Surfer Girl Posted April 29, 2011 Posted April 29, 2011 I know the first 3 months are getting over the addiction. How many months or years did it affect you to the point you felt the worst? And when did you get to the point you could move on?
USMCHokie Posted April 29, 2011 Posted April 29, 2011 Everyone will be different, but for me personally, it was probably the worst around 6-8 months after the breakup. I thought that 6 months should have been enough time to move on, but all I only felt incredibly lonely at that point. It started getting better around a year later, when I realized how much time had actually passed...I started dating again, but I never found anything serious...now I'm coming on two years since the breakup...
bestrong Posted April 29, 2011 Posted April 29, 2011 It was awfully cause I didn't go NC completely. I first went NC six months after we broke up. Had 5 months of NC which I became functional again. She contacted and I gave in every 2 months or so. I feel like I am running around the track, but each time I feel a little bit better that the previous one. It's going to take a long time to fully get over her, but I feel the worst if I dont talk to her so I chose this long painful one which I might beat myself up for it in the future.
Fufu Posted April 29, 2011 Posted April 29, 2011 First month of the break up was the most horrible for me. The crying, begging, pleading, self-destructing moments. 3rd month onwards, i still feel inconsistent, now 6 months, feels great Though on and off I still think of him, but I know I can't wait around for him anymore.
orangelady Posted April 29, 2011 Posted April 29, 2011 but I know I can't wait around for him anymore. For me the knowing that I can't wait around creates a deep sadness within me. It's like "I don't think anyone I could find anyone anymore." How do you get past that? Sigh...
Layzie89 Posted April 29, 2011 Posted April 29, 2011 I think the first two months are the hardest. Begging, crying...holding onto hope that maybe they might come back. For me I realized by the 3rd month that she wasn't coming back, accepted it and started feeling better. Nearing four months now and I can honestly say that if she were to attempt contacting me to get back together or even just be friends, I don't think I'd even want it. Shes a stranger to me now. I don't know her anymore so I have no urge at even getting to know her...if that makes any sense. How long since the breakup for you if I may ask?
nana841121 Posted April 29, 2011 Posted April 29, 2011 First three months were the darkest moments in my memory. i was crying and listeninig to sad love songs and ruminating over the past all the time. After that, coincidentally, Spring came. as the temperature rising up, i felt better and activate again. His image occurred to my mind occasionally,but i was not depressed anymore, except some lonely nights
Fufu Posted April 29, 2011 Posted April 29, 2011 For me the knowing that I can't wait around creates a deep sadness within me. It's like "I don't think anyone I could find anyone anymore." How do you get past that? Sigh... Build up your self-confidence. Believe in yourself. You can always find someone better, but in the journey to find a new person, always work on yourself first, be a better and more confident person. In this way, you are happy for who you are and not what other person gives you or sees you as.
Author Surfer Girl Posted April 29, 2011 Author Posted April 29, 2011 It has been 2 months for me. I have a ways to go. I have talked to some that say it really hit them at 8months, a year...
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