Entropy3000 Posted May 9, 2011 Posted May 9, 2011 "Last month just before my anniversary I discovered my wife has been having an affair. After trying to talk to her aboit it she moved me out of the house and moved this guy in. On our anniversary no less. She says she loves him and wants to marry him. Says he is so amazing and she has a connection with him shes never felt before. They have been seeing eachother now for 3 months and he has lived in our home for the last month. I've found out my wife has had several affairs in the last year. She says she wants a divorce and doesn't want to even try. I truly love my wife and i want her and my kids back. I'm willing to do whatever it takes to win her back. In the last week I was able.to be intimate with my wife once but 10 mins into it she started crying and said she doesnt want to hurt people.or me anymore. The next morning she said it just reaffirmed her feelings for him. Her words.say one thing her actions another. The other night I called to tlk to my kids and over heard my son say I'm not his daddy this other guy is. It broke my heart. I tried to tell my wife to end this let me come and work this out but she said we are.getting a divorce and there is nothing I can do to stop her. I've made mistakes in my marriage and I haven't always been the best father and husband. But I've always been willing and able to change and I'm not afraid to face myself. I love my wife so much and I would do anything in the world to get her back. I'm so lost and I can't stop crying. I wish this guy would leave and go back to his wife and then me and my wife might have a chance to save our marriage. I don't know what to do. I just keep praying to god for guidance. To warm her heart and restore our marriage. But everyday I feel her slipping away and I don't know how to bring her back to me. I don't want to lose her or my children. I worked hard to get us where we are and now I have nothing. I can do just fine without her but its her that I chose to share my life with. How can I get her to see the mistake she is making and how can I get her to want to try again. I know we can survive this if I can just get her to try. Please help me. I'm in so kch pain and this hurts so bad. I just want my wife back." How much more disresepct can be shown here? This is not just having some "fun".
Author tomcatf14g Posted May 10, 2011 Author Posted May 10, 2011 (edited) ok first i agree that yes my wife has been more then cruel. but look she is still my wife. and for me that means something. She is not trying to keep the kids from me at all anymore since we had court for the restraing order. I also did serve her with the divorce papers over a week ago and she hasnt even tried to respond to it yet. I also do know for a fact that she is no longer seeing the OM or anyone else for that matter. I never even asked but my daughter voluntereed to me this weeknd that mommy sleeps alone now. and she cries sometimws at night. My daughter asked if she missed the OM and she said no she misses me. I havent called or talked to my wife at all. despite the phone call and voicemail. I do want to but i wont risk going to jail. not only that i have always said i want reconcilation not divorce. if she really is starting to miss me thats a great thing but i am cautious. I wont jump back into the relationship. even though i want to. I intend to keep using this 3 month period to work on me and get me right. one phone call is not enough to show me she is willing to try again. as for her going to church im sure there are some alterior motives. not the reasons some of you think but not completely pure at heart either. But i do truly believe in God and the power of prayer. I and all the memebers of the church i now attend have all been praying for her. my hope is that though her reasons are not pure she will meet someone or hear something thats gets her started down the right path. someone that she will listen to and start down the road to save our marriage. I still have hope but im not stupid either. I know people who have gone thru this and made it work so i am confident if she gets to the point of reconcilation we can make it. But i wont be a doormate or a back up plan. there will be boundries and she will have to make certain concessions. this is all assuming she even wants to try again. regardless im not ready for reconcilation anyways. i want to work on myself more before i even consider it. i want to take care of some of my own issues. I have placed it all in Gods far more capable hands. Its all i can do at this point. im just going to keep taking it a day at a time. But i do still love her and if she does get serious about reconciling i will put forth 100 percent effort. but again i am cautious. The best thing for her and i both right now is prayer. We need prayer for our marriage and she needs prayer for her to turn away from the path she has chosen. im not a religious nut but i have a deep faith. and i am praying for her salvation. for those of you who do truly support me thats the best help i can ask for. pray for my wifes salvationa and pray for the restoration of my marriage and my family. Edited May 10, 2011 by tomcatf14g
dreamingoftigers Posted May 10, 2011 Posted May 10, 2011 The older I get, the more I realize that "evil" is often stupid, childish tantrums. Basically babies with machine guns. Whiners wearing adult clothing etc.
