MyHeartHurtsOuch Posted April 28, 2011 Posted April 28, 2011 I guess i odn't fully understand why an ex would want a break up with also wanting the intention of re-visting the relationship in 3 or 6 months....what is that all about? I mean I guess it doesnt really matter what they say right since they can't predict the future But my ex said he needed time and space and wante dto start over with me but very slowly...i said he can but only with me (not dating other women) he said he can't agree to that..no so much because he wants other women but he wants to NOT be in a full on relationship with me yet. So we ended it and I said I'll stop trying and let go. It's been 3-4 days now and NC. I feel so distant from him now and it hurts and I cry when I get off work...I just dont get it. How can he tell me he wants me but not enough... or why can he say he feels something but not enough... and how will dating other women clarify anything for him? i guess fo rme it doesnt even seem possible for osmeone to go from living together to moving out, getting own place and starting from scratch again... how can he risk losing me? he thinks we are not a match b/c of our previous relationship drama wish i could turn off my feelings as he has he goes out and has a blast..when i go out all i do is miss him sucks
2sunny Posted April 28, 2011 Posted April 28, 2011 he's checking out other options but wants to be sure you're hanging around waiting in case he doesn't find someone better. is that enough for you? why haven't you simply told him to buzz off - and never speak to him again? why are you wanting to be his option instead of his priority?
JasonRules Posted April 28, 2011 Posted April 28, 2011 It means they get to cheat without consequences and if they don't find anything they like they can come back to you scott free...
Author MyHeartHurtsOuch Posted April 28, 2011 Author Posted April 28, 2011 It means they get to cheat without consequences and if they don't find anything they like they can come back to you scott free... I know that but why would someone do that? I don't know I guess thats the part I don't understand. If you love someone wouldn't you want to be with them? Do you really need time to check out other options before you commit to someone?
JasonRules Posted April 28, 2011 Posted April 28, 2011 I know that but why would someone do that? I don't know I guess thats the part I don't understand. If you love someone wouldn't you want to be with them? Do you really need time to check out other options before you commit to someone? They do this because they are not in love with you. You are simply a "filler" or someone to kill their time, while they look for other suitors. And no, you don't need "time" to check out other options. If you truly want to be with someone then no one else exists.
Chi townD Posted April 28, 2011 Posted April 28, 2011 He's being a coward. When someone says, "Let's take a break." it means break up. They just down have the guts to pull the trigger. It sounds like he has the G.I.G.S. I would continue NC. He wanted you out of his life and so that's what you should give him. Don't respond to texts or e-mails or take phone calls from him.
Author MyHeartHurtsOuch Posted April 28, 2011 Author Posted April 28, 2011 I mean has anyone ever gotten back together after a break up and actually worked out? if so how long was the time between. it seems like he's not going to realize anything besides that he's happier being single.
alphamale Posted April 28, 2011 Posted April 28, 2011 I guess i odn't fully understand why an ex would want a break up with also wanting the intention of re-visting the relationship in 3 or 6 months....what is that all about? it gives the ex 3-6 months to find someone else basically
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