Disillusioned Posted April 29, 2011 Posted April 29, 2011 I'm 43, I've never met any woman I thought might be lovable who'd love me in return, and I've gotten so used to being alone and self-sufficient that I'm comfortable with my routine. I still get lonesome though, even with my Realdoll. What a shame that women avoid emotional bonding. It's gotten to the point now where I feel like even if I did meet the right woman who'd love me in return, it's like I'd be screwing around with God's plan by experiencing happiness. It is after all my life, but just the same I'd feel like I was meddling with some powerful forces that aren't mine to meddle with and there will be hell to pay unless I get out of that happy relationship FAST. This feeling isn't normal of course, but have any of you ever felt this way too?
Author Disillusioned Posted April 29, 2011 Author Posted April 29, 2011 Do you really have a realdoll? Do bears poop in the woods?
SmileFace Posted April 29, 2011 Posted April 29, 2011 (edited) Do bears poop in the woods? Well ,I guess that is my answer. Don't those run for a couple thousand. Wouldn't a fleshlight suffice? Edited April 29, 2011 by SmileFace
Ross MwcFan Posted April 29, 2011 Posted April 29, 2011 I'm 43, I've never met any woman I thought might be lovable who'd love me in return, and I've gotten so used to being alone and self-sufficient that I'm comfortable with my routine. I still get lonesome though, even with my Realdoll. What a shame that women avoid emotional bonding. It's gotten to the point now where I feel like even if I did meet the right woman who'd love me in return, it's like I'd be screwing around with God's plan by experiencing happiness. It is after all my life, but just the same I'd feel like I was meddling with some powerful forces that aren't mine to meddle with and there will be hell to pay unless I get out of that happy relationship FAST. This feeling isn't normal of course, but have any of you ever felt this way too? It's funny that you should mention this, because I was thinking a similar thing last night. I was thinking about how people like myself are being weeded out of the gene pool, you know, it's all about survival of the fittest, the people with the best genes get to reproduce, and the ones that don't have the best genes, don't. So obviously, my situation, of not being able to get a woman is ment to be. And if I was to some how force things to change, I would be going against nature, so therefore getting a woman and/or having sex would feel wrong and actually feel unatural, ironically. I also thought if there was a god, then he'd probably be angry at me too.
irc333 Posted April 29, 2011 Posted April 29, 2011 I fall in this category actually, my parents are the only family that I have, and they're not getting any younger and have health issues, I have no bros or sisters, and once their gone, I have no one...no family whatsoever. So couple that with being single and without a family, well, it doesn't paint a great picture. THen I wonder if I got older, if I passed away, would the only way people would find out is by the smell coming from the place where I live? They'd see a shrivel up body sitting at a computer with the loveshack page displaying on the monitor? lol
meri21 Posted April 29, 2011 Posted April 29, 2011 we not you find some one on some dating site but need trusted. I offer many trusted links on my site especially dating single fathers.
Ross MwcFan Posted April 29, 2011 Posted April 29, 2011 I fall in this category actually, my parents are the only family that I have, and they're not getting any younger and have health issues, I have no bros or sisters, and once their gone, I have no one...no family whatsoever. So couple that with being single and without a family, well, it doesn't paint a great picture. THen I wonder if I got older, if I passed away, would the only way people would find out is by the smell coming from the place where I live? They'd see a shrivel up body sitting at a computer with the loveshack page displaying on the monitor? lol I also think about that too, and always imagine after being found that they may check my computer, see my posts on forums, and find out the kind of life I had, (basically never being able to get a woman). A sad guy, who could never get a woman, finally died and has been rotting away alone in his house.
Ross MwcFan Posted April 29, 2011 Posted April 29, 2011 (edited) we not you find some one on some dating site but need trusted. I offer many trusted links on my site especially dating single fathers. Could you not prey on the vulnerable please? And btw, we're not single fathers, because we can't get anyone. Edited April 29, 2011 by Ross MwcFan
Author Disillusioned Posted April 29, 2011 Author Posted April 29, 2011 I was thinking about how people like myself are being weeded out of the gene pool, you know, it's all about survival of the fittest, the people with the best genes get to reproduce, and the ones that don't have the best genes, don't. You know, I think that whole Darwinian load of crap has turned into nothing but a stick for rich crooks and tough goons to beat the rest of us with. All I need to do is take a look around in any crowd at all the stupid people and chronically ill people, and realize that we've defeated the rule of survival of the fittest. But I also think X percentage of people are always going to be born homo or asexual as nature's feeble attempt at putting the brakes on our rabbit-like indiscriminate breeding. I wonder if I got older, if I passed away, would the only way people would find out is by the smell coming from the place where I live? That actually happened to a little old man who lived alone in a house across the street from me back in '85. The guy 2 doors down went to check on him and found rats feasting on the old man's body on the floor next to his bed where he fell. I fear this situation is going to become pretty much the norm as this century progresses... but at least all the lonely old ladies in the 2050s will be able to be smug that no man ever nabbed them!