dreamingoftigers Posted May 10, 2011 Posted May 10, 2011 How much more disresepct can be shown here? This is not just having some "fun". It was fun for her, that's why I put fun in little quotes. Clearly it wasn't fun for everyone. Just looks like a case of wife going "wah wah wah but I wanna play with my friend and you would let me, so I'm gonna call my bigger friends (the court) and they're gonna make you sorry. I'm gonna make up a story and then I'm gonna tell!" Childish, I find a lot of cheaters are.
dreamingoftigers Posted May 10, 2011 Posted May 10, 2011 Truly she will probably have to do some growing up over the next 3 months and lie in the bed that she made for herself. If that isn't enough to straighten her out, I would be at a loss for what would.
Entropy3000 Posted May 10, 2011 Posted May 10, 2011 It was fun for her, that's why I put fun in little quotes. Clearly it wasn't fun for everyone. Just looks like a case of wife going "wah wah wah but I wanna play with my friend and you would let me, so I'm gonna call my bigger friends (the court) and they're gonna make you sorry. I'm gonna make up a story and then I'm gonna tell!" Childish, I find a lot of cheaters are. Ok. Sure. Very childish and cruel. In her childishness and just having fun and a tantrum she has done some very cruel things to a person who appears to love her.
Entropy3000 Posted May 10, 2011 Posted May 10, 2011 ok first i agree that yes my wife has been more then cruel. but look she is still my wife. and for me that means something. She is not trying to keep the kids from me at all anymore since we had court for the restraing order. I also did serve her with the divorce papers over a week ago and she hasnt even tried to respond to it yet. I also do know for a fact that she is no longer seeing the OM or anyone else for that matter. I never even asked but my daughter voluntereed to me this weeknd that mommy sleeps alone now. and she cries sometimws at night. My daughter asked if she missed the OM and she said no she misses me. I havent called or talked to my wife at all. despite the phone call and voicemail. I do want to but i wont risk going to jail. not only that i have always said i want reconcilation not divorce. if she really is starting to miss me thats a great thing but i am cautious. I wont jump back into the relationship. even though i want to. I intend to keep using this 3 month period to work on me and get me right. one phone call is not enough to show me she is willing to try again. as for her going to church im sure there are some alterior motives. not the reasons some of you think but not completely pure at heart either. But i do truly believe in God and the power of prayer. I and all the memebers of the church i now attend have all been praying for her. my hope is that though her reasons are not pure she will meet someone or hear something thats gets her started down the right path. someone that she will listen to and start down the road to save our marriage. I still have hope but im not stupid either. I know people who have gone thru this and made it work so i am confident if she gets to the point of reconcilation we can make it. But i wont be a doormate or a back up plan. there will be boundries and she will have to make certain concessions. this is all assuming she even wants to try again. regardless im not ready for reconcilation anyways. i want to work on myself more before i even consider it. i want to take care of some of my own issues. I have placed it all in Gods far more capable hands. Its all i can do at this point. im just going to keep taking it a day at a time. But i do still love her and if she does get serious about reconciling i will put forth 100 percent effort. but again i am cautious. The best thing for her and i both right now is prayer. We need prayer for our marriage and she needs prayer for her to turn away from the path she has chosen. im not a religious nut but i have a deep faith. and i am praying for her salvation. for those of you who do truly support me thats the best help i can ask for. pray for my wifes salvationa and pray for the restoration of my marriage and my family. Stay strong. You are doing the right things.
