GUYS: when you break up with someone, why do you REALLY want to be friends with them?

[purplepanda]

The first night my EX broke up with me I told her I do not want anything to do with her. I deleted her from Facebook all e-mails everything. Just in my point of view it would kill me to be friends when you want to be lovers. It is too hard and I cannot do it myself but others can. I would not be friends and try to move on. I know it is easier said then done. It takes time.

 

Yeah, that's what I try to do with all my exes. I'm not really friends with any of them anyways. :/

[dragonfly22]

Well other than my current ex I only had one other serious relationship before and we are good friends. Were really good friends actually but then I started dating my current ex well he didn't like that friendship too much so we stopped seeing each other very often. Now that my heart is crushed my ex-ex has been really supportive so I'm glad he is still a friend. However I could never see myself getting romantically involved again, and I know he feels the same way. We are just MUCH better as friends.

[OldSkool]

Actual statement made by me:

 

"I will always be here for you as a friend. Even though things didn't work out with our relationship, for me to turn my back on you would be saying that everything we have shared together means nothing to me."

[OldSkool]

well, it may be a shift of focus but if there were good times all of that got polluted by you being a lying insensitive pos. So yes, it means nothing and I want the memory of our time wiping from memory.

 

How about that?

 

Well, I don't date lying insensitive POS's so I probably wouldn't end up in that situation.

 

How about that?

[nana841121]

well, after reading all these posts above.

i realized that my ex's behavior is inexplicable.

I broke up with him because of his lack of passion to me.

He got into another relationship one month after breakup

He contacted me about every ten-odd days.

He pretended to be my friend.

I accused him of his infidelity, he grins and bears with accusation.

No idea about his intention.

[purplepanda]

well, after reading all these posts above.

i realized that my ex's behavior is inexplicable.

I broke up with him because of his lack of passion to me.

He got into another relationship one month after breakup

He contacted me about every ten-odd days.

He pretended to be my friend.

I accused him of his infidelity, he grins and bears with accusation.

No idea about his intention.

 

 

Some people just suck.

[ironmanpower]

Don't listen to the bullcrap that your ex gave you. If your ex dump you and she mentioned we can still be friends, you're her plan B. By hanging around while she's banging her new love, you're feeding her low self esteem and making her feel good about herself.

 

Just move on.