hurtex Posted April 28, 2011 Posted April 28, 2011 I am struggling so much to get over my ex. We broke up in October... I didn't want to get back when he did for months and then when I realized what I lost (how dumb of me) I came back and now he wants space. He says he loves me. He says he hopes we'll end up together. He wants me to give him space. I don't know what to do I'm a disaster. I don't know how long to wait without contacting him. I know I should move on but I CAN'T. I mean it it hurts too much to think that it's over for good. What do I do?! :(
ilovedhim Posted April 28, 2011 Posted April 28, 2011 Start nc immediately. There is nothing you can do when someone asks you for space. You have to give it to them. My ex and I broke up a few times during the course of our relationship. But the last call and texts he said not to contact him and I haven't. Its been hell honestly. But my and your self respect and dignity cannot becomppromised for a temporary feeling. You'll heal. We all will.
Author hurtex Posted April 28, 2011 Author Posted April 28, 2011 I've gone ten days... does that mean I can't contact him later? Do I have to wait for him to contact me?? Ugh and I'm so scared he won't. The worst part in all of this is that there is nothing I can do to fix it. :/
Fufu Posted April 28, 2011 Posted April 28, 2011 I am struggling so much to get over my ex. We broke up in October... I didn't want to get back when he did for months and then when I realized what I lost (how dumb of me) I came back and now he wants space. He says he loves me. He says he hopes we'll end up together. He wants me to give him space. I don't know what to do I'm a disaster. I don't know how long to wait without contacting him. I know I should move on but I CAN'T. I mean it it hurts too much to think that it's over for good. What do I do?! :( Tell you something, my ex bf broke up with me in october too and I too felt very depressed initially. Now, I feel so much better and i no longer have the urge and temptation to contact him and I no longer hope for him to come back for me. If I can do it, you can too. You have to start NC to move on and be happy and not to feel depress for too long and to be stuck in the past. Whatever your ex bf told you, my ex bf also said the similar words to me. You know what, if your ex bf one day realizes he made a mistake by leaving you, let him be the one to make the sincere action and contact to get you back. You don't have to do anything to get him back. If he is yours, he will come back. if he is not yours and no matter what you do, he will not come back. Move on, you have to live your own life. The beauty of life is not knowing anything and everything. This is how and why we can shape our own future to the fullest.
Author hurtex Posted April 28, 2011 Author Posted April 28, 2011 Honestly, I'm having such a hard time enjoying my life. I'm doing everything I can to stay busy but he is always in my thoughts. I randomly start to cry. We were just so good together. I don't know if I can leave it to fate.
Fufu Posted April 28, 2011 Posted April 28, 2011 Honestly, I'm having such a hard time enjoying my life. I'm doing everything I can to stay busy but he is always in my thoughts. I randomly start to cry. We were just so good together. I don't know if I can leave it to fate. You can't enjoy your life because you are telling yourself you CAN"T. You can enjoy your life, start telling yourself the positive words. I used to cry alot for my ex too, then I realize. WHAT THE HELL AM I DOING TO MYSELF. He had left me and hurt me, do I have to hurt myself anymore? I don't have too. My ex and I were also very good together, we never had big quarrels much and were very lovey dovery. And then we even went to buy engagement rings together, planned for engagement. But so what? In the end he still choose to give me up when we met a bigger quarrel issue. I wouldn't want to be with a man who give up so easily and not willing to take time to listen and to work things out. I will leave it to fate personally, it's very exhausting and mind draining to wait around for someone. 6 months had passed for me and I felt so much happier. I can do it, I find myself back, I'm much happier now. You can too and this goes the same for all the dumpees.
Author hurtex Posted April 28, 2011 Author Posted April 28, 2011 My biggest issue is that I did it first. When we broke up he wanted to work on ourselves and us at the same time and I said it wouldn't work. He gave me space and time and now is asking for the same thing. How can I give up on him when he didn't give up on me for so long That's why it's killing me it's not that he just broke up with me. It's that he's saying theres still hope.
Fufu Posted April 29, 2011 Posted April 29, 2011 My biggest issue is that I did it first. When we broke up he wanted to work on ourselves and us at the same time and I said it wouldn't work. He gave me space and time and now is asking for the same thing. How can I give up on him when he didn't give up on me for so long That's why it's killing me it's not that he just broke up with me. It's that he's saying theres still hope. You have to look at his action and not his words. Is he doing anything now to get you back? His not, so why are you waiting? It's not worth waiting. He has to be the one to realize himself that this relationship is able to rebuild and to work it out again. My ex also said our relationship has hope but then where's the action. I won't want to waste my time to wait around for him for something I have no certain about. Don't waste your time on him.
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