Author tomcatf14g Posted May 10, 2011 Author Posted May 10, 2011 thanks e 3000. its not just appear to love her. I do very truly love her unconditonally. I still would do anything for her. I love her with all my heart which is why it hurt me so much to be rejected by her and to have been treated the way i have been. i damn sure didnt deserve this. nothing i have done ever warrented this kinda behavior or treatment. but regardless of what she has or is doing i orgive her and i am still in love with her. but with that being said, i wont stand for this kind of behaviour from her to continue. She has to grow up and make changes for this marriage to survive. i think and i hope that in a small way thats starting to happen. then again maybe not. i have my hopes but i wont let them get the best of me. I wont be blinded by her lies and her betrayal anymore. on the surface to me anyways it seems that she is still not ready to reconcile or even consider it. but i really dont know. im not in her life right now and i have no contact with her at all. time will tell. i will remain patient and keep hoping for the outcome i would like to happen. I will continue to keep her in my prayers and place it all in the lords hands. Im still working thru all the hurt and pain this has caused me and until im thru that i dont think i can even do what needs to be done to reconcile. When this 3 months is up i want to stand before her as a changed man. I want to be back to that strong, confident, determined, ambitious man that i once was. only better. i want to be able to show her what she has left and show her that i will do just fine even better with out her and have her want to fight to get me back instead of me fighting for her back. when i see her again i want to be coming from a place of peace and calm. i want to be able to not lash out with the strong intense emotions that i have been going thru. I want her to see the mistake she has made and feel remorse for what she ahs done. and if that happens i want to be able to accept her in my arms with love, kindness and compassion. I want to be able to help her thru this and guide her to a place where this will never happen again. I want to be an example to her of what real true unconditonal love really is. but i also want her to know that i wont stand for this again. that if i take her back this time and she pulls this again, that no matter what love i have for her i wont come back again. that this is her very last chance to get it right. that i will only take complete honesty nothing less. Im working hard on myself so that i will be in a healthy place in a few months ready to either move on with my life and find another or stay and save my marriage. I still want my marriage and i still love my wife. I wont disrespect her either even though she doesnt deserve it or my love. but thats what it means to love someone. to love them despite their faults. I cant change her but i can pray for her and i can ask god to change her heart and lead her down the right path. so thats what i am doing.
2long Posted May 10, 2011 Posted May 10, 2011 Careful, Tom. Your last post was all about HER, not about you. You need 2 get 2 a point that nothing she does can harm you. You need 2 be prepared for the possibility that she has ulterior motives for wanting you 2 believe she's remorseful, or whatever, so she'll be in a better position when the divorce settlement is decided. At the very least, you should take advantage of this time apart 2 learn how you will be if she never pulls her head out of her nethers and you don't recover your marriage. Be prepared for ANY even2ality, of course, including real reconciliation. But don't bank on that, so that no matter what happens, you and your kids will be okay. Okay? -ol' 2long
Author tomcatf14g Posted May 10, 2011 Author Posted May 10, 2011 2long u misunderstood i think. i was simply talking about my love for her and how it would go if she truly wants to reconcile. dont think though that im falling head over heals and all about her. not happening. this time is about me and myself. im being a little selfish for myself for a change. well maybe not quite like that but im healing and doing good. i am finally recovering and moving forward. im treating everything as if my marriage is already over and setting myself up for my new life. as for the divorce itself that ball is now in her court. she has something like 12 days left to respond to it or i win by default. so far she has done nothing. she hasnt even tried to do anything towards it now. so if she doesnt respond and i decide to move forward she loses by default and i get whatever i want. she has said to mutal friends that she doesnt think she really wants a divorce now but hasnt decided yet. if she responds then i am prepared. if not then i have all the power and its up to me to decide what i want to do. so im good. i still hope she doesnt respond. not so i can clean her out but so i can see a sign that she wants to still try.
