Johnny85 Posted April 27, 2011 Posted April 27, 2011 One thing that I have noticed, more often than not, is that usually when I start talking to a woman that I don't know well, she will start talking about her boyfriend. Even when a woman shows signs of interest (3 or more), conveyed in body language, such as touching her hair or my arm/shoulder when I speak, this happens! It has even happened when getting a hair cut for Pete's sake. lol Why is this? Do many women feel guilty talking to a guy when they have a SO? There is obviously a pattern here; whenever I start speaking to someone new, I can almost count the seconds before the dreaded "My boyfriend and I love to...) pops up. Why ladies?
alexandra. Posted April 27, 2011 Posted April 27, 2011 I suspect that it is some combination of: 1. He is a big part of her life/social life and she can't help but mention him 2. One some level she wants to make it known that she is desirable to others. 3. She wants to make it known that she is off-limits for dating you. The relative quantities of these variables of course depends on the girl.
Lilmisus Posted April 27, 2011 Posted April 27, 2011 Many girls just love talking and flirting with guys, but they want them to know that hey...it's stopping there, and to not get any ideas. I know that some guys would complain if I didn't let them know that I was in a relationship within the first however long of talking to them. Some feel led on if you don't drop that bomb sooner rather than later..so just be thankful that no girl was trying to lead you on
USMCHokie Posted April 27, 2011 Posted April 27, 2011 I suspect that it is some combination of: 1. He is a big part of her life/social life and she can't help but mention him 2. One some level she wants to make it known that she is desirable to others. 3. She wants to make it known that she is off-limits for dating you. The relative quantities of these variables of course depends on the girl. 4. She lacks basic conversation skills and is otherwise completely unremarkable and/or has nothing else going for her.
Author Johnny85 Posted April 27, 2011 Author Posted April 27, 2011 4. She lacks basic conversation skills and is otherwise completely unremarkable and/or has nothing else going for her. LOL that is funny:p
USMCHokie Posted April 27, 2011 Posted April 27, 2011 LOL that is funny:p And sadly true in some cases...
Vixen Gemma Posted April 27, 2011 Posted April 27, 2011 The only way I'll bring that up is if the guy is hitting on me and I say "I have a boyfriend." Other than that I really don't care to bring it up.
dispatch3d Posted April 27, 2011 Posted April 27, 2011 its only annoying if its really blatant, and you weren't hitting on them. I kinda get a **** off attitude for some reason haha. Dunno, guess I'm overly defensive at times.
Author Johnny85 Posted April 27, 2011 Author Posted April 27, 2011 its only annoying if its really blatant, and you weren't hitting on them. I kinda get a **** off attitude for some reason haha. Dunno, guess I'm overly defensive at times. Usually, I will bring up a topic, for instance, traveling to Europe, and the girl will respond by saying, "Oh, how wonderful, my boyfriend and I." lol
Enchanted Girl Posted April 27, 2011 Posted April 27, 2011 Because women talk and think about men a whole lot in general. When girls get together, we spend a lot of time talking about guys. Because we tend to overanalyze everything they do and spend a lot of time trying to understand them and relate to them, so when we have a boyfriend, we usually bring him up a lot in conversation. Also, a lot of girls get obsessive with boyfriends and make THEM their social life. One of my good friends in person got a boyfriend and started doing this. It makes me sad. I miss her. I stopped doing this although I used to do it all the time and I've been accused now of leading men on because of it like someone mentioned earlier. But I refuse to sit around talking about my boyfriend to other people unless they are really close female friends. Because men don't sit around talking about me and it makes me feel extremely whipped or something while they are holding me at arm's length.
soulm8 Posted April 27, 2011 Posted April 27, 2011 One thing that I have noticed, more often than not, is that usually when I start talking to a woman that I don't know well, she will start talking about her boyfriend. Even when a woman shows signs of interest (3 or more), conveyed in body language, such as touching her hair or my arm/shoulder when I speak, this happens! It has even happened when getting a hair cut for Pete's sake. lol Why is this? Do many women feel guilty talking to a guy when they have a SO? There is obviously a pattern here; whenever I start speaking to someone new, I can almost count the seconds before the dreaded "My boyfriend and I love to...) pops up. Why ladies? A couple things come to mind... - you're coming across to them as if you're trying to hit on them/pick them up, so they're letting you know not to try too hard. - they're attracted to you and feel as if letting you know they're "taken" sets the record straight. - some women simply play games and want to see how you react to the statement. Oh... that reminds me... my boyfriend and I love to ...
Author Johnny85 Posted April 27, 2011 Author Posted April 27, 2011 A couple things come to mind... - you're coming across to them as if you're trying to hit on them/pick them up, so they're letting you know not to try too hard. - they're attracted to you and feel as if letting you know they're "taken" sets the record straight. - some women simply play games and want to see how you react to the statement. Oh... that reminds me... my boyfriend and I love to ... Haha your last sentence is classic!
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