maysj18 Posted April 29, 2011 Posted April 29, 2011 I have two friends. They are both absolutely gorgeous girls and they look almost identical. They get asked if they're twins/sisters all the time. Well, one is single and one has a boyfriend of almost 5 years. As far as personalities go, the single one is a social butterfly while the other is kind of reserved but not really shy. I was talking with them the other day, and it seems like the single one gets hit on all the time while the other girl is just kind of there. So, my question is, do people really give off vibes like that? I mean, is random attraction more than just thinking someone is pretty? Like I said, they look and nearly act exactly alike. I just wonder what it is that separates them so much in that aspect. Btw, about my friend's boyfriend of 5 years- he doesn't go to school with us, so most of the guys I'm referring to don't know she has a boyfriend, so I doubt it has to do with that.
Professor X Posted April 29, 2011 Posted April 29, 2011 Of course people send those vibes out. You can feel it everyday. Like you said, she's more of a butterfly, so she sends out vibes of being a bit more of a free spirit.
Nexus One Posted April 29, 2011 Posted April 29, 2011 I can only develop a crush after knowing a girl's personality. Can't do it without. Attraction is absolutely more than just looks. For me a girl with a magnificent personality can blow girls that are prettier than her completely out of the water. That doesn't mean a more outgoing girl is better by definition, absolutely not. A beautiful personality can come in many forms.
alethean Posted April 29, 2011 Posted April 29, 2011 I've personally lived a similar experience. During my freshman year, a lot of people thought that my roommate and I looked alike. We weren't related at all and we didn't see it, but so many others did and we were constantly asked if we were sisters/twins. I guess if I were other people I might have seen it--we were similar in height, build, weight, facial structure, skin shade, even hair color at the time. Anyway, my roommate was a lot more flirtatious and outgoing than I was, and she had guys on her all. the. time. Where I rarely did that year. So my personal experience is that yes, people do give off vibes that others can catch on to. I've been told countless times that the ones I give are sort of aloof, intimidating, "back off" vibes. My two cents. Oh, and there are times when I would get to know a pair of identical twins and I would identify with one more than the other, or find one more attractive than the other based on personality.
EasyHeart Posted April 29, 2011 Posted April 29, 2011 I think the vibe you're talking about is what I call "approachability". Most guys don't want to harass women, so they look for signals that it's okay for them to approach. Usually, it's body language, eye contact, smiling, etc. that make us think (rightly or wrongly) that you want us to talk to you. Sometimes it's simply a matter of whether you're ever alone. Many women "travel in packs" -- they never do anything alone or go anywhere alone. If you surround yourself with other women (or men), very few guys are going to approach you.
TouchedByViolet Posted April 29, 2011 Posted April 29, 2011 I think the vibe you're talking about is what I call "approachability". Most guys don't want to harass women, so they look for signals that it's okay for them to approach. Usually, it's body language, eye contact, smiling, etc. that make us think (rightly or wrongly) that you want us to talk to you. Sometimes it's simply a matter of whether you're ever alone. Many women "travel in packs" -- they never do anything alone or go anywhere alone. If you surround yourself with other women (or men), very few guys are going to approach you. I agree with this. Generally, I like to get eye contact or some positive signal before I approach a woman. Also, if a woman constantly hangs around a pack of other people I probably won't approach her because I am not socially deft in those situations. One of her friends is bound to say something smart and I rarely have a smart answer to throw back.
lookingforyou Posted April 29, 2011 Posted April 29, 2011 I think the vibe you're talking about is what I call "approachability". Most guys don't want to harass women, so they look for signals that it's okay for them to approach. Usually, it's body language, eye contact, smiling, etc. that make us think (rightly or wrongly) that you want us to talk to you. Sometimes it's simply a matter of whether you're ever alone. Many women "travel in packs" -- they never do anything alone or go anywhere alone. If you surround yourself with other women (or men), very few guys are going to approach you. I do tend to get more attention when I'm by myself. But I'm not what men would call approachable. Sometimes I'm so deep in thoughts to realize someone was looking at me and by the time I do, we've usually passed by each other. Other times there just isn't enough seconds for me to wonder whether the guy is really interested in me or I have something stuck on my face. I agree with this. Generally, I like to get eye contact or some positive signal before I approach a woman. Also, if a woman constantly hangs around a pack of other people I probably won't approach her because I am not socially deft in those situations. One of her friends is bound to say something smart and I rarely have a smart answer to throw back. You just need eye contact? I do give that once in a while. The guys didn't do much more than stare back or quickly look away.
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