Nexus One Posted April 29, 2011 Posted April 29, 2011 (edited) Why not try this: Buy $250 in ad space in a local newspaper with the largest reader base. Put your picture in it with the text: "Call me if you would like to go on a date with me. Phone nr: ###" Or this: Subscribe to all dating websites, write a positive profile, message as many women as you can, thousands if you have to. But don't be to short and superficial like: "Yo sup babe!". Or: Move to an area where there is a surplus of single women, or date in that area and then move there. Or: Join meetup groups. Or: Hire a dating coach. Or: Make a sign out of a card board box with the text: "Who wants to date me? Call me, phone nr: ###" Stand besides a busy road where there is a traffic jam and where the cars drive slowly. Ok this last one is pretty desperate, but anyone who's willing to do that has major balls in my eyes. People will laugh at you, that would be a given, others will respect you for your courage. Edited April 29, 2011 by Nexus One
Nexus One Posted April 29, 2011 Posted April 29, 2011 I don't feel right going against nature. Except if a woman chooses to be with you after you've tried those things, well then wouldn't that be the "will" of nature in and by itself?
Mrlonelyone Posted April 30, 2011 Posted April 30, 2011 True that wayne. It goes against the gender roles our culture assigns for women to call men. The truth is guys there is one fool proof thing you ought to try which men have done for eons. If the tribe was short of women or just short of women you could get along with... a man would walk to the next valley over and see what women were there. The first Jamestown settlers were men.... They either found wives among the Powhatan indians and the ones that did not... actually ordered wives which the Virginia company procured for them in England. In exchange for 200 lbs of Tobacco. In short...look over seas. There are women who would love to have a good decent hardworking American husband. They likely are disenchanted with the men from their countries too. Don't assume that these marriages don't last either. Allot of them do. I don't mean paying for one either. Just move overseas for a while, work there, live there and try to find a wife there. Hey it worked for this guy? http://blog.zap2it.com/frominsidethebox/heenefamily_290.jpg
Author Disillusioned Posted April 30, 2011 Author Posted April 30, 2011 Why not try this: Buy $250 in ad space in a local newspaper with the largest reader base. Put your picture in it with the text: "Call me if you would like to go on a date with me. Phone nr: ###" Or this: Subscribe to all dating websites, write a positive profile, message as many women as you can, thousands if you have to. But don't be to short and superficial like: "Yo sup babe!". Or: Move to an area where there is a surplus of single women, or date in that area and then move there. Or: Join meetup groups. Or: Hire a dating coach. Or: Make a sign out of a card board box with the text: "Who wants to date me? Call me, phone nr: ###" Stand besides a busy road where there is a traffic jam and where the cars drive slowly. Ok this last one is pretty desperate, but anyone who's willing to do that has major balls in my eyes. People will laugh at you, that would be a given, others will respect you for your courage. Or... what would the Godfather do in a situation like this? He'd make 'em an offer they can't refuse. (and we know what happened to the ones who did refuse)
orangelady Posted April 30, 2011 Posted April 30, 2011 Except if a woman chooses to be with you after you've tried those things, well then wouldn't that be the "will" of nature in and by itself? This is the problem I see with men like Disillusioned (and I'm not coming across as being spiteful, okay..I'll just try to give you some perspective here.) It's not that all women don't want you. It's that some of the women you want don't want you. You seem to feel that if you are attracted to a woman or otherwise find her desirable, that she should automatically feel the same. If you think that women who don't find you attractive should be asking you out anyway, then doesn't it make sense that you should be doing that also? If you truly and deeply feel it shouldn't be about money, status and being *hot*, start asking out every woman you meet, regardless of whether you are attracted to her or not. I guarantee you will acheive your goal of getting dates. If you aren't willing to do that, then you should be questioning why you expect to *get* more than you're willing to *give*. If you aren't interested or willing to go out with someone you don't find attractive, why would you think others should?
