sharl4real Posted April 28, 2011 Share Posted April 28, 2011 hey, so here's my question, ive been dating this cool guy for 6months now, we have a distant relationship cos we live 4hrs drive apart, but we doing okay. We decided to live together for a month, like a trial for moving in together, since if we wanna ever take the relationship to the next level, we'll have to definitely live in the same area and that meant moving in together. I am just a little worried about the outcome of this, because i dont wanna rush and spoil a potential great relationship, but at the same time, im excited about this cos i know if it works out it will definitely make the relationship stronger and i really wanna know if this relationship is worth it. i wanna know what u guys think please Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted April 28, 2011 Share Posted April 28, 2011 Will you each still retain separate domiciles during this 'trial'? If so, and 'moving in' entails little more than packing your bags for a month's 'vacation', then I see little downside risk in the act itself, but do see potential risk in assigning too much meaning to one month of living together. You're still square in the honeymoon period, so will generally overlook many little things which might otherwise irritate you long-term. Is your goal to eventually get married and have a family? If not, what is your goal? Does your relationship goal and his align? Link to post Share on other sites
Author sharl4real Posted April 28, 2011 Author Share Posted April 28, 2011 yea we'll be living in the same house, and i kinda agree with you on the fact that moving in completely is different and a period of one month its easy to deal with. And yea we have long term plans, thats why im anxious about this and i really wanna be sure we not in a rush. thanks for your reply:) Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted April 28, 2011 Share Posted April 28, 2011 I understand you'll be living in the same house, but will you (or he) retain your separate domicile? As an example, my exW and I lived about sixty miles apart prior to marrying. She had her condo and I owned my home. If she had come to live with me for a month, she may have kept her condo and returned after, or made arrangements to end her lease if she chose to stay. What are your arrangements? Link to post Share on other sites
Irishlove Posted April 28, 2011 Share Posted April 28, 2011 I think it's a very smart thing to do. You will see the bills. Just make sure you are yourself. If you are going to cook everynight make sure you stick with it. If there are things that bother you make sure you don't critisize but talk it out. I'm actually excited for you. lol So cute and romantic:love: Link to post Share on other sites
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