How do I fix what I messed up? :(

[jamesayer]

I have treated my girlfriend so bad and always tried to control her and made her cry now she is gone.(btw I am 21 and she is 18)

 

One night she told me she was busy with a lot of homework for school , and that I couldn't come over that night , but I could tomorrow , and I kept demanding that I was coming over.I told her I am coming. and she said not tonight

 

Well then I messaged her best friend on Facebook (I have never met her friend before but I just knew her from my girlfriend telling me about her! ).well I told told her friend that me and my girlfriend were no longer together and I told her friend that my girlfriend was immature , not My type , and all this other stuff.and then my girlfriends friend told her what I said . My girlfriend asked me if I meant it when I said that she was not my type and that she was immature then I told her kinda.

 

Well then I asked my girlfriend is she would workout things with me , and she told me she needed to think about things first , and well the next day she told me she was willing to work things out and I told her idkk if I want to.. and she told me well then that's a no and I said its a I don't know and she said I need to know if you want to work things out by tomorrow , and well I never gave her an answer and I told her the only thing I wanted to work out between us was being friends.

 

I then asked her if we could be hookup buddies but not date and she said no and then she said she wanted a boyfriend not a sex buddy and she said go find another girl to be your sex buddy then I said but your better because you know how to use your tongue and I told her I would make being sex buddies worth her while she said I don't know what I ever saw in you. and then I wrote her back ,

 

and now she is not texting me anymore I think she is gone.why did I take her for granted? she was a great girl beautiful, smart and funny but I wanted a slutty girl and asked one out.now when it's too late I see that I really didn't want a slutty girl also my girlfriend said she wasn't ready to have sex but I told her that's the only way I can show you I like you and she said no but then we did it and she cried after. should I try to fix things and say hey to her cause she doesn't say hey to me.

[Nexus One]

I think you need to fix yourself first. It's a good sign that you realize that you messed up, but the behavior you're describing in your post is messed up in and by itself.