ilovedhim Posted April 28, 2011 Posted April 28, 2011 Today has been one of the worst days just trying to deal with nc. Some milliseconds were bearable but I'm not doing well. Itseems everywhere I go I I'm confronted with something or someone that reminds me of my ex. Maybe I need a vacation. Should I just swallow my pride and call him? But what if he never esponds. This sucks!!!!
VJohnson32 Posted April 28, 2011 Posted April 28, 2011 How long is it been since the break up? and when was the last contact? Every temptation and urge you over power makes you a bit stronger. Its an addiction you have to defeat by calling him you will just relapse.
Author ilovedhim Posted April 28, 2011 Author Posted April 28, 2011 The last time I saw him was march, last contact was april 11. I can't remember a good day so far. I guess I feel guilty. There wasn't proper closure. He was hurt when I told him I want no contact, hung up on me thensent me a nasty text he was hurt. Buthe hurt me and he didn't want to hear me out. I ignored the last text and have been nc ever since. He hasn't attempted to cotact me either. Presumably because Ive been avoiding him for a few weeks before nc. Should I wait until next week and call him for a final breakup?
VJohnson32 Posted April 29, 2011 Posted April 29, 2011 I apologize, since I havnt read your background story really I am not in a position to give you any more advice, however a clean break up and closure are sometimes required for an individual to seek happiness and move forward with their life. If you two ended things on bad terms then this will just drag you down. Calling him wouldnt really be a great idea, since you are still quite not over him and will just set you back to hear his voice. A nice and sincere email will do the trick. Explain yourself truthfully and how you feel and apologize about what has been said and done in the past and the truth will set you free. You need to say everything thats holding you back from moving forward. If you get no respond then its all right, you have already redeemed yourself.
JasonRules Posted April 29, 2011 Posted April 29, 2011 The last time I saw him was march, last contact was april 11. I can't remember a good day so far. I guess I feel guilty. There wasn't proper closure. He was hurt when I told him I want no contact, hung up on me thensent me a nasty text he was hurt. Buthe hurt me and he didn't want to hear me out. I ignored the last text and have been nc ever since. He hasn't attempted to cotact me either. Presumably because Ive been avoiding him for a few weeks before nc. Should I wait until next week and call him for a final breakup? Do not contact him. It will only cause you further pain and grief. If you'd like email me: [email protected]
Fufu Posted April 29, 2011 Posted April 29, 2011 Why do you want to break your own self-esteem by contacting him. Vacation is a good idea, go with your family or friends or even both It's good to take a break sometimes to refresh and enrich ourselves. Stick with NC and you can do it.
Author ilovedhim Posted April 29, 2011 Author Posted April 29, 2011 VJohnson32- that was good advice. i did end up writing an email but haven't sent it. i'm holding onto it for now to see if he makes a move first. figure i have the rest of my life ti hit the send button. Jason- thank you so much! i will email you the whole story since i've been reluctant to post hear tmi. you give good advice on ls. my email is [email protected] so you know it's me. Fufu- it's so much easier to give advice yesterday was awful. this morning the royal wedding is giving me some hope.
orangelady Posted April 29, 2011 Posted April 29, 2011 Do not contact him. It will only cause you further pain and grief. If you'd like email me: [email protected] I thought people can't publish their contacts on here.
Fufu Posted April 29, 2011 Posted April 29, 2011 ilovedhim: Don't be too hard on yourself Give yourself some positive advice, it helps as well.
Popondetta Posted April 29, 2011 Posted April 29, 2011 If you really feel like you need closure then I agree that it's ok to send an email. I actually sent my ex an email a month after the breakup just to try to normalize everything.. (now that is truly impossible for me but sending that mail didn't make it any worse. At least now I know that we are on "good" terms. There's nothing worse than having that feeling that there has been a misunderstanding). I would however make someone else read the email before you send it. (And don't expect a reply- I got one but he didn't beg to get me back unfortunately)
SleeplessRomantic Posted April 29, 2011 Posted April 29, 2011 ilovedhim, You will be fine. I promise. My suggestion would be to NOT send the email, but if you do, go for it. The more time you spend not making contact, the less you will think about him in the long run. It's been about three weeks, and it will take longer. Give yourself a break. Start doing things you enjoy. If doing things you enjoy reminds you of him, then do something you've always wanted to do but haven't.
Author ilovedhim Posted April 29, 2011 Author Posted April 29, 2011 fufu- thank you Popondetta- i don't think we'll ever go back. we're not good for eachother. but just want the guilty feeling to go away. was actually thinking of waiting another month and just meeting up with him. that way our feelings aren't so raw. the other times we've broken up, i emailed him and he wanted back. this time is probably different.
Author ilovedhim Posted April 29, 2011 Author Posted April 29, 2011 SleeplessRomantic- yeah i think i'm leaning towards emailing or seeing him.
cerridwen Posted April 29, 2011 Posted April 29, 2011 (edited) I thought people can't publish their contacts on here. Yea, Orangelady, it's really not wise. From the Community Guidelines: "...For your own protection and the privacy and security of all of our guests, personal or personally identifiable information such as the following may not be included within submissions to the forum: E-mail addressesInstant message contact information (screen names, usernames, etc.)Telephone numbersMailing addressesBank account numbersPasswords, usernames, or access codes" Edited April 29, 2011 by cerridwen
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