VicJay79 Posted April 29, 2011 Posted April 29, 2011 Dear Friends, I just ended a fairly long relationship after several months of abuse and neglect. I just entered into a new relationship with a nice girl and I am very much out of the dating scene. Anyway, this new girl has a horrible boss and at times feels unhappy and neglected at work. When my new-gf told me this, I was somewhat put back at how much this news was effecting her. After all, she had a brand new guy in her life that she has was falling in love with and more over looking for her entire life (soulmates). I don't get it. We all have tough jobs, but realizing you have someone at home that cares about you, should be enough to get over any horrible day? Am I wrong to be a bit disappointed in her for not realizing this. Vicjay79
Author VicJay79 Posted April 29, 2011 Author Posted April 29, 2011 Here I am hitting refresh and no one has any incite . Doooh! Dear Friends, I just ended a fairly long relationship after several months of abuse and neglect. I just entered into a new relationship with a nice girl and I am very much out of the dating scene. Anyway, this new girl has a horrible boss and at times feels unhappy and neglected at work. When my new-gf told me this, I was somewhat put back at how much this news was effecting her. After all, she had a brand new guy in her life that she has was falling in love with and more over looking for her entire life (soulmates). I don't get it. We all have tough jobs, but realizing you have someone at home that cares about you, should be enough to get over any horrible day? Am I wrong to be a bit disappointed in her for not realizing this. Vicjay79
anne1707 Posted April 29, 2011 Posted April 29, 2011 (edited) I don't get it. We all have tough jobs, but realizing you have someone at home that cares about you, should be enough to get over any horrible day? Am I wrong to be a bit disappointed in her for not realizing this. In my opinion, yes you are wrong. Whilst the relationship with you may be wonderful and make her very happy, it does not automatically mean that anything else going on in her life is no longer important or has no effect on her. Problems with work do not disappear just because personal life is going well. She may well feel that your attitude shows a lack of understanding and a poor ability to empathise with her when she needs your support. If anything, she could be disappointed with you. Edited April 29, 2011 by anne1707
Jynxx Posted April 29, 2011 Posted April 29, 2011 Dear Friends, I just ended a fairly long relationship after several months of abuse and neglect. I just entered into a new relationship with a nice girl and I am very much out of the dating scene. Anyway, this new girl has a horrible boss and at times feels unhappy and neglected at work. When my new-gf told me this, I was somewhat put back at how much this news was effecting her. After all, she had a brand new guy in her life that she has was falling in love with and more over looking for her entire life (soulmates). I don't get it. We all have tough jobs, but realizing you have someone at home that cares about you, should be enough to get over any horrible day? Am I wrong to be a bit disappointed in her for not realizing this. Vicjay79 That's girls for you man:laugh: I don't get it either, you either change a situation or learn to live with it, nobody's holding a gun to your head and forces you to work a job you hate. What I do have figured out is that if a girl complains to her boyfriend she doesn't expect the 2 of you go through options or for you to find a solution for her problem, she just wants to vent her anger. Best is to ignore her or act as if you understand her, as you will only piss her off if you suggest she's at fault for her own unhappiness by not taking control of her life. Also, 30 minutes is not a long time for an answer this time of day
BiscuitXOXO Posted April 29, 2011 Posted April 29, 2011 ^^^agreed, it's like 8:42am here zzzz although I pulled an all-nighter like the poor college student I am I find it a bit alarming that you JUST ended a relationship, then you JUST started dating a new girl, and then suddenly you have deemed each other soul mates. Rebound much? I mean, I get how sometimes two people meet and badabing-badaboom they're connected for life. But in this case......not sure how this will end up. And you basically posted the same thing in another post. Chill out man. But yes, when women vent they just want someone to nod understandingly and sympathize. I wouldn't worry about it. After all, her problem is with her job, not you. And just as some1 said in the other post you posted, if she's unhappy, she'll eventually find another job.
Jazzari Posted April 29, 2011 Posted April 29, 2011 In my opinion, yes you are wrong. Whilst the relationship with you may be wonderful and make her very happy, it does not automatically mean that anything else going on in her life is no longer important or has no effect on her. Problems with work do not disappear just because personal life is going well. She may well feel that your attitude shows a lack of understanding and a poor ability to empathise with her when she needs your support. If anything, she could be disappointed with you. ^ This. Your life together is not always going to be rainbows and puppies. You need to support each other during times of stress also.
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