How Do I Know If Something Is Going On Between Them?

[lil_Hana]

Me and my partner have been together for nearly three years now although we did break up for about two months at one point. We have had our good times and bad times together and our break up I thought was a result of a rough patch that we had been going through.

 

We had been living together for 6 months when he found out that one of his best friends was being sent out to afghanistan, at this news be became moody and cold towards me, I put this down to him being worried about his friend being out on the front line and I tried to be there for him if he needed me. But it seemed as though he did not want any help from me at all. He started spending 90% of his time at his friends house with his feonce (who my partner had also known since he was in high school and was also one of his best friends). At first I did not worry as I thought that they would probably need to speak to each other about it as they knew how each other felt.

 

Just before our break up I noticed that they seemed to be getting far too close and flirty to each other and every time I mentioned this my other half became moody towards me, telling me I was paranoid and it would usually result in an argument and him storming out of the house to hers. Shortly after this I found out that his friend in afghanistan had broken up with his feonce while he was out in afghanistan and then just as I thought things could not get any worse he told me that he did not want to be with me anymore.

 

I found out a couple weeks later that they had started seeing each other but that they had not told very many people. I was heartbroken. Then just as I was coming to terms with the fact that they were together I woke up early one morning to see him standing at my front door wanting to speak to me. He told me it had all been a big mistake and that he still loved me and that he regretted what he had done. After a couple weeks I accepted his apology and we got back together.

 

Since then we have been really great, his friend that got sent out to Afghan and this then feonce have now got back together and have recently got married and had a baby, and I have been getting along with her for the sake of my other half as I wanted him to be happy.

My other half proposed to me on Valentine's Day and I couldn't have been more happier and we have been getting along great. But now his best friend has been sent back out again and I have noticed a change in my feonces behaviour, although it is not as bad as before I am still worried.

He is going up to her house again at least once a week and while he is there he does not text me back, or if he does he takes atleast an hour and will say something like 'sorry I don't get signal in the house'. Then he won't get home until late even if he has work in the morning.

 

Am I just being paranoid or could our relationship fall apart for the same reason as the last time?

[Professor X]

You aren't paranoid, but you honestly don't care either.

 

Facts are simple: he broke up with you to be with her. Her BF came back so he ditched your BF, your BF came back to you and you took him back.

Her BF left again, so he's getting close to her again.

It's quite obvious that you're not his #1, but rather his #2 - and that is because you allow him to make you #2, yet you still wanna marry the guy.

 

History might repeat itself, though one can never be certain.

[rowe33]

It seems pretty clear that he's cheating with her again. Need to decide if you really want to be engaged to someone who would do that to a "friend" whose wife just had a baby.

[Kelemort]

Break your engagement and dump the guy. You're all great and dandy until his best buddy's off and back to Afghanistan, and then you're the pot for him to poop in when he realizes the other woman is open.

 

What a scumbag your fiancee is, to go off and be with his best friend's wife like that. You can do better.

 

Leave him and take him back. I know it's a long time invested, but better now than 10 years from now.

[Woman In Blue]

Hana - it's spelled "fiancee."

 

Secondly, just because the guy shows up at your door saying "I'm sorry" doesn't mean he deserves to be WITH you again and all is forgiven. He disrespected you HORRIBLY - forgiving him and taking him back was your FIRST mistake.

 

Professor X is 100% correct. It's so painfully obvious that she dumped your boyfriend's loser a*ss because HER boyfriend came home from war. He was left out in the cold so he came crawling back to YOU, claiming what a 'mistake' he'd made and how he 'regretted' what he did. God what a freakin' liar.

 

What kind of a JACKASS is he - and what kind of a FLOORMAT are you - that you continue being friends with these people???? He disrespects you, dumps you, humiliates you and devastates you all so he can be with HER - and now you're all buddies again????

 

Let me ask you - does her husband KNOW what a scumbag your boyfriend is? Does he KNOW your boyfriend - his "supposed" BEST FRIEND from childhood - was screwing around with his girlfriend when he was away at war? Why don't you ASK him if he knows what a scumbag your boyfriend is? I'll bet the farm he doesn't know. And I'd also bet the farm he'd put your weasel boyfriend's head right through a brick wall - and he'd deserve it.

 

Are you being paranoid, you ask? I think you're being foolish for wasting your time on a lying, cheating scumbag is what I think. But I would have NEVER given him a second chance in the first place.

[messyipo]

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[OldOnTheInside]

I pretty much agree with what everyone has already said.

 

Have you read what you have typed OP? I'll give you a concise version.

 

-Your bf's friend leaves for Afghanistan.

-Your bf becomes moody and distant.

-He spends more time with his friend's fiancee (in her house too) than he does with you.

-Friend breaks up with his fiancee.

-Bf ditches you for the other girl.

-Friend comes back from Afghanistan and marries the other girl; your bf returns to you.

-Later the friend gets redeployed to Afghanistan.

-Bf's behaviour changes again.

-He visits other girl's house every week.

 

Do you see anything wrong with this? What do you think you partner is doing at the other girl's house? Playing checkers?

 

Frankly, there is no reason to take this level of disrespect from your partner. I know I wouldn't. Should you?