there or not. I deleted the "CM is single" post from my wall and news feed so that there were no comments and made sure my romantic status wasn't visible anyway. I think the only way I'll ever change it again is if I get engaged or married. Other than that, it can stay how it is. I understand that some people enjoy the support they receive through comments from friends but I rather get all that in private. It's more personal and I can respond however I want a) Yes, he was a complete dirt bag!!! or b) It hurts so much how will I survive?
Rinnix Posted April 29, 2011 Posted April 29, 2011 When I say people get back together, Im refering to the dramatic teenagers who split because the boyfriend called another girls pic cute. Thats why I don't post on there statuses. Its what my list is full of. Time to do some cleaning...
Kelemort Posted April 29, 2011 Posted April 29, 2011 Oh God, teenage friends on social networking sites. My ex-boyfriend's little sister and I were friendly for a long while. Anyway, she has her Facebook open to everybody, so from time-to-time it's a guilty pleasure to peek in and see what kind of theatrics are going on. From post-to-post, she's wildly in love with her boyfriend to ready to eviscerate him for no apparent reason. Say whaaaat? For a long time, I took my relationship status off of Facebook. However, a lot of major problems surfaced in our relationship and it made my boyfriend insecure. While it seems trivial, he admitted that the status not being there in light of our problems made him feel that I was ashamed to acknowledge our relationship to our friends, or that I was preparing to end it. At the end of the day, is it just a silly little status? Yes. Does it, or can it, represent something bigger to people? Definitely.
Cee Posted April 29, 2011 Posted April 29, 2011 I had been single for 6 long years, so I announced the change on Facebook. I had to do it. I've been single as long as Facebook had been in existence. It was kind of fun to do. My BF on the other hand is listed as single on Facebook and I don't care. He doesn't give a rat's ass about Facebook so I wouldn't think to have him change his status. If the times come to change it to single, I plan on hiding my status. It was fun doing the status thing once, but bouncing it back and forth, not so fun.
Woggle Posted April 29, 2011 Posted April 29, 2011 The importance people attach to facebook status is more than a bit disturbing to me.
Cracker Jack Posted April 29, 2011 Posted April 29, 2011 Usually when I see a woman go from being in a relationship to single, the comments are mainly from guys asking if they can contend for her love. Last time I saw this, the girl had about 60 different comments--and she was mainly replying to all of the men individually about going out with them. That was worthy of a too.
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