hurtex Posted April 28, 2011 Posted April 28, 2011 My boyfriend and I were together for 2 1/2 years. We lived together for a year. We broke up in October because we both had some issues we needed to sort out. During the first 4 months he was pushing to get back together, although did give me some space. We pretty much talked to each other throughout the months though. I went on dates with some other guys but no one compared to him. During the end of Feb and March we started to hang out a lot again. We went on some dates and continued to talk. At the end of March he told me to move on and that he needs space. I believe he met someone else. I went beserk and did the whole begging thing. It obviously didn't work. We met last week and I told him I would give him space. He said he's not in another relationship and is using this time to work on himself. I do trust that he's telling me the truth. He is an amazing guy. However, I do know that he may still be saying he loves me and hopes one day we'll be back together because he doesn't want to hurt me. It's been a week and a half of me not talking to him and it's killing me. I cry, I can't sleep, I'm just a mess. I really want him back. How long should I wait to contact him?? I know it needs to be as friends and he can't know how much of a mess I am but I came back to him after space, can't he come back to me? Please help :/
Fufu Posted April 28, 2011 Posted April 28, 2011 (edited) When I seek NC, I never think of contacting my ex anymore. Because by thinking when I can contact him, I will never be able to move on completely. When I seek NC, I seek NC for my own closure and to move on with my life. It hurts initially for me, I was with my ex-bf for 3 years. Engagement rings were bought, supposed to get engaged end of this year. Then, last year October he broke up with me. I too, never saw it coming. However, I know I can't wait around for a man who doesn't choose me actively. It's time to spare a thought for yourself. The relationship has ended, but your own life and future is still on going. Treasure yourself. P.S Don't be friend with your ex, it will only hinder your recovering process. If he's the one, he will come back without you doing anything. You only need to move on. Edited April 28, 2011 by Fufu
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