Kelemort Posted April 28, 2011 Posted April 28, 2011 This isn't exactly related to dating, but it deals with my boyfriend's sister. She is a year or so older than I am. My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly 3 years, and we recently started living together. I like his sister, but from the time we started dating, she would pry to know about sexual details. Or she would make comments about sex, then say, 'eww, and I don't want to know if you guys are or not.' But she keeps bringing it up, so I'm starting to think that's a sack of crap. Although I post frankly about my sex life here, in the real world, I prefer to keep it between myself and my boyfriend. I've been polite about these conversations, teasingly telling her it was confidential and the presence or lack thereof of our sex life would remain under wraps. Why are people so fixated on this? After a year and a half with my ex, we broke up. Mere milliseconds after extending their sorrow over the break-up, people all around me basically started asking, "So, did you guys ever have sex?" WTF, people? I'd never ask anybody about that - it's not my business. If they offer up seedlings of information, I might first ask, "Do you care if I ask about..." but I'm not going to ask about it. How do you shut these conversations down? I don't want to be a jerkbag to her, as unfortunately she's hyperconnected to the rest of the family, which only means problems for me. I have gently told my boyfriend about this problem in the past, hoping that he could strike it down if she brought it up to him, but so far that's proven futile. Otherwise, she can be a fun friend. I feel it's none of her business to know if we're having sex, especially since I know that news will be spread around the entire family. We live together. If they can't figure it out from that, that's their own problem. I'm not going to confirm or deny my own private details. Is there any other way I can handle this?
dispatch3d Posted April 28, 2011 Posted April 28, 2011 People are going to ask obtrusive personal questions all the time. The more divided you have your personal life from regular opinions the more you'll run into it. Get used to it and stop crying about it? Haha no seriously . It's not really that big of a deal. I generally just act obtuse, give a non-sequiter answer, dance around the details, give a silly response. Essentially anything but the real answer is the kind of answer I would give. I'm totally free with where I go with it too. May as well have fun right?
Jazzari Posted April 28, 2011 Posted April 28, 2011 I think its kind of creepy for a sister to ask about her brother's sex life. Maybe you should go in the opposite direction. When she asks, make up some over the top story. "Yes, your brother loves to tie me up and throw little pickles at me. Just last week, I had to go to the hospital because a pickle struck me in the eye. You should have seen the look on the doctor's face when I told him how it got there. He really got into it though and had a few cool ideas. Want me to hook you up with him?"
Author Kelemort Posted April 28, 2011 Author Posted April 28, 2011 Good advice. Maybe I'll start out with a serious description of our sex life, then gradually sink down until it gets more and more insane. Bondage, dwarves, furries, donkeys, etc. That should shut'er'up. I wish they'd start asking more about the 'engagement' and 'marriage' thing nowadays.
Author Kelemort Posted April 28, 2011 Author Posted April 28, 2011 Agreed, Jazzari. That's what's been so off-putting about it, especially the first few times. i was literally stunned! I'd never ask those details about my brother. I wouldn't ask my sister-in-law about them. I could care less! It creeps me out, to be quite honest with you. It would be one thing if we were just friends, but my boyfriend is her brother. I wouldn't want to know how big my brother is, when, where and how, etc. I am a-shudderin' already!
Sivok Posted April 28, 2011 Posted April 28, 2011 The sister thing is a little weird, but talking about your sex life with friends isn't uncommon at all. Infact it's pretty much the norm here in boston
Lilmisus Posted April 28, 2011 Posted April 28, 2011 Ehh, people did this to me constantly when we were together and after we broke up. "So..how big is he? Have you gone down on him yet? How many times? Where? When? How long?" Come on people. One mutual friend after we broke up asked me all those questions, and wouldn't let it go..threatened to even ask him, and I told her to go ahead, that I didn't want to talk about it. You could just tell her "Why don't you ask him? I'm sure he'd appreciate it!" or just flat out tell her (but nicely) that it makes you uncomfortable telling his sister your private business. I've just found that making up elaborate tales about the sex life just encourages them even more. But if you want to freak her out tell her "last night..he screamed your name...it was weird, and I got up and left.."
carhill Posted April 28, 2011 Posted April 28, 2011 Is there any other way I can handle this? 'Why do you want to know?' Listen. Change the subject.
BiscuitXOXO Posted April 28, 2011 Posted April 28, 2011 But if you want to freak her out tell her "last night..he screamed your name...it was weird, and I got up and left.." I like this idea. :lmao::lmao:
dispatch3d Posted April 29, 2011 Posted April 29, 2011 Ehh, people did this to me constantly when we were together and after we broke up. "So..how big is he? Have you gone down on him yet? How many times? Where? When? How long?" Come on people. One mutual friend after we broke up asked me all those questions, and wouldn't let it go..threatened to even ask him, and I told her to go ahead, that I didn't want to talk about it. You could just tell her "Why don't you ask him? I'm sure he'd appreciate it!" or just flat out tell her (but nicely) that it makes you uncomfortable telling his sister your private business. I've just found that making up elaborate tales about the sex life just encourages them even more. But if you want to freak her out tell her "last night..he screamed your name...it was weird, and I got up and left.." Jeez let go about their opinion of you. Oh he's huge, 14 inch weiner it's crazzzzyyy. It's shaped like a whale. No wait kind of like a giant pig. It's the weirdest dick. Oh I've gone down on him everyyyy day. Double down tuesdays? ever do that? Haha literlaly say that. Just talk complete bull****.
Lilmisus Posted April 29, 2011 Posted April 29, 2011 Jeez let go about their opinion of you. Oh he's huge, 14 inch weiner it's crazzzzyyy. It's shaped like a whale. No wait kind of like a giant pig. It's the weirdest dick. Oh I've gone down on him everyyyy day. Double down tuesdays? ever do that? Haha literlaly say that. Just talk complete bull****. Although he was about 7.5 inches, I told her that he was "fun size" and left it at that, since I told him a couple times that it was, but meant it in an appreciative way . She thought that it meant he was tiny and literally fun size (fun size candy)...and that was enough for her to say "Dammmm, really?" and left his size at that. But..I ended up telling her that I had gone down on him, and told her that yes..I did swallow. I managed to avoid the other questions, though..and got more information than I hoped for about her sex life.
Ross MwcFan Posted April 29, 2011 Posted April 29, 2011 Very weird for her to want to know about the sex life of you and her brother. You'd think that'd be the last thing a sister would want to know about.
Author Kelemort Posted April 29, 2011 Author Posted April 29, 2011 Well X, it's routinely a gangbangin' sort of situation with so many faces I can't even keep 'em straight. My boyfriend might have been in there.
Professor X Posted April 29, 2011 Posted April 29, 2011 Well X, it's routinely a gangbangin' sort of situation with so many faces I can't even keep 'em straight. My boyfriend might have been in there. Very good, I give you a 8.6 / 10
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