nyckidd Posted April 29, 2011 Posted April 29, 2011 So my gf of 2 years broke up with me on sunday. I knew it was serious because the week leading up to it just seemed 'off'. She said she needs to be by herself and that she doesnt want to be with me anymore. I was a jerk for the second year of the relationship, and towards the end I pushed her aside alot and was basically selfish in many aspects. This is regretful because she treated me like gold and loved me, and truley cared for me and wanted a future. I could go on but the details would go on and on. After the breakup I went NC for 4 days but just had to contact her. I didnt get anywhere and I knew I wouldnt, but I asked her if she would mind if I would keep in touch with her and she said she wouldnt mind. She restated that she just couldnt be with me. She also said that she never changed her relationship status on facebook because she is not ready to completley shut me out of her life. (Yes facebook relationship status, Its said how much that means these days in the world of social networking.) When I asked her why she broke up with me over the phone, she said its because she wasnt strong enough to do it in person. Lastly I asked to see her for the last time tommorw and if I could give her this drawing that I drew last week and she said no because shes not strong enough right now, and she doesnt want it to sway her desicion. I asked again and she said ok but quickly. I dont know what to do, but I do know that I have to stop talking to her. I want this girl back in my life so badly so I can show her what she really deserves. Does anyone have any advice? Or know why she is saying the things she is? and lastly what can I do to make this situation better or worse? Thank you
Trovador Posted April 29, 2011 Posted April 29, 2011 There is no much to do or think, really. Respect her wishes. She doesn't see as her romantical partner anymore. Or do you think she is just playing around? Well, she is not. And we dumpees shouldn't expect the other party is coming back. Cruel as it might seem to us, it's that simple. You should back off with dignity. Without crying, begging, clinging to her, stalking her, calling her, etc. It would be slightly different if she wanted you around for a while, but it seems it's you the one wanting a sort of friendship. Let me tell you this, going away from her is less painful than trying to be part of her life. Get used to living without her. Don't contact her anymore, a day a time, and above all don't expect her back. It's time now of focusing in what is really important: yourself. You will survive, you'll see...
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