Mrlonelyone Posted April 30, 2011 Posted April 30, 2011 @Orangelady Nooo no no no no! Don't play the "entitlement" card. Disillisoined is not a young guy. He's aged enough at this point that he has probably wanted a wide variety of women. He's not some 18 year old who only wants to date the head cheerleader. Second everyone wants to be wanted by people they want. Attraction has to be mutual. If he ask out a woman he's not attracted to then she's not going to be happy with him. From the guys self description he's 6'6" and after loosing a bit of weight will be built like a brick house. He has his own successful business. Unless he has a face like the Elephant man he should not have trouble finding a woman when he's really ready for one. Yet he has had trouble. Genuine trouble.
orangelady Posted April 30, 2011 Posted April 30, 2011 @Orangelady Nooo no no no no! Don't play the "entitlement" card. Disillisoined is not a young guy. He's aged enough at this point that he has probably wanted a wide variety of women. He's not some 18 year old who only wants to date the head cheerleader. Sorry Mrlonelyone, I just don't believe that. I really don't. It's not about 'young' or old. If you are setting very high expectations which I think Disillusioned is, then you're going to be alone forever. Second everyone wants to be wanted by people they want. Attraction has to be mutual. If he ask out a woman he's not attracted to then she's not going to be happy with him. Yes, I understand that. But if you are going to have super high expectations, you're going to be very alone. Attraction is subjective. Disillusioned has been ranting about what he is NOT attracted to, why don't he tell us what kind of women he IS attracted to then? From the guys self description he's 6'6" and after loosing a bit of weight will be built like a brick house. Oh OK, so he has NOT lost the weight yet. Then do it. Join a gym. Or go for runs. You can even train at home. That's what I do and I toned up a bit but it took me 2 years of hard work - and I did all through following online workout videos. He has his own successful business. Unless he has a face like the Elephant man he should not have trouble finding a woman when he's really ready for one. Yet he has had trouble. Genuine trouble. You would if you're not actively socializing out there. Hell, even dating sites has tonnes of women if you're not out there mingling.
orangelady Posted April 30, 2011 Posted April 30, 2011 I'm starting to think Disillusioned is the guy in his avatar, under that suit. Now that can't be 6'6.
somedude81 Posted April 30, 2011 Posted April 30, 2011 Long term loneliness is starting to bring me some real dark thoughts. Stuff that I think about doing that I would never post about my thoughts here.
orangelady Posted April 30, 2011 Posted April 30, 2011 I've often battled with loneliness in my early 20s up till now. I felt like I don't 'connect' with anyone in the real world and even when I am attracted to a guy in real life, he does not want to have anything to do with me and would go for my friends. I am 28 and have never felt so lonely in my life. Especially when my girlfriends are already married and settling down. As I can see it, my situation is not good. I think that if I do not change my life or do some serious planning about it, I'm going to end up in my 40s, single and ranting on LoveShack.
somedude81 Posted April 30, 2011 Posted April 30, 2011 I've often battled with loneliness in my early 20s up till now. I felt like I don't 'connect' with anyone in the real world and even when I am attracted to a guy in real life, he does not want to have anything to do with me and would go for my friends. I am 28 and have never felt so lonely in my life. Especially when my girlfriends are already married and settling down. As I can see it, my situation is not good. I think that if I do not change my life or do some serious planning about it, I'm going to end up in my 40s, single and ranting on LoveShack. I know how you feel orange. I'm going to be 30 in a few months. All of my older cousins are married with children. And now I have two cousins, one 24 and the other 20 announced their engagements to their partners. I feel like I got passed over. One thing I know for sure, is that I won't be single and ranting in my 40's. That's simply too many years from now to be sad and alone.
orangelady Posted April 30, 2011 Posted April 30, 2011 One thing I know for sure, is that I won't be single and ranting in my 40's. That's simply too many years from now to be sad and alone. Good on you, but with how some of the men on LS talk about dating and women, this just might be their fate.
Dust Posted April 30, 2011 Posted April 30, 2011 Just move overseas for a while, work there, live there and try to find a wife there. This is good advice if you've given up on all else.
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