serialgf Posted April 28, 2011 Posted April 28, 2011 So.... im on a date right now but sort of on intermission, if you will. What the hell is going on? He is a lawyer and picked me up, took me to dinner at one of the nicest restaurants in town, and as we were walking in he said that he has to go work on a case for an hour and then we will meet back up for drinks and a dj set at a bar we both frequent. We have been friends for a while and he told me that he's not into dating anyone right now, but then, after making a joke about writing off the dinner as a business expense, he made a joke about not writing "us" off, then said, oh gee that just slipped out I don't know why I said that. He's teased me with little plays with words like this a bunch. I have gotten out of yet another dysfunctional relationship a couple of months ago and im not looking to get a boyfriend out of this, but id like to get some action... he also paid for the meal after taking some money from me, but then changing his mind and just asking me to pay the tip. I said I would take him out next time and he said yeah let's do dinner or lunch! He also asked me if I wanted to go to a party with him on Friday night. Another thing worth mentioning is that he likes to play the role of the submissive one and im a pretty assertive woman when I want to be. When we said goodby for now he didn't seem the least bit interested in even kissing me, but during dinner and all of our interactions there is lots of flirting and the convo is laden with innuendos... What should I do??? What's going on???? Is he into me or not? He also said something about me being violent towards his ex like kickingher ass, joking of course, but what does it all mean? Is he just teasing me? Can I get some?? Help!! Thanks, sgf
Author serialgf Posted April 28, 2011 Author Posted April 28, 2011 Okay good point, but if you read my whole post, I don't want a boyfriend, but I would like to hook up with him. Is all hope lost for something purely physical as well. A friend of mine who dated him said he's not into kissing and they didn't have much success in the sack...
sagetalk Posted April 28, 2011 Posted April 28, 2011 What should I do??? What's going on???? Is he into me or not? He also said something about me being violent towards his ex like kickingher ass, joking of course, but what does it all mean? Is he just teasing me? Can I get some?? Help!! He's into you, and it sounds like he's got a lot of skill. Darn those lawyers, darn them! If you're just looking for sex and your a women, I don't even know why you need advice. It's like shooting fish in a barrel. I would encourage you to seek a healthy relationship instead, but I know you already have a Dad and you don't need another one blah blah blah.
Nexus One Posted April 28, 2011 Posted April 28, 2011 Perhaps you can tell him directly what you want and that you're not looking for a relationship. Perhaps you can tell him that you know he wants to get dominated and that you can play that game if he wants too. If he's into you he'll say yes, if he's not, well then there's not much you could do about it, at least you would have saved yourself some time.
sagetalk Posted April 28, 2011 Posted April 28, 2011 He's only skilled in spinning some half baked' date=' trite nonsense that sets tarts reeling and coming back for more in their confused stupor. Anyone should be able to do that.[/quote'] Easier said than done.
TheyCallMeBruce Posted April 28, 2011 Posted April 28, 2011 Yeah, this doesn't seem that complicated to me. If you say "hey, let's stop goofing off and go fool around," I can't imagine he'll say anything but "totally awesome" and go to town.
Author serialgf Posted April 28, 2011 Author Posted April 28, 2011 Perhaps you can tell him directly what you want and that you're not looking for a relationship. Perhaps you can tell him that you know he wants to get dominated and that you can play that game if he wants too. If he's into you he'll say yes, if he's not, well then there's not much you could do about it, at least you would have saved yourself some time. Yes, I did tell him I don't want to have a relationship, but I guess I haven't been super forthcoming about wanting to have sex with him. I guess im just not getting the sexual vibe from him. Well here I am at the bar and he's here and we are mildly flirting and bothdrinking so maybe after a cople of drinks I can broach the subject? Im just not very good at hooking up! I ain't got no game! We are both pretty high profile and his entourage and a couple of my friends are here so it seems hard to get anything going....
Author serialgf Posted April 28, 2011 Author Posted April 28, 2011 If you just want sex then ask him for it but don't be surprised when he doesn't seal the deal and bring that to completion. I wish I didn't, but I agree with your assessment, DA! I've had a couple of drinks and will probably say something direct soon, but honestly we. Have already been here, he said he wanted me but when it came to adtion, he did nothing.... so frustrating!
Author serialgf Posted April 28, 2011 Author Posted April 28, 2011 Well, im back at my house. Absolutely no action was gotten. I felt so rejected. A mutual friend who lives where I do was there and was leaving the bar and the guy suggested I get a ride home with him so I did. I gave him a half-assed hug goodbye. I made myself some comfort scrambled eggs and I texted him a thank you text. Just short and sweet saying thanks and got home safe. He texted back asking me to do it again this Friday!! I was totally shocked. Wtf is up with this dude? Additional info is that my friend who used to date him talked to him for a bit and she reported to me that he said that I looked hot, and he would love to get it on, but he can't do that with anyone right now. So why ask me out again?? Wtf???
Star Gazer Posted April 28, 2011 Posted April 28, 2011 This guy has intimacy issues. Or a herpes outbreak. Sorry, couldn't resist! But it would make sense...
LittleTiger Posted April 28, 2011 Posted April 28, 2011 Maybe he just isn't into to casual sex. Some guys really aren't!
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