mustang6 Posted April 28, 2011 Posted April 28, 2011 About six years ago I met a man who is unbelievably sexy. I was married at the time so I didnt approach him. Jus recently we came into contact with one another. I have been fantasizing about him ever since my first encounter with him. My question is should my fantasy stay a fantasy or should I follow through. Are fantasies not meant to be fulfilled?
willma Posted April 28, 2011 Posted April 28, 2011 If you are still happily married, then let the fantasy be a fantasy. There is nothing wrong with that, in fact, it's probably pretty normal behavior. Fantasies come and go. It's OK that spouses are attracted to other people, it's totally normal, but to act on it and put your marriage in jeopardy is not wise. Do not do to your spouse what you wouldn't want done to yourself. Keep your conscience clean. If you are truly unhappy with your marriage, then deal with that first before attempting another relationship.
Jazzari Posted April 28, 2011 Posted April 28, 2011 I wored with a man once who was married. I was very attracted to him and he was to me also. But since he was married, we didn't act on it. This went on for a couple years. When he was free, I was with someone else and vice versa. We never touched or saw each other out of the office. But the tension and fantasizing never stopped and actually grew. Anyway, my relationship finally tanked for good and I was moving out of town. He was separated from his wife. After my going away party, we found some alone time and he kissed me goodbye. Just one kiss. It was in the middle of the night, standing outside with a soft breeze, moon overhead. And the anticipation was off the charts. Perfect, right? It sucked. You could almost hear the fantasy shatter. And I could see he felt the same. Awkward pause and we both went our separate ways never to meet again. He had said once that what he felt for me was so magical that he feared the reality would ruin it. He was right. Not to say that your relationship will be the same. In fact, I think its worth a shot. But you are right in that it doesn't always work.
carhill Posted April 28, 2011 Posted April 28, 2011 OP, if you're both free and available, I see no good reason to not act, presuming the attraction is mutual. If it plays out positive, you could have a new and fulfilling partnership. If not, you can cross it off for good and move on with no dreams or little voices in your head. Win-win. Welcome to LS
Irishlove Posted April 28, 2011 Posted April 28, 2011 If you are both single then go for it. Life is short.
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