orangelady Posted April 27, 2011 Posted April 27, 2011 I feel as I grow older, I'm even more concerned about how I look as compared to my teenage years because I simply haven't got someone. I know its 'negative' to think that way but when I'm out on the streets or in the mall, I am surrounded with people who are beautiful and it kinda just makes you feel so ****ty. How do I stop thinking about it, it's so hard to ignore it - it's in my face all the time. I feel like "Oh there goes another hot chick..with her bf.. whenever I see one. How does everyone else on here feel, truthfully? This is just what I feel deep inside of my heart, and no, I'm not this negative in real life, it's just one of those feelings I'd reveal online anonymously and not in real life.
Duckduckgoose Posted April 27, 2011 Posted April 27, 2011 I am pretty decent looking... between a 6 and 8 on most guy's scales. And seeing the hot chicks with their boyfriends doesn't bother me... it's the butt-****ing ugly chicks, the nasty ones who don't care for their appearance with good looking guys that pisses me off. I tend to get hit on a few times a week, and mostly brush it off. If it gets to be too much I will say something. As for worrying about your looks, just play up what you know you have... be it boobs, butt, face, tight body... whatever. Chances are the married men will be doing most of the staring and while I would not become involved with a MM its really funny when they can't keep their eyes to themselves.
radiodarcy Posted April 27, 2011 Posted April 27, 2011 hey orangelady, i know what you mean. i've always been insecure about my looks. i used to be really heavy - - lost a bunch of weight but i still feel just as insecure about my looks. i have to say -- seeing hot chicks with their bfs doesnt really bother me quite as much as it used to. i'm not sure why. maybe because as i get older (turned 35 in feb) i've learned not to care as much about what people think anymore. i think "oh well - - she's hot, i'm not - - moving on" then i go get an ice cream on the other hand - - i felt one quart low when my ex used to say stuff about wanting to f**** the sh** out of halle berry and monica bellucci. but i think it's normal for me to feel that anyway. and now that i'm in NC i'm so glad i don't have to hear that nonsense anymore. come to think of it - - i'm even more glad i don't have to listen to his unrealistic expectations to begin with. i mean -- i take care of myself go to the gym - - i work with what i've got. and most importantly i try to stay focused on my own interests instead of wondering if guys find me attractive or not. people come and go but i only have myself. i rarely get hit on. but when i do -- the thrill doesn't really last. because i'm only getting attention for what's on the surface - - not for what lies beneath
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