bookscent Posted April 26, 2011 Posted April 26, 2011 Hi everyone, I've recently started a long distance relationship with my boyfriend. It's pretty difficult for us to chat with each other because there's a 12 hour time difference between us (he lives in Asia and I'm in North America). The other day we were supposed to have a Skype date when it was morning here for me and night time there for him. However, I guess I signed on a bit too late, because he told me that he had work tomorrow and had to get up early, so couldn't stay up much longer. He also admitted he was feeling tired. I felt bad that I didn't come on earlier, so before he headed off to bed I asked him if it would be alright if I just called him to wish him a good night. He didn't respond for several minutes, and after that I told him it was alright if he was uncomfortable with it, and that I just felt guilty for not being able to talk to him. He assured me it was alright and we agreed that next week might be a better time for us to have a real call over Skype, since his work schedule will be a bit more accommodating. We ended the chat shortly after, but I guess I felt a little upset that he didn't seem to want to talk - not only for a few minutes. I'm trying to be understanding. I know his job is stressful and that it's been messing with his sleep schedule, and that sometimes when he's tired he simply doesn't feel like talking to anyone. We still keep in touch through email, but we haven't had a real talk on Skype for several weeks. He's the sort of guy who prefers quality over quantity, though, so perhaps he didn't feel it was a good idea to call him because he wouldn't be in the mood to talk. I'm trying to let it go and telling myself this is just a small issue, but I can't help myself from overanalyzing the situation. He said he'd tell me his work schedule for next month when he knows it and we'll arrange for a Skype date then. So, I guess I'm just going to wait until that happens. In the meantime, though, I'd appreciate any insight, advice, or suggestions about my situation or how I'm feeling. I'm naturally a very neurotic person, so I'm probably overthinking this, but I just need some reassurance that things like this in a long distance relationship are normal and to be expected. Thanks for reading.
TokyoG33kyGal Posted April 27, 2011 Posted April 27, 2011 hi, my fiance and i have 15 hour difference. we have our schedule of voice/web/gaming chats every Saturday (his Saturday night and my Sunday morning). during weekdays we chat on messenger while i am at work lol. then some e-mails, short phone calls and FB comments in between. we do not have a fix time except for those voice chats on weekends. there are times too that he is tired and since he is normally the one who sacrifices his sleep at night, i let him be when he is heading to bed. most of the guys i dated too aren't too much of a night person so when they say they are tired, they are tired. what you could do though is apologize and make up for it. when my fiance cannot make it on time or he would go out with his family or friends, he tells me he will make up for it and comes online early the next day. yeah i know you already did this by offering him a call but it's just bad timing.
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