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So I was with this guy almost a year and living with him. He dumped me three and a half months ago, packed up his stuff and left, and told me it was because I "didn't trust him". He had been talking to this other girl he met from the internet and she was really mean and rude to me. I suspected she liked him because she would always try and do things to tear us apart. I even tried to be friends with her at one point, but she told me that "she doesn't respect me and never will". She was always texting crap to my boyfriend about how "insecure" and "evil" that I was for not trusting him. She told him over and over again that he should break up with me. He would never stand up for me... I would read their texts back and forth and then he started deleting their conversations so that I wouldn't see them anymore. Whenever I asked if he liked her as more then a friend he said "No, I don't even think of her like that. She's more like a cousin to me or a sister".

 

Finally 5 days before he broke up with me I said "If you love me, stop talking to this girl. She is from the internet. You haven't met her anyways and all she does is cause fights between you and I. Stop talking to her, please, for me and for us..." so he said yes. He then called her, told her they couldn't be friends anymore, and deleted her off of facebook and blocked her. She was crying and begging for him not to... but he said he had to because he loved me. I was relieved. Finally I thought this girl was gone for good.

 

Well, right after this happened my boyfriend started to become very distant from me. I could tell something was wrong. Then one day he came home from work, changed all of his passwords, and announced he was done with me. I asked if it was because of this internet girl and he told me it wasn't, that it was all my fault and that "you aren't supposed to spy on the one you love." He told me he had been planning on breaking up with me for 3 days.

 

That night he added her back on facebook and he put that we aren't in a relationship anymore. She "liked" it.

 

So I begged for him back for pretty much 2 months straight and a month and a half ago I finally went NC but still had him added on facebook. I check her facebook frequently also and she said that she was going to this anime convention "Sakuracon". Then she put a poll on her facebook that said "Who is going to Sakuracon?" And my ex answered "Yes".

 

So last weekend he went flew halfway across the country to go meet this girl from the internet, What a load of BS that he doesn't have feelings for her. He dumps me after I told him to stop talking to her and then he flys out to Washington to see her.

 

I found a pic on the internet of him at Sakuracon (he didn't look very happy in the pic either. He looked sad and uncomfortable. My mom and friends thought so too), and the girl from the internet was nowhere to be found. I emailed the girl who took the picture with him and asked if he was with a girl. But she said "No, he wasn't with anybody. He was walking around by himself."

 

I haven't found pics on either his or her facebook of them at the convention together, nor does it say they have entered a relationship or anything. NOTHING! They didn't even mention they had fun or saw each other. I know they both went to the convention because her friend posted on her wall saying "Sorry I didn't talk to you at the convention. Hope you had fun!" (She never answered) and I saw a pic of him by himself at the convention.

 

Do you think they saw each other and things don't work out? Do you think he broke up with me because he actually had feelings for her? Why else do you think he would go all the way to Washington just to be with her?! I am now tempted to text him and get some closure or ask how it went or something. I still love this guy and I am hoping that if it didn't work out with them, maybe he will be calling me soon.

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It doesn't matter anymore

An internet girl , a semi-stranger can cause security problem in your relationship with him only signifies that your love is not firm enough.

Keep NC, don;t even think about him, not to mention to contact him.

If he is not happy, that's what he asked for .

If in hindsight, he realizes that he loves you and hurted you. he should take the initiative and summon the courage to look for you.

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It doesn't matter anymore

An internet girl , a semi-stranger can cause security problem in your relationship with him only signifies that your love is not firm enough.

Keep NC, don;t even think about him, not to mention to contact him.

If he is not happy, that's what he asked for .

If in hindsight, he realizes that he loves you and hurted you. he should take the initiative and summon the courage to look for you.

Thank you for your post. I totally agree that it does show that our love wasn't firm enough. I cared so much about him and he obviously didn't care enough for me...
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