SFF Posted April 28, 2011 Posted April 28, 2011 FOr the past month i have been extremely frustrated with my lack of a dating/love life. I have never had a g/f and have always wanted one, but since i had so many emotional problems it kept me from dating. now they are by and large behind me. im 24 and ive never had a g/f and people are starting to get antsy and i feel like in on a clock and im a guy. its wierd. anyway my issue is that im not really a dominant/confident guy. Im just too nice and sweet and quiet for any girl my age or younger (or older) to find me sexually attractive. They always use to say that being yourself is the best way to be when dating but that **** isnt working for me. Being myself means being something no one seems to want. Its just wearing me down now. Ever since the one girl danced with me its been all i can think about. Its like im so lonely and frustrated ill date the first cute chick that shows any interest in me. and this frustration im feeling isnt healthy. again i think im too young for this site but maybe i thought id express myself in hopes someone here might be going through something similar. Maybe a girl whos dominant and is frustrated that she cant find a guy who is just quiet and listens and doesnt mind if she like to be in control a little.
alethean Posted April 28, 2011 Posted April 28, 2011 1. You're not too young. There are several posters here who are around that age, from what I've seen. I'm even younger than you are (21). 2. What sorts of emotional issues have prevented you from dating? 3. How do you know girls don't find you attractive? In high school, I had a mega crush on this guy, but he never knew it because I'm really good at hiding that kind of stuff. Only two guys I've liked have ever figured out that I've liked them. (Well, only two that I didn't tell, that is.) Anyway, I hope others answer this question because I admit that I'm not always the best at helping.
idontunderstand Posted April 28, 2011 Posted April 28, 2011 You're not too young, I'm younger than you are. Just be patient and the right person will find you. For girls around our age, most of them may go for the a-holes/jerks, but later on, they'd want a sensible, warm, and respectful guy like yourself. But this doesn't mean you have to wait, I'm sure there are many girls that are compatible with you. Just continue to be yourself and let things happen on its own.
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