rbtnylander Posted May 4, 2011 Posted May 4, 2011 (edited) It depends a lot on the type of girls a guy is looking to attract. Imo, shy guys seem to attract confident, uninhibited girls more often and hardly get anywhere with shy, quiet girls. Also IME, I'd say that girls take into consideration mainly 2 things when talking about the level of attractiveness of a guy: - height - shorter guys are NOT the most unfortunate in this, too much of it can do harm too (I'm 6'3'' and had my share of issues with this) - body built - it's largely a matter of personal taste here; muscular guys seem to be favored indeed, but taking care of your fitness and health without making an obsession of it is the safest way to go And I've heard girls mention eyes when there's not much to say on the 2 above... Strictly talking physical attractiveness, anyone has to deal with stereotypes at one point in their life, I remember as a lanky highschooler I wished I was one of those buff blokes that turned women's head just by entering a room. But then in college I made the best of the bad boy rocker stereotype as I was bassist in a rock band. Now my field of work is creative and so are the people in it and I've noticed that they have significantly wider views on what makes a person attractive. Personality is of bigger importance to more intellectual or mature women and a guy who's found his style, acts natural and shows some originality can win the game over another guy who is just good-looking by numbers. I don't think I have self-confidence issues but I've been told by many that I come across as aloof (that's because I'm usually head-in-the-clouds) and that can be and is misread as insecurity. IME being passive agressive is the biggest mistake I've seen insecure guys do in relation to girls they wanted and it was in many cases only a matter of self-sabotage Edited May 4, 2011 by rbtnylander
blueskyday Posted May 4, 2011 Posted May 4, 2011 Here's a quick rule for men and women: never cut yourself down in jest...ever! I've heard men say things like "If I lost weight then maybe a woman would like me, but I'm a fat pig...." Yuck...better to say "Yeah, I probably enjoy my food a bit too much, but I'm still a stud...yeah?" (cue smile) Also, be modest about achievements, but take credit, too, as in "It took a lot of long hours to get that promotion." You will never hear me say I'm on a diet or that my boobs are too small. I will quietly lose those five pounds...and my boobs? They are perfect and perky, and I love them....see? turn everything into a positive...
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