hurtex Posted April 29, 2011 Posted April 29, 2011 I have to have to ask.... everyone says yay NC and I'll get over him. Did anyone ever use NC and get him back, and be happy with him again? I can't yet give up hope. I'm not ready for that yet.
orangelady Posted April 29, 2011 Posted April 29, 2011 I think when we break up with someone, we really shouldn't expect to get back together. I know it hurts but the more you want it, and expect it, the only person whose life will get worse is yours.
justagirrl Posted April 29, 2011 Posted April 29, 2011 I have to have to ask.... everyone says yay NC and I'll get over him. Did anyone ever use NC and get him back, and be happy with him again? I can't yet give up hope. I'm not ready for that yet. I'm doing NC in hopes of him realizing how much he really cares about me, and how much he's actually going to miss me when he realizes im gone...hopefully we can start fresh from there because i do believe in him...and i know that once he's not so busy with college and back to his regular life, he's going to be himself again. Guys are so different from us. They are less mature than us when it comes to multi-taksing. He's recording his first EP and a full-time college senior about to graduate...I understand he's busy...but still he should be making time for me, or at least texting or calling just nicely saying he's busy, but hopes im having a good day? something nice like that...idk not much to ask for. They're going to miss us eventually...you just have to be patient and let it happen, and if it doesn't, unfortunately it wasn't meant to be and you have to move on. You're gonna cry, and be upset, but that's completely normal and better to get it over with in the beginning =/ stay strong
Fufu Posted April 29, 2011 Posted April 29, 2011 When reconciliation happens, it is not because of NC. (my personal view ) NC is only solely for yourself to move on and for yourself to know that even without your ex bf/gf, your life still can be happy and meaningful. When comes to reconciliation, your ex bf/gf has to be the one to realize that breaking up is not the only path to choose. Going NC helps the dumpees to cool down, to be less overly emotionally and to be able to look at the situation in different perspectives. Anyway, what I learned was you can't force your feelings and ideas on someone else which is why NC stops you from doing all these things. Ask yourself, will you want your friends and/or families to force their ideas and feelings on you? Will you be happy? This is why we have to let go when our exes do not see the point of being in the relationship anymore. Besides, why do we have to hurt ourselves when our exes choose to leave us. They choose to give up, we can choose to live our lives happily and much more meaningful. My favorite advice to myself, "My true happiness comes deeply from myself, from my heart. Not from anyone else."
nyckidd Posted April 29, 2011 Posted April 29, 2011 I'm doing NC in hopes of him realizing how much he really cares about me, and how much he's actually going to miss me when he realizes im gone...hopefully we can start fresh from there because i do believe in him...and i know that once he's not so busy with college and back to his regular life, he's going to be himself again. Guys are so different from us. They are less mature than us when it comes to multi-taksing. He's recording his first EP and a full-time college senior about to graduate...I understand he's busy...but still he should be making time for me, or at least texting or calling just nicely saying he's busy, but hopes im having a good day? something nice like that...idk not much to ask for. They're going to miss us eventually...you just have to be patient and let it happen, and if it doesn't, unfortunately it wasn't meant to be and you have to move on. You're gonna cry, and be upset, but that's completely normal and better to get it over with in the beginning =/ stay strong This sounds like me and the girl that I was just with in some aspects. I take college very seriously. In fact to serious,serious enough that I basically forgot that we were in a romantic relationship. This made her very sad the whole year but I just wouldnt change, I insisted I knew what I was doing. Well she broke up with me on sunday because she needs to be by herself and is just simply not into this relationship anymore. I regret putting her last on my list and would give the world if I could rewind just one year and treat her like she deserved. So if it was meant to be he will def miss you. I missing my girl right now, and im going to be down on myself for letting this happen for sometime.
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