nyckidd Posted April 29, 2011 Posted April 29, 2011 My girlfriend of two years recently broke up with me on sunday. She had been on antidepressents (celexa) for a week and I wonder if this is what made her break up with me. 3 weeks ago was our 2 year anniversary and she gave me a card explaining how much she loved me, and how this relationship is everything to her etc., things were great. So I just think that it is so random for her to do this. She kept saying its not me, and that she needs to be byherself. When I asked if there is a chance of making up she said her heads just not in it right now. In our relationship she put in most of the effort for the second year while I basically took things for granted. I was not abusive, controling, or violent,but I was a jerk at times and really just changed that second year. Def could have been a better bf. Its just that despite I was a jerk, she loved me so much and would do anything for me so I find it so ironic that now she breaks up with me a week after antidepressants are being used. Could this be a real possibility?
betterdeal Posted April 29, 2011 Posted April 29, 2011 My view is that people can enter into a depressed state if they feel they are stuck in an unhappy situation, and cannot get out of it. With that in mind, she may have become depressed in part because of your relationship. But that's just my theory. What matters is what you do and think from now on. You've identified that you have areas for improvement, which is great. You also know what she has asked for - space, respect, no emotional heaviness. You can choose to give her that and, in my opinion, it will be for your good also. Don't promise anything, be kind and understanding, but also pay attention to your own feelings and needs.
Author nyckidd Posted April 29, 2011 Author Posted April 29, 2011 Yea that is a good point. She was unhappy with the relationship due to the fact that she put in so much more effort than I did. Ive just always been against antidepressants so its sad in a way for me to see her on them, knowing that now she is probably "happy" with everything because of a drug. While im still greiving.
betterdeal Posted April 29, 2011 Posted April 29, 2011 I was against them, then I ended up on them. It doesn't make you happy, rather it gives you some space in which to cope with life a bit better. Different strokes for different folks. You grieving the loss of that relationship is good. Wish her well, and let go.
Pens55 Posted April 29, 2011 Posted April 29, 2011 Ive just always been against antidepressants so its sad in a way for me to see her on them, knowing that now she is probably "happy" with everything because of a drug. While im still greiving. Unless you've experienced problems serious enough to need them, please do not criticize. They are not 'happy' pills as you assume - sometimes a state of depression is difficult enough to overcome that these drugs become a life saver for many of us. Depression isnt just being sad, its a chemical imbalance which drugs can help rectify - yes, therapy alone can help, but anti-depressants help as well. Its very possible for someone to end a relationship because they have such a strong feeling of sadness that no one can make them happy - not even themselves. So to answer your question, drugs probably not, but depression yes.
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