(shorter version) he's too busy for a relationship right now...

[justagirrl]

I posted something earlier, but it was really really long...so i'm gonna try to shorten it.

 

Basically, I've been seeing a guy for about 4 months now, and we got really close really fast. It seems like we've known each other way longer than that. I wanna be in a relationship with him, and i've mentioned it, but being a full-time student in school and also working on recording his very first EP...he doesn't have time right now, but said maybe in the near future when he's less busy. He's a senior in college (I'm a freshmen at the same college) this year, and is graduating next week, and his album will be done by then too...

 

He doesn't really text me first anymore...i've usually been the one asking if he wants to hangout (and when we started talking, it was the complete opposite...i almost thought he was annoying how much he would text me!!) but that made me like him even more. We bonded really quickly and have such a good time when we're together...but it seems like ever since I brought up "a relationship" he kinda stepped back, which is understandable...we still have sex -____- i know...i really shouldn't, and sometimes we try not to but it's hard not to lol.

 

I tried NC but it's so hard! I haven't seen him since the 16th of april (I slept over his place) and we had a really good time...I just don't know where to go from here? Will NC bring him back to the way he used to be? Should I wait for him and see how things go once he graduates and finishes the album? Help =(

[cdeyoung]

nobody's too busy for a relationship - that's just bull. he's trying to say "i want to see you on my time, not yours". you always make time for the people you enjoy.. always, no matter what.

 

my advice.. just back off and let him initiate contact. guaranteed he will text you at some point asking you what's up or how you're doing. once you show that you're not eager to spend time he'll see that and say "hey... she's pretty busy, too. i like that because it's a challenge". don't text him anymore. trust me.

[justagirrl]

It's so hard not to =/ writing on here actually made me feel a lot better getting my feelings out. I work at a tanning salon and I was just sitting there doing nothing and started to think about him and kept telling myself DON'T TEXT HIM....but i did. It's been almost an hour, no response...but whenever he does this, i'll get a text a few hours later like "Sorry! I was doing a paper what up!?" ...trying to act interested, but it almost seems fake.

 

I'm definitely going to try NC. It's just good to hear from other people, thanks for your response

[knathema]

oops i didn't see the shorter version and already replied to your wall of text.

[justagirrl]

you mean my novel?!

[Confusedlove1]

NC is your best bet. If he is pulling away, advancing is only going to make him pull away quicker. As a gent, I can tell you when a woman pulls away from it drives me up the wall mate. Always want what you can't have. A relationship is like a seesaw of pushing and pulling. You need to balance things correctly or it becomes too one sided. You have to take off some of the weight by NC to balance it out again. If he cares about you he will come around eventually, promise.

[justagirrl]

I contacted him today, but still no response...starting fresh tomorrow...NC