Callisto484 Posted April 28, 2011 Posted April 28, 2011 First of all, I want to thank everyone for their wonderful comments in my other thread regarding my workaholic husband. One thing that has me confused is that while he claims to want to end the marriage, he has not directly come out and asked for a divorce. Plus he keeps tabs on me via my FB. Yes, I still do have him on it. If he doesn't want me and I assume that he wants a divorce, then why does he care about what I post on FB? Mind you, if I post something regarding my time in NYC or not feeling well or finances, etc. He will contact me to ask me about it. He does this at odd times - usually early in the morning around 7 am (who checks out someone's blog so early in the morning?) or so and then late at night. If he is SO sure that he is better off without me then what is the curiousity(sp?) and concern? This leaves me so confused....I'm thinking of unfriending him but I just can't get myself to do it just yet...
washguy74 Posted April 28, 2011 Posted April 28, 2011 Just because he wants HIS freedom doesn't mean he's crazy about the idea of you having yours.
perfectlyunique Posted April 28, 2011 Posted April 28, 2011 Just because he wants HIS freedom doesn't mean he's crazy about the idea of you having yours. i agree delete him off your facebook and set it to private,or block him. If your separating its non of his business. He wants the marriage to end his choice. So now you can do what you want and you dont have to answer to him
Yasuandio Posted April 28, 2011 Posted April 28, 2011 (edited) Just because he wants HIS freedom doesn't mean he's crazy about the idea of you having yours. Well said, Washguy74! You are one stunning woman! From now on, here is my advise regarding FB. Do not "unfriend" your husband. Instead, allow him so see how wonderful you are doing. FB can serve as "Social Proof" of this fact. People do not want to hear about how bad it is, that you don't have enough money, and you are so depressed. Pick yourself up. Change this around. Start doing things, and post photos! Status should always be upbeat! Try these: "This is the first day of the rest of my life!" "Today the sun is shining on me!" "Wow!" "I love life, and life loves me!" These kind of status reports don't really mean anything. If you want more just ask. Positive remarks on your FB will make your friends happy, and at the same time cause your husband to pull his hair out! If you want to really make a splash, I would change marital status to "complicated," because that is what it is. I would not take any calls from such a selfish pig. If you did something like this, which is a 180, I bet he would be on the red-eye in a heartbeat. But here's the problem. What do you do with him when he comes to you? After such behavior, I do not recommend taking him back so fast. This will backfire on you. Do not let him in to your heart. It will be a mistake. Stay put. Don't go running to Cali, (or where evere he is) it will make you look desparate. Look in the mirror and remember how drop dead gorgeous you are! You are an exotic beauty! Remind yourself of this every moment you breath. This man has been abusive to you, and has severely damaged your self esteem and confidence. Take it back now. I'm praying for you! Edited April 28, 2011 by Yasuandio
SoMovinOn Posted April 29, 2011 Posted April 29, 2011 Let me present a different possibility... Maybe he looks at what and how you are doing because he cares. It is possible to want to end a relationship, while still acknowledging and respecting the love, caring and other feeling that existed.
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