Crazy Magnet Posted April 28, 2011 Posted April 28, 2011 How normal is it for guys and girls to throw out lines in the beginning of a relationship like: 1. I can't believe you're still single. 2. I've never felt like this before. 3. You are so perfect. 4. I'm really falling for you. I tend to be on the shy side so it's rare that I would ever say something like that early into a relationship. It could also be that I'm more cynical than I think I am and I spend the first several months wondering when the guy is going to do the first incredibly stupid thing.
laRubiaBonita Posted April 28, 2011 Posted April 28, 2011 i would think those lines are usually pulled out in the dating phase.... not the relationship phase.... but i dunno
threebyfate Posted April 28, 2011 Posted April 28, 2011 It's up to you to differentiate when someone's being genuine, instead of vomiting cliche lines.
carhill Posted April 28, 2011 Posted April 28, 2011 'I really enjoy the time I spend with you' 'I'm so glad we met' 'You're a real positive influence in my life' The line women nearly universally hate, so far, is 'I really feel a connection'. After enough ersatz connections, I've grown out of this unattractive habit
USMCHokie Posted April 28, 2011 Posted April 28, 2011 These sound like things people would say to draw or hook the other person deeper into the relationship, more often than not out of insecurity...
Ross MwcFan Posted April 28, 2011 Posted April 28, 2011 Would be nice to hear someone saying that to me.
sumdude Posted April 28, 2011 Posted April 28, 2011 How normal is it for guys and girls to throw out lines in the beginning of a relationship like: 1. I can't believe you're still single. 2. I've never felt like this before. 3. You are so perfect. 4. I'm really falling for you. I tend to be on the shy side so it's rare that I would ever say something like that early into a relationship. It could also be that I'm more cynical than I think I am and I spend the first several months wondering when the guy is going to do the first incredibly stupid thing. If I hear these things way too early I start pulling away. I'll feel like "You barely know me, how can you possibly fell that way already?" I find that relationship's that start this way tend to be really short and end badly.. but maybe I'm a cynic too.. Because, I'm definitely not perfect, though I am pretty dang cool.
Author Crazy Magnet Posted April 28, 2011 Author Posted April 28, 2011 I would say "I'm so glad we met." because I would be. I tend to comment more on specific things I like because that is more real for me than some generic line that could apply to anyone. "You are great!" vs. "The way you tell jokes makes me crack up, that is so great about you!!" Do you think the wording would make any difference to the person receiving the compliment?
BiscuitXOXO Posted April 28, 2011 Posted April 28, 2011 Do you think the wording would make any difference to the person receiving the compliment? Sometimes I stumble over my words when I'm nervous. So things come out all jumbled. So the first time I expressed my feelings to some1 everything came out funny. But I think he got the general gist of what I was saying :lmao: Same thing happened several months later when we said goodbye T_T, I have NO idea what we said to each other, even a few minutes after, but I just felt very peaceful/happyish sad. Idk, for me the moment and the emotions involved were more important than the actual words.
curlygirl40 Posted April 28, 2011 Posted April 28, 2011 I have come to believe very little of what is said in the beginning, and judge more with their actions than their words. In my short dating after divorce life (approx 10 months) I have heard: 1. I can't believe he let you go! (about my ex. heard that one 3 times) 2. I don't want to lose you (about 2 hours into the first date. Guy was a total player) 3. Even if we don't click, I can tell we're going to be great friends (said by a few match guys before we even met) meh. Like I said. Sometimes it sounds sweet at the time, but later seems so shallow when you realize it's not genuine.
Author Crazy Magnet Posted April 28, 2011 Author Posted April 28, 2011 I have come to believe very little of what is said in the beginning, and judge more with their actions than their words. In my short dating after divorce life (approx 10 months) I have heard: 1. I can't believe he let you go! (about my ex. heard that one 3 times) 2. I don't want to lose you (about 2 hours into the first date. Guy was a total player) 3. Even if we don't click, I can tell we're going to be great friends (said by a few match guys before we even met) meh. Like I said. Sometimes it sounds sweet at the time, but later seems so shallow when you realize it's not genuine. This is the point I'm at. I'm not so interested in what a man says but rather what he actually does. In the past most guys I have dated have thrown out lines like what I wrote in the first post, but I wasn't sure if girls blurted out the same kind of stuff. I know I never do.
BiscuitXOXO Posted April 28, 2011 Posted April 28, 2011 I wasn't sure if girls blurted out the same kind of stuff. I know I never do. I've done it before...flirtateously... I don't know what guys really think when a girls says those kind of lines. But from my experience, even though they don't really believe you, they are usually very flattered and eat it up. It really pumps their ego. But idk how it'd go LT relationship-wise.
alphamale Posted April 28, 2011 Posted April 28, 2011 how about: "omg, that was the best sex i ever had"
OliveOyl Posted April 28, 2011 Posted April 28, 2011 I guess it's about timing. Saying any of these on the 1st date or two seems unrealistic, but they seem like standard things to say when infatuation starts building. I totally agree though it's much more about actions than words.
denise_xo Posted April 28, 2011 Posted April 28, 2011 ...but I wasn't sure if girls blurted out the same kind of stuff. I know I never do. I have blurted out stuff like that in infatuation mode
Author Crazy Magnet Posted April 28, 2011 Author Posted April 28, 2011 how about: "omg, that was the best sex i ever had" I once tried to say: "I want to kiss every square inch of you." and it came out: "I want to kiss all of your inches!" *facepalm* I was mortified. Smooth I am not.
sanskrit Posted April 29, 2011 Posted April 29, 2011 Common, but not normal IMO. Much more normal to focus on the actual experiences shared than verbalizing a budding relationship. Less "I feel like we are forming a strong lasting bond here," and more, "Last night was so much fun but could we take the handcuffs off now? I have to go to work."
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