Confusedlove1 Posted April 28, 2011 Posted April 28, 2011 Hi All, As some of you may know me and my gf are on a break. The break was because of small issues but mostly because of the stress of work. Her merger is finished tomorrow, I have gone 3 weeks NC. I feel like I should send her some flowers and a congrats balloon for finishing up strong. My question is will she be angry at me for doing this? And will this hurt my chances for a future reconciliation? (she said she would call me either tomorrow or saturday to talk about things). Thanks!!
JasonRules Posted April 28, 2011 Posted April 28, 2011 She is NOT YOUR WIFE. She is NOT YOUR FIANCE. She is NOT EVEN YOUR GIRLFRIEND. SHE DID NOT DO ANYTHING FOR YOU TO DESERVE FLOWERS FROM YOU! So to answer your question; NO! Do not send her any flowers. You give flowers to the people that you love and LOVE YOU BACK.
Ajax Posted April 28, 2011 Posted April 28, 2011 Flower would be way over the line. If someone really wants to be with someone else, they don't take a break. They just don't. They work through the stress of jobs, family, and the relationship. Sending flowers will only push her further away. She'll see it for what it really is, and attempt to sway her decision in your favor. And let's be honest... it is. And I can't speek for women, but I have a feeling that they don't generally find it attractive when someone they've lost interest in continues to persue them. Maintain your self respect and dignity. Don't sent the flowers.
ilovedhim Posted April 28, 2011 Posted April 28, 2011 (edited) no contact means we are dead to them. just imagine this: you send flowers they end up n the trash and someguy she started seeing sends her flowers and they're in vase with water... hypothetic, extreme, but just don't do it. And what if you send her flowers and she never calls tomorrow.. OR worse tells you about her new guy. Good luck if she calls anyway. Today is averybad day for me and reading jason post has really put me back on track. Edited April 28, 2011 by ilovedhim
hurtex Posted April 28, 2011 Posted April 28, 2011 I agree although I know it is very difficult when you really want to show someone how much you love them and care for them. I would say no though so that you can hear from her first and see how she is feeling towards the relationship since she said she was calling you soon...
radiodarcy Posted April 28, 2011 Posted April 28, 2011 ummmm.. NO like Ajax said - - flowers and balloons would be overkill. chances are she's probably celebrating that merger with her co-workers anyway. leave it be and stick to NC
whichwayisup Posted April 28, 2011 Posted April 28, 2011 Wait until she contacts you. Verbally congratulate her. Sending her flowers and a balloon, although it's coming from a good place in your heart she may not take it that way and feel like you're pushing or manipulating her. Don't do anything. She asked for NC, she set the tone and also told you she would call you. Leave it be, k.
Graceful Posted April 28, 2011 Posted April 28, 2011 No, honey. No flowers, and no balloons for your ex. She pushed you away, remember? That's her loss, even if it's your nature to be sweet like that. Sorry, but you can see the consensus is to back away from the florist. Hi All, As some of you may know me and my gf are on a break. The break was because of small issues but mostly because of the stress of work. Her merger is finished tomorrow, I have gone 3 weeks NC. I feel like I should send her some flowers and a congrats balloon for finishing up strong. My question is will she be angry at me for doing this? And will this hurt my chances for a future reconciliation? (she said she would call me either tomorrow or saturday to talk about things). Thanks!!
Author Confusedlove1 Posted April 28, 2011 Author Posted April 28, 2011 My heart tells me yes but like all of your advice my head tells me no. She wanted space and that is what she will get. I talked to her roommate today (my best friend) and her tone was a bit less positive about the outcome of things. She basically said that she had no idea what my ex was going to do which is depressing considering she was so positive about things a few days ago. She said the positive/encouraging remarks were likely taken out of contex. She said that all the positive things were said days ago and that she has no idea what she is thinking now since they haven't talked in days. A bit sad by it, but she is just protecting herself. I am hoping she comes around, but we will know in a few days..she is due to call between now and sunday..I will keep you guys updated on what happens but it most likely won't be good. Just my gut feeling.
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