FreewayChick Posted April 27, 2011 Posted April 27, 2011 Ive been reading thread after thread for four days and still cant wrap my head around what happened. I think most people here are much younger than i am. So, as I seek advice, I totally trip on this stuff, as now it all has names and rules. I don't know what this is called or what happened. I am posting this thread here because I also am seeking out advice from certain people that have given great advice and words of wisfdom to others in this catagory. If this belongs elsewhere, I apologize. So here it goes . . . I have a neighbor that I don't like. I think he is a little arrogant, self-centered, and very anti-social. So far, not that attractive to me. I have known him for a couple of years and talk only in passing. Our conversation is usually about him, and I usually ask most of the questions, so I know more about him than he does about me. Before I moved to the neighboorhood, I was told he had a girlfriend living with him for about 3 months. I have seen her a few times, but she doesn't come around anymore. From what I know, he liked her more than she liked him, that is why she is gone. She did come over for the Super Bowl and I know he was excited about this. In fact, this was when he was looking pretty good to me. I believe this is important later in the story. End of February, beginning of March, our conversations started getting longer, more interesting, and he seemed like a different person - almost like he got laid and he was now a new man. He was touchy-feely, funny, and he was nice. He was actually approachable. After a couple of weeks he was becomming attractive. He was all the right things and doing all the right stuff. I felt sexually attracted to him, but not much else. I would not date him, and I certainly wouldn't taake him to meet the parents. At first I shot him down, but he was persistant, and I caved. He made sure that before anything sexual happened there was a couple of things that needed to be said. He never used the word "rules", he did talk about boundries, and he wanted to make sure that when he did find his dream girl, I would have no problem walking away. I told him that would be no problem (his idea of dream girl he would never find - she does not exist). I was so sure of this because he just wasn't that interesting, and MAYBE we had one thing in common. This was not about emotions. This was about sex. For a couple of weeks I went over to his house for a couple of hours of really great sex. We really got into it, we tell each other what we want, where we want it, and how we want it done. I am in heaven. Last weekend I go oer there and we make-out, but no sex. Fine, everyone needs rest. The next night, nothing. Not even a BJ. I guess that is when I showed emotion. Too much for him because when I asked why, he told me because of this, right now. I have no idea what he was talking about. He said,"no more sex" and I said, "Never?", he replied, "Ever", and I finished with, "FOREVER?" (I have to laugh because I read these SAME EXACT lines in another thread). I went home. Of course I cried, I do have feelings, just not emotions. Whatever. I analyzed everything he had said, done, touched, smelled, eaten, or even thought about in tne last 3 weeks.. WTF happened?? I still didn't like him very much, he never did the dishes, he has no friends, he sleeps way too much, but he's great in bed! I was angry. Scr*w this NC stuff, I am pissed. I am sure I acted like someone just told me there was no Santa Clause. Then, I remebered, one night he mumbled that he would never attend an ex's wedding. Then, about the time I caved to his advances, his mentioned his ex was coming on Sunday to deliver her bed and some other rmisc items. She was getting married and didn't need this stuff anymore. That day came and went, and when I noticed the same old bed was still there, he said she owed her landlord money and left the bed in lieu of cash. I think he believed it would be the last time he would see her. He probably was looking forward to it. And crushed when it didn't happen. OK, so what happened here? What do I do? I want him back, is that crazy? Why does it sound crazy?
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