dreamingoftigers Posted May 10, 2011 Posted May 10, 2011 Ok. Sure. Very childish and cruel. In her childishness and just having fun and a tantrum she has done some very cruel things to a person who appears to love her. Agreed. The consequences of her actions weren't what I was examining. I was examining her actions themselves. They are immature and poorly calculated at best. I mean who types out a death threat in the middle of divorce proceedings and breaks their own RO?
y2k Posted May 10, 2011 Posted May 10, 2011 im being a little selfish for myself for a change. well maybe not quite like that but im healing and doing good. i am finally recovering and moving forward. im treating everything as if my marriage is already over and setting myself up for my new life. GREAT NEWS!!!! BRAVO!!!!! Too many men and women here on Loveshack that are victims of a cheating spouse tend not to leave. You did something admirable. Hopefully the men and women here who read this thread will learn something. If a spouse cheats on you, LEAVE HIM/HER!!!!!! Don't stay "for the sake of the kids" because people can still be parents even without being married to each other. Don't stay for the money, because that's just a bomb that will just sit there waiting to EXPLODE. LEAVE!!!! Also I hope you get full custody of the kids but I doubt it. It's hard to win full custody of the kids if you're the father. Mothers tend to have advantages in court. You'd have to prove that they're in danger or something like that. Keep us updated on all that. Good luck. Enjoy your new life!!!!!
Chi townD Posted May 10, 2011 Posted May 10, 2011 Dude, you have changed soooo much in the last couple of month's and I think it had to do with FINALLY standing up for yourself and for your kids! Your post sound more confident than ever before. And think think that first step was getting that Douche Rocket out of your house. Then, I think your wife finally saw a guy that wasn't gonna take anymore crap. Saw a guy that had his ducks in a row, was organized and ready for anything. She saw someone that was ready for a fight and wasn't gonna backdown and be stepped on and spat on by her anymore. To tell you the truth, I feel (in a weird sorta way) your wife has gained back a shread of respect for you. Good for you!
linwood Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 When this 3 months is up i want to stand before her as a changed man. I want to be back to that strong, confident, determined, ambitious man that i once was. only better. i want to be able to show her what she has left and show her that i will do just fine even better with out her and have her want to fight to get me back instead of me fighting for her back. when i see her again i want to be coming from a place of peace and calm. i want to be able to not lash out with the strong intense emotions that i have been going thru. I want her to see the mistake she has made and feel remorse for what she ahs done. and if that happens i want to be able to accept her in my arms with love, kindness and compassion. I want to be able to help her thru this and guide her to a place where this will never happen again. .... I think you`re screwed Tom. I think you have control of the situation now but you`re still leaning towards "helping" the twisted individual who ripped you to pieces without a shred of remorse until she lost control. I think now any remorse she gives you will be nothing more than a play to regain that control. I think after this 3 months is over you`ll stand before her a not so changed man at all and you`ll find in her exactly what you "prayed for" because that`s what she`ll give you for as long as it takes for you to trust her again. I think that`ll take about 3 minutes of her coy bull****. I think within a year she`ll rip you apart again and you`ll still be pining after this demon who enjoys your pain wondering why it happened...AGAIN. I think this because although you keep saying you`re doing all this for yourself every post you make reeks of a desire to change so she`ll see you`re a better man. Your`re doing what you`re doing not for yourself but appear attractive to someone who has no respect or empathy for you as a human. You will feel even greater pain in the future.
