confusedbeee Posted April 27, 2011 Posted April 27, 2011 Hi everyone, im sorry to be a pain but im needing some advice! Please help.. So my guy friend who I hooked up with once asked if I was dating… we both had a thing for each other but I guess we both got caught up in the games that nothing ever eventuated.. I know this might be a really stupid question but he always seems to be curious about whether im dating/involved and I cant figure out why? I still have feelings for him and I know there’s still an attraction between us but I cant seem to just be honest with him and tell him how I feel. We were chatting via IM and we usually webcam (no nothing like that), I saw him but I only started my video for a few seconds and closed it. Im a little paranoid because a few mins after he said that ‘we better leave the cam thing because he didn’t wanna reignite anything lol’, I agreed and he said that he just didn’t want us to have bad feelings between us’. Does that mean he probably didn’t like what he saw? We left the video thing at that but we continued to chat and it wasn’t long until he asked if I was dating…I stupidly said yeh, dating (not true) but at the end of our conversation I made a point of saying that I havnt actually found someone im that interested in. And he joked and said…too high standards lol…I took forever to reply when he asked and it was pretty obvious he was waiting for an answer seeing as he replied straightaway and said serious? And then I asked how things were with him and he said that ‘he kinda found someone, going slow and see how it goes haha early days’ He was curious about the guys and well I made an idiot of myself by my failed attempts at seeming all casual. I said that I wasn’t meaning to sound like I think im hot and all but that some guys just don’t get it and that he should give me some tips as to how to let someone know im not interested. He was quick to reply at the beginning of our conversation but when we talked about me ‘dating’ he was taking so long to reply so I assumed he didn’t wanna talk anymore so I ended our conversation with I havnt actually found someone (as I mentioned above) and he ended with ‘too high standards lol’ and me saying yeh it must be that and told him to keep in touch and he told me to do the same …… If a girl tells you she is dating, how would you take it? What do you guys make of our conversation? Did I screw up? Will I still hear from him?
Lucky_One Posted April 27, 2011 Posted April 27, 2011 My biggest piece of advice is to not hook up (whatever that means - do you mean sex? making out? catching a burrito at the mall?) with someone that you really do like. Now you are stuck wondering if you are just a piece of casual tail, or if he really likes you, and you don't know him well enough to simply be honest and ask him a question. As for the conversation, I had a hard time following it. But I do think that you learned one valuable lesson from it - be honest. If you are dating someone, say so. If you are not, then say so. You already said that you and this guy had issues in the past from game playing - and here you are doing it again. Sometimes it takes honesty and vulnerability to be able to get something started; I would suggest asking him if he wants to go bowling or to get a pizza or to the movies one afternoon, and see his reaction. If he accepts and if things seem good and he seems interested during the date, then tell him that you really do like him.
dispatch3d Posted April 27, 2011 Posted April 27, 2011 too much talk about nothing, not enough action. Just my opinion.
Professor X Posted April 27, 2011 Posted April 27, 2011 I foresee a future of beating around the bush for you.
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