neghitzbrah Posted April 28, 2011 Posted April 28, 2011 I need to get this off my chest as I haven't been completely honest with myself and my friends/family regarding this situation. So a month after our breakup, we hooked up and got back together and broke up every weekend. It was really bad, this was all my fault. I would always break it off as soon as I wouldn't see her. I was such an pr**k to her. On the last weekend we did this, she was supposed to meet up with me on a Saturday night. I didn't hear from her for 6 hours and flipped out. She lied and said she was hanging out with a g/f. Turned out she was with a dude, drinking. I assumed it was her ex since she had been in contact with him since our breakup. Why would she talk to her ex who cheated on her twice?!?! I don't know. Rebound. We hung out that night and hooked up as usual. The next day, she calls me at night to break up with me over the phone -- since then we've been NC. Anyways, since our breakup I have dated a few girls and was seeing a girl for a month. I found out a lot about myself regarding interests and goals. I'm in the best shape in my life (starting to show those abs). I'm getting a huge raise at the end of the year and have found new opportunities career wise. On top of that, my social circle has expanded greatly and I have become an overall fun person to hang around. I've become independent and less reliant on having a girl next to me to make myself happy. Being single has its perks. I was doing GREAT. Last month, I went on a few dates with a girl from work. She was cool so I introduced her to my friends --mutual friends-- (I may have posted a pic of us 2 on facebook). Since then, my ex made lame attempts to contact me. She always mentioned how she misses me and wants to be friends. Constantly breaking NC every few days. Wtf, why won't she leave me alone. As stupid as I was, I responded and accepted her friend request on facebook. She has a RIDICULOUS amount of photos of her ex and herself doing intimate things. Umm... does she think I wouldn't see this? Then on top of that she continues to ask me for favors and sh*t (which I ignore). Who does this girl think she is??? TO make things worse, a week ago she sends me this LONG email explaining how 'good' I am and how she 'failed me.' The point of this? I don't know. Together for 5 years and engaged. Four months later, she's still seeing her ex and thinks she is totally over us?? Whatever it is, I won't let it phase me. I'm so glad I'm not with her. Her actions are selfish. She knows how I would react to her actions and yet she continues. It's something new everyday. NO CONTACT continues starting NOW! But would it be rude to go NC again without talking about it to her? Ugh, somehow I feel that she doesn't deserve it.
nana841121 Posted April 28, 2011 Posted April 28, 2011 Her preposterous behaviors disqualified her the right of being informed Ignore her
purplepanda Posted April 28, 2011 Posted April 28, 2011 What goes around, comes around. Though her actions are stupid... I've done that. Just to turn an ex's head. You may say it's a lame attempt..buuut, it's working isn't it? She's driving you crazy. She's making you think about her again. Sometimes, that's all it takes. I'd go no contact, too.
justagirrl Posted April 28, 2011 Posted April 28, 2011 stay NC, seriously. i'm only on day 2 but it really will make you feel so much better...and it doesn't really sound like she deserves any kind of consideration. NC
Author neghitzbrah Posted April 28, 2011 Author Posted April 28, 2011 Thanks for the advice. I haven't responded to anything she reached out to me with since Monday. And even so, it was just a couple of texts. Thank god I didn't hang out with her last week. @purplepanda - It is true. What goes around does in fact come around. It drove me crazy a bit last night, but then I hit the gym and was fine afterwards. I have pulled the NC really well up until she started to contact me on numerous occasions. I think I went NC for about 2 months. Anyways, jump starting NC again won't be a problem. It just sucks how I was with this girl for over 5 years and would never expect this type of behavior. I'm so glad I don't have to deal with that insanity anymore. I will continue to focus on my life as that is the most important. Take care ya'll!
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