Author tomcatf14g Posted May 11, 2011 Author Posted May 11, 2011 (edited) stupid computer Edited May 11, 2011 by tomcatf14g somehow posted twice
KikiW Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 The part that linwood bolded is what I am concerned for you over as well... Your wife called and left a "sweet" sounding message. I have seen that game played before. She used to own the game - knew how to twist the rules to her liking. Now that someone's forced her to play a game she can't manipulate the rules to her will, she's sad, scared, and uncomfortable. Did she toss the other guy out or did he bolt when the sh*t hit the fan? We don't know, and it's highly unlikely your kids would have that knowledge either. But suddenly she doesn't have her boyfriend anymore and the game is no longer hers. Is is ANY surprise she left that message? She's testing some new rules. Maybe if she acts like a good girl again, she can figure out this new game and become a master at it. Go to church. Stop going to bars. Tell the kids she misses their daddy. Leave a nicey-nice message. You should not have to help her through this, guide her to a place where this never happens again... that's for HER to do. SHE needs to do the work, SHE needs to put in the effort. Otherwise you risk handing her a new game she will eventually manipulate again - and THAT should scare the bejeesus out of you, for your KIDS sake. Risk putting children through that roller coaster? I would say a BIG no thank you. So glad you are working on yourself. Very happy you are doing that. Do that for YOU, not for her. Do that for your KIDS so you can show them what a strong man who won't put up with such deceit and lies is really like (you are teaching them, especially your daughter, what happens to people who behave badly...). Do not do any of this for HER.
Author tomcatf14g Posted May 21, 2011 Author Posted May 21, 2011 ok i have to get this out because its killing me to keep it all in. last night when i got the kids what i didnt tell was that the house was trashed. that it reaked of urine and there was trash every where. there was hardly any food i the house and the kids rooms where so bad u coudnt even see the floor. I also discovered that during the week my wife will disappear for days on end to be with one of these guys she is seeing and leaves the kids with 2 16 yr olds that live there adn that they watch my children by locking them in their rooms. I cant take this anymore. i have seeked advice from members of my mens group, family, and my lawyer. they all feel that its time to bring in child proctive services. they all feel that my wife has become mentally unstable and extremely self destructive. they all agree that it cant be me that is the one to report her either and that the only way to force her to get the help she so desperatly needs is to take this course of action. I dont want to take my children from my wife. i dont want to cause further destruction in my family but i feel i can no longer stand aside and watch my kids be put in this kind of danger. Ive prayed about this and i feel that God also wills this to happen. for once everyone i know is in aggreament with something concerning my family. It pains me dearly to sit and watch my wife do this to herself. to see what this has been doing to my children. to have to make such a major descion. Ive asked God if this is his will to give me strength so i can go thru with it. If he has other plans to bring my wife and i back together ive asked him to snap her out of this path of destruction before i get the ball moving. cause once CPS is involved there will be no turning back. Im confused, hurt and deeply bothered by what i must do in order to protect my children. I hope that this will become the wake up call that my wife so desperatly needs.
TMCM Posted May 21, 2011 Posted May 21, 2011 ok i have to get this out because its killing me to keep it all in. last night when i got the kids what i didnt tell was that the house was trashed. that it reaked of urine and there was trash every where. there was hardly any food i the house and the kids rooms where so bad u coudnt even see the floor. I also discovered that during the week my wife will disappear for days on end to be with one of these guys she is seeing and leaves the kids with 2 16 yr olds that live there adn that they watch my children by locking them in their rooms. I cant take this anymore. i have seeked advice from members of my mens group, family, and my lawyer. they all feel that its time to bring in child proctive services. they all feel that my wife has become mentally unstable and extremely self destructive. they all agree that it cant be me that is the one to report her either and that the only way to force her to get the help she so desperatly needs is to take this course of action. I dont want to take my children from my wife. i dont want to cause further destruction in my family but i feel i can no longer stand aside and watch my kids be put in this kind of danger. Ive prayed about this and i feel that God also wills this to happen. for once everyone i know is in aggreament with something concerning my family. It pains me dearly to sit and watch my wife do this to herself. to see what this has been doing to my children. to have to make such a major descion. Ive asked God if this is his will to give me strength so i can go thru with it. If he has other plans to bring my wife and i back together ive asked him to snap her out of this path of destruction before i get the ball moving. cause once CPS is involved there will be no turning back. Im confused, hurt and deeply bothered by what i must do in order to protect my children. I hope that this will become the wake up call that my wife so desperatly needs. This situation is similar to that of my first wife. On the occasions when our daughters were in her care, she took off with her lovers and left our daughters alone. I finally grew a pair and contacted CPS and they sent a case worker who interview our daughters and later on my ex-wife. The case worker filed a very scathing report in which she plainly stated that my ex-wife should be charged with child neglect and endangerment, as well to have me given physical custody of our daughters until a final judgement was issued regarding custody of the children. Luckily the judge agreed and she gave me sole physical custody of our girls. Forget about your STBXW, just like my ex-wife, she will have to hit rock bottom before she is ready to accept the fact that she's got serious issues that she must address and resolve through intensive psychological therapy. I urge you to contact your local child protective services IMMEDIATELY. If something happens to your children because you failed to act to protect them, then you will have to live with the consequences for the rest of your life. Good luck.
y2k Posted May 21, 2011 Posted May 21, 2011 ok i have to get this out because its killing me to keep it all in. last night when i got the kids what i didnt tell was that the house was trashed. that it reaked of urine and there was trash every where. there was hardly any food i the house and the kids rooms where so bad u coudnt even see the floor. I also discovered that during the week my wife will disappear for days on end to be with one of these guys she is seeing and leaves the kids with 2 16 yr olds that live there adn that they watch my children by locking them in their rooms. I cant take this anymore. i have seeked advice from members of my mens group, family, and my lawyer. they all feel that its time to bring in child proctive services. they all feel that my wife has become mentally unstable and extremely self destructive. they all agree that it cant be me that is the one to report her either and that the only way to force her to get the help she so desperatly needs is to take this course of action. I dont want to take my children from my wife. i dont want to cause further destruction in my family but i feel i can no longer stand aside and watch my kids be put in this kind of danger. Ive prayed about this and i feel that God also wills this to happen. for once everyone i know is in aggreament with something concerning my family. It pains me dearly to sit and watch my wife do this to herself. to see what this has been doing to my children. to have to make such a major descion. Ive asked God if this is his will to give me strength so i can go thru with it. If he has other plans to bring my wife and i back together ive asked him to snap her out of this path of destruction before i get the ball moving. cause once CPS is involved there will be no turning back. Im confused, hurt and deeply bothered by what i must do in order to protect my children. I hope that this will become the wake up call that my wife so desperatly needs. DOCUMENT all of this (pictures, video, etc). Maybe this is what you'll need to get full custody of the kids. As for your wife, don't even consider going back with her. Let her live her live. Now your concern is your kids. Good luck.
John Michael Kane Posted May 22, 2011 Posted May 22, 2011 Dude you need to report this. She's putting your children's life in danger like she did when you didn't know about her cheating. This is your children for god's sake. Stop being so soft and afraid to hurt your wife, and report this to child protective services! Her ass needs to be locked up for good.
Entropy3000 Posted May 22, 2011 Posted May 22, 2011 ok i have to get this out because its killing me to keep it all in. last night when i got the kids what i didnt tell was that the house was trashed. that it reaked of urine and there was trash every where. there was hardly any food i the house and the kids rooms where so bad u coudnt even see the floor. I also discovered that during the week my wife will disappear for days on end to be with one of these guys she is seeing and leaves the kids with 2 16 yr olds that live there adn that they watch my children by locking them in their rooms. I cant take this anymore. i have seeked advice from members of my mens group, family, and my lawyer. they all feel that its time to bring in child proctive services. they all feel that my wife has become mentally unstable and extremely self destructive. they all agree that it cant be me that is the one to report her either and that the only way to force her to get the help she so desperatly needs is to take this course of action. I dont want to take my children from my wife. i dont want to cause further destruction in my family but i feel i can no longer stand aside and watch my kids be put in this kind of danger. Ive prayed about this and i feel that God also wills this to happen. for once everyone i know is in aggreament with something concerning my family. It pains me dearly to sit and watch my wife do this to herself. to see what this has been doing to my children. to have to make such a major descion. Ive asked God if this is his will to give me strength so i can go thru with it. If he has other plans to bring my wife and i back together ive asked him to snap her out of this path of destruction before i get the ball moving. cause once CPS is involved there will be no turning back. Im confused, hurt and deeply bothered by what i must do in order to protect my children. I hope that this will become the wake up call that my wife so desperatly needs. CPS. If it helps see this as a sign from God. CPS. Just do it. Now.
Chi townD Posted May 23, 2011 Posted May 23, 2011 ok i have to get this out because its killing me to keep it all in. last night when i got the kids what i didnt tell was that the house was trashed. that it reaked of urine and there was trash every where. there was hardly any food i the house and the kids rooms where so bad u coudnt even see the floor. I also discovered that during the week my wife will disappear for days on end to be with one of these guys she is seeing and leaves the kids with 2 16 yr olds that live there adn that they watch my children by locking them in their rooms. I cant take this anymore. i have seeked advice from members of my mens group, family, and my lawyer. they all feel that its time to bring in child proctive services. they all feel that my wife has become mentally unstable and extremely self destructive. they all agree that it cant be me that is the one to report her either and that the only way to force her to get the help she so desperatly needs is to take this course of action. I dont want to take my children from my wife. i dont want to cause further destruction in my family but i feel i can no longer stand aside and watch my kids be put in this kind of danger. Ive prayed about this and i feel that God also wills this to happen. for once everyone i know is in aggreament with something concerning my family. It pains me dearly to sit and watch my wife do this to herself. to see what this has been doing to my children. to have to make such a major descion. Ive asked God if this is his will to give me strength so i can go thru with it. If he has other plans to bring my wife and i back together ive asked him to snap her out of this path of destruction before i get the ball moving. cause once CPS is involved there will be no turning back. Im confused, hurt and deeply bothered by what i must do in order to protect my children. I hope that this will become the wake up call that my wife so desperatly needs. DUDE!!! REALLY!?!?! This isn't about you and her anymore. Your children are being neglected and more than likely abused!!! RE_READ YOUR POST!!! There's no food in the house, they're living in flith and they're being locked in there rooms for days!! THEY SHOULDN'T BE PRISONER'S IN THEIR OWN HOME! You need to put your feelings for your WW aside and think about those kids. SHE DID THIS, not you. YOU need to protect those kids, YOU need to rescue them. You need to be more than a man right now, you need to be their father!
John Michael Kane Posted May 23, 2011 Posted May 23, 2011 This is ridiculous. A man won't even save his own children from an irresponsible woman. What has this world come to.
2long Posted May 23, 2011 Posted May 23, 2011 Tom: Protect your kids first and foremost. That means call CPS and get your lawyer 2 help you seek sole custody of them. About 20 years ago, my W and I had 2 call CPS on her brother and his wife. They were divorcing, but my BIL is schizophrenic and wasn't doing anything about it. He would break in 2 the house 2 get his tools and stuff, rather than call and arrange 2 pick them up when she was home. And she wouldn't stop blaming him for not having enough money 2 live like she wanted 2, all while dating coworkers (which started while they were still married). It all came 2 a head when she got depressed over Christmas and threatened 2 kill the kids and herself. CPS removed the kids immediately, put the girls in the girls' county home and her son in the boys' county home. We picked them up 2 stay with us every weekend we could. Their mom pulled herself 2gether over the next several months and was able 2 take the girls back. But her son was the oldest and sort of a rebellious teen at the time, so he was in the home for about another year. We continued 2 take him whenever we could, then got approval 2 have him live with us and finish high school about 10 years ago. They're all great adults now, and out on their own. They have a good relationship with their mom, who remarried and even completed a college degree. Sadly, their dad still lives in his car, and does odd jobs for people. His kids haven't seen him in years. -ol' 2long
OldOnTheInside Posted May 23, 2011 Posted May 23, 2011 I genuinely hope that the OP is just a troll. A very dedicated